30 years old is a big hurdle in life, experiencing the changes in the workplace, the ups and downs of the love field, and the transformation of personal roles.
It has long faded the innocence of youth, the impulse of adolescence, and the confusion of graduation.
What does a woman look like at 30? Particularly fond of Yang Lan's description, she said:
"Thirty-year-old women should have composure, wisdom, and unspeakable sharpness in their eyes; well-dressed, exquisite ornaments, with an unobtrusive beauty; when they speak, their voices are not high, they are well organized, their words are precise, and at the same time they are full of sensibility and enthusiasm; and more importantly, thirty-year-old women should learn to be good listeners."
Yes, life has passed a third of the situation, naturally need to be understood.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="8">01 The eyes have light</h1>
Gautier said: "The eyes are transparent, and through them one can see the human mind. ”
"The eyes are the windows of the mind", through the eyes, you can see a lot of things.
A man whose eyes reveal composure, wisdom and sharpness that does not sting must be an extraordinary man.
Tarzan collapsed in front of him, and the face did not change color. For sudden changes, you can stabilize your body and mind and come out firmly.
30-year-old people have the accumulation of life and the wisdom of decisive decision-making. In terms of recognizing and identifying people, it is even more necessary to have its own standards for judging.
For people and things, they can distinguish clearly and clearly, and they can keep their hearts in the face of great right and wrong.
The eyes are light, sharp but not stinging.
The aggressive look has faded, leaving behind a self-knowledge of society, and of course full of hope.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="9" >02 Dress appropriately</h1>
At the age of 30, you should have requirements for your own clothing.
Find your own style, no longer the killing of Matt in the early years, nor to follow the fashion trend, but to have a style suitable for yourself, to be able to use your strengths and avoid weaknesses, and to show your body's strengths as much as possible.
With their own clothes, there are layers to buy clothes, no longer see good looks, and consider whether it is suitable for themselves, whether the style is good to match and other issues.
People who also know how to match, never bring jewelry, learned to match some "careful machines", knew that the belt is an important magic weapon to improve the waist line, and also learned to fold it, and can put simple clothes out of fashion.
Audrey Hepburn said: "I like manicures, I like to dress up, I like to wear lipstick even in my spare time, I like pink. I believe that happy girls are the most beautiful. “
There are no ugly women, only lazy women.
Dressed appropriately, the ornaments are exquisite, and the femininity of life is lived.
A person's requirements for his appearance can be seen in many things, people are visual animals, for that kind of exquisitely dressed people, we can't help but look at it a few times.
People who look average and don't know how to dress themselves can easily lose their personal charm.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="10" >03 is well expressed</h1>
Some people say that a person's cultivation is reflected in her speech.
As the saying goes: two years to learn to speak, a lifetime to learn to shut up.
It can be seen that speaking is an art that needs to be slowly understood. Of course, once mastered, it is extremely beneficial for yourself.
People who speak beautifully are often people who can do great things, because they know what to say and what not to say.
Dong Qing is such a woman, on the stage of "Readers", she interpreted the charm of Chinese culture, as well as her solid speaking skills, poetry and songs come with open mouths, and even a small opening sentence can make people feel deeply.
Being able to talk is like being able to do things, and it needs to be practiced.
Good expression, clear organization, need to have rigorous logic and a clear mind. And that's where you need to practice.
The beauty of the language is even more hidden in a person's cultural accomplishment.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="18" >04 Sensibility and enthusiasm</h1>
Women are sensual animals that value the expression and transmission of emotions.
The 30-year-old situation has made many people feel empathy, similar experiences, the same pain, let people find comfort.
But I don't know her personnel, don't laugh at her poorness.
Because of sensibility, many times it may flood with compassion, and sometimes when you encounter people who are similar to your own situation, you will pour the bitter water of your stomach like a gushing river.
As everyone knows, the other party just wants to find a solution in you, but does not want to become the "trash can" you talk about.
The mood that was supposed to be calmed down, because of the stories of pity for the same disease, could not help but shed tears of indisputable anger.
Proper sensibility is fine, but remember, not too much.
Of course, women also need to maintain their enthusiasm, whether it is for life or work.
James Allen said: "You are small when controlled by desire; you are great when aroused by passion." ”
Stay passionate about life and don't give up hope easily, and you'll reap a lot of things.
Maintain your enthusiasm for your work and find the direction of your life's struggle, and you will feel very happy.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="19" >05 Good listeners</h1>
Knowing that there is a high praise answer, it is like this:
"Effective communication starts with learning to listen."
Imagine that two people are chattering about themselves, and neither chooses to listen to the other's opinions first, and the final result will only be that the contradiction will become larger and larger.
In fact, it is not that they are not in love, but they are not willing to wait for each other, and they are not willing to listen to each other well.
Being a listener is difficult because it takes a lot of skill.
The other party is not a roundworm in your stomach, and it is impossible to say every word to your heart.
Especially for some views, the two sides disagree, and they are even more reluctant to listen well.
Just like sometimes children want to eat ice cream, but parents take the weather to cool, can not eat as a pretext, directly rejected the child, and even did not have the opportunity to explain to the child.
Imposing one's own opinion on others is a taboo for communication and a taboo for listening.
Listening is a virtue, but also an ability.
When you see this, you may feel that you have not been able to achieve those 5 points, and you may have lived in vain.
But in fact, I would like to borrow a classic line from the TV series "Thirty Only" to say:
"Everything in front of you now is only thirty."
Yeah, but it's 30 years old, you still have time, as long as you want to do it, any time you go, it's not too late.
It is important to have the action that sets out.
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