<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="01" > Mr. Wang Zengqi recalled his father, he said: "Father and son have become brothers for many years." </h1>
By extension, mother and daughter can become sisters for many years. But there is also a saying that we often say, "No matter how old you are, in the eyes of your parents, you will always be a child." ”
Whether it is to treat children as children forever, always hold them in the palm of their hands, or treat their children as equals, parents and children grow into an equal "brother" and "sister" relationship, I think the love of parents should be to stimulate the child's life motivation, so that the child has the ability to feel life.
75 years old, in the eyes of ordinary people, should be an old man, but in the eyes of the 102-year-old father, he is only a child who needs to be cared for. The Indian film "Dad 102" tells us the story of a father who is 102 years old and psychologically aged 26 and finds a way to activate the vitality of his 75-year-old son Babu.
After the father found that he had a tumor in his brain, he could not let go of his son Babu, who had lost his vitality more and more, so he set up a bureau to send his son to the "Sunset Red Nursing Home", let the son complete the transformation task he set, let Babu stay away from the doctor, recall love, say goodbye to old things, and break the hopeless expectations and face reality.
When The Báb did all this, he did overcome himself, overcame the fear, loss and pain he had in life, and regained the joy and vitality of life. The whole film tells a warm story in a light humor, and also guides the audience to think about the topic of "the growth of the elderly".
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="02" > Nietzsche said: Every day that does not dance is a failure of life. </h1>
Our life is like the cycle of four seasons, young people like spring, innocent and romantic, young people like summer, enthusiasm like fire, middle-aged people like golden autumn, fruitful, and the elderly like winter, experienced the growth of spring, summer and autumn, more mature and wise.
Although the elderly have experienced a lot in their lives, but the growth of life is not over, perhaps the body has begun to age, but the mind still needs vitality. As the 102-year-old dad actor Amidap Ba Qiang said: "No one can prescribe how people should live their lives when they are old, and I firmly believe that [Dartley] will be my future self." ”
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="03" > Nick Hu Zhe once said: Don't set limits on life. </h1>
We parents love our children, we should not set limits on their children's lives, but should stimulate their own vitality and guide them to explore the direction and value of life. And we adults should also be more examples for children and strive to live our own wonderful.
Nowadays, many parents and friends are caught in the anxiety of "losing at the starting line", spending a lot of money to let children go to early education classes and kindergartens, but when they accompany their children, they still let the children play alone, but they are busy brushing Weibo and playing vibrato; some advocate the concept of "more skills are not pressed" in the adult world, to have more skills than others for children who will go to society in the future, and should be carefree childhood is occupied by a special course and interest class, Saturday and Sunday are busy with "continuous rotation"; and some are beautiful for children, Working outside for many years, don't say go home to see the children, the phone is not much, the children are lost to the elderly, and finally only the "empty nest" elderly and left-behind children are left at home.
More friends, seem to be very concerned about the growth of children, children's material needs to be satisfied at the first time, children need to be accompanied by care and timely accompaniment, children encounter difficulties to help solve in time, children willful and wrong to the maximum tolerance, treat children as if they were treasures, but children in the team are difficult to get along, in the face of practical problems but helpless, in the face of difficult measures but withdraw and avoid, seemingly unlimited tolerance of children, but really limit the growth of children.
Love children, give children vitality, not to pull seedlings to promote growth, but to wait for flowers to bloom;
Not to cultivate Superman, but to inspire self-confidence;
Don't make a lot of money, but warm companionship;
It is not infinite coddling and indulgence, but the need to "gently insist" and "let go at the right time".
Satya, a famous American family therapist, said: "I think, love you without grabbing you, appreciate you without criticizing you, participate with you without forcing you, leave you without apologizing, help you without looking down on you, then our relationship is sincere and can nourish each other." ”
This is to tell us that care within the family needs to be genuinely co-ordinated and communicate naturally, promoting that all people can become an independent, unique and energetic person. Dr. Lin Wencai proposed that parents should provide their children with five kinds of "psychological nutrition", and the five "psychological nutrition" are "unconditional acceptance" "At this moment, in your life, I am the most important", "sense of security", "affirmation, praise, recognition" and "learning, cognition, model". With these "psychological nutrition", children can gradually move towards independence and self-confidence, otherwise, there will be "malnutrition" in the future.
In the movie, the 102-year-old Dartley eventually died, but the postcard he sent from the Highland Post Office, Babu has received it, and the once lifeless Babu once again showed a long-lost smile. Dartley finally said to his son: As long as you can live, don't die. Yes, because of love, we all have to live well and live our wonderful lives.
Original: Idiot Teacher