When we meet a person, we will say that it is because of fate that two people meet. Leaving a person, we can only sigh: "This is all fate and no part." Some of the things that we cannot do can only be attributed to fate.
Are all encounters and separations in this world manipulated by fate? In fact, it may not be so when you think about it.
In the movie "To Youth", Chen Xiaozheng and Zheng Wei met in college and changed from a pair of "sworn enemies" to "lovers". When Chen Xiaozheng was graduating, he was faced with the choice of studying abroad, and finally he gave up his love with Zheng Wei and chose his own future.
The two met because of fate, although the process was a little bumpy, but in the end they fell in love. Originally, I thought that the two lovers could fight side by side and fight together for the future, but in the end, they could only have a fate.
The seemingly simple cause and effect of fate and extinction are actually the beginning of the obsessions in the hearts of the two people.
At first, Chen Xiao hated Zheng Wei very much, but Zheng Wei was a person who did not accept defeat, knowing that the other party hated himself and would appear in front of the other party all day. It is precisely because of Zheng Wei's obsession that Chen Xiaozheng slowly let down his guard against her and fell in love with her.
But the disappearance of the final fate was something that could have been avoided, but Chen Xiaozheng could only give up Zheng Wei fiercely for his own future.
Chen Xiaozheng's obsession buried his love, although after many years he had a successful career and wanted to go back to pursue Zheng Wei again, but there was such a good thing in the world. Once some fates are missed, they are really missed, not that you regret it, you can let it return to the same place.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="39" > fate and needs to be cherished. </h1>
Gorky once said: "In life, all the good things we encounter in our lives are calculated in seconds." ”
When we encounter something beautiful, all we can do is cherish it. If you are not willing to cherish it, then every day you lose, you do not have to regret everything you have had, because all this is caused by the obsession in your heart, and you must bear it.
Just like Chen Xiaozheng, when he could have it, he chose to give up. When the career is completed, I realize what a precious thing I have lost, but even if I realize this, what is the use?
Love that happens to two people is called comedy, and love that happens to one person can only be a tragedy. From the day Chen Xiaozheng left, Zheng Wei had to accept the tragedy. Similarly, many years later, when Chen Xiaozheng regretted it, he should also bear this tragedy.
Two people may be doomed to meet, but after meeting, whether to grasp it or give up on it is the human factor.
Because of attachment, you can start a fate; because of attachment, you can also give up a fate. Those who do not know how to cherish can only accept the end of dependent arising and extinction.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="37" > let go of obsession to see more scenery. </h1>
Ruan Guan in "To Youth" is a big beauty, and she is also a goddess in the hearts of many boys in the school. Such a woman could have found a good object and lived a happy life, even if she was nearly thirty years old, she could find a person with good conditions to marry by virtue of her appearance and temperament.
But she is a very stubborn, very obsessive woman. Even though her boyfriend is cowardly and constantly making mistakes, she forgives him and always loves her.
If Ruan Guan is willing to put on this obsession and find his life again, he will definitely see more and more beautiful scenery.
Yishu said: "Life is only a few decades, the most important thing is to satisfy yourself, not to please others. ”
Some people are not suitable for being together, some fate is not worth keeping, and why should they be painstakingly guarded and miss their own lives?
Only by letting go of attachment can we stay away from harm; only by letting go of attachment can we see our own hearts clearly; only by letting go of attachment can we make our lives better.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="36" > since attachment is in the wrong direction, we should learn to be free. </h1>
Regarding love, Zhang Ailing said: "Love is not complicated, it comes and goes in three words, not I love you, I hate you, or forget it, are you okay, sorry." ”
In love, in fact, we should sometimes maintain such an attitude, since some things are not available, we do not have to force ourselves; since we have lost, we should say goodbye generously.
Blindly retaining will only make yourself more miserable and more humble. If a person's obsession is too deep, the deeper the degree of harm will eventually be. If you can let go of this obsession, everything will suddenly open up.
When we are together, we should cherish it well and keep this hard-won fate well. When the fate is lost, you can try to keep it, but you can't lose yourself, everything must have a bottom line, and you must maintain the minimum of sanity.
Just like Lin Xi: "Don't miss any teasing, and don't stay for anyone." ”
In this world, the person we should care about the most is ourselves. When encountering a relationship, you must consider your own needs, but also protect yourself and avoid unnecessary harm.
Life is our own bearing, no matter what the result, is also our own choice.
If letting go of attachment can make our lives easier and more comfortable, why should we insist on a relationship that we can't get?
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="31" > fate comes, learn to treat it kindly; fate is gone, but also know how to get together and disperse. </h1>
Although a period of fate will be scattered in the wind of the years, looking back, you can't see the traces of being together. But at least, each other once loved and worked hard, and now even if it is a regret, there is no need to regret it, let alone to insist on a past that has disappeared.
Fate, not just for a certain person. The passing of one fate means the beginning of the next.
In the process of dependent arising and extinction, we will learn some lessons and accumulate some experience. When we focus on the process of dependent arising and extinction, rather than on the obsession in our hearts, life will be clearer.