There are small divine beasts in the family, and in addition to arranging for good food, drink, and Lazar to sleep, they also have to accompany them wholeheartedly.
Is that enough? It is not enough at all, and you have to choose different upgrade monster fighting modes at each stage of your child's growth.
Especially in the terrible rebellious period, the originally obedient little baby is almost like a changed person, mixed to the point of heinousness.
Many old driver parents say: terrible two years old, there is no most bear, only more bear!
You think it's better to be two years old, you're still too naïve, and you're going to have an even more terrifying Hornible 3!
There are many rebellious periods in life, from the age of two to three, the baby's mind has entered a new stage of development, which is the first rebellious period of life, which is the necessary stage of the baby's mental growth, not the "deliberate, disobedient" and so on.
So, what are the manifestations and reasons for the baby's rebellious period?
01. "Don't", "No", "No, NO", resist whatever you say
Around the age of 3, the baby in the psychology, germination of independent consciousness, "self" feeling more and more strong, with the desire to be autonomous, do not want others to interfere, while the baby's exploration of the world is also increasing, curiosity is strong, everything to see and touch.
At this time, he did not want others to interfere with his actions, so once the exploration was opposed and stopped, there would be a phenomenon of resistance and resistance.
That's why he appeared to let him pack up the toys, "don't collect", eat, "don't eat", and drive the parents crazy every minute.
02. Everything is mine, everything I will do myself
This is also related to the desire for independence and the emergence of self-awareness, during which his self-esteem begins to appear and he is very self-centered.
But his own skills at this stage have not reached the stage of being completely autonomous, wanting to be autonomous and can not be autonomous, so there will be contradictions, the baby often does not know how to deal with this contradiction, want to do well, but can not do well, want to come by themselves, and their own attempts will often fail. Coupled with the fact that he does not express his emotions, he appears to have a bad temper.
03. Super sense of order
The baby is in a sensitive period of order at this time, and the sensitivity to order is also the baby's progress, so it will appear that the crayons at home must be placed neatly, and all his things must be placed in a fixed position, and once they change, they will collapse.
04. Moody collapse and cry when you don't agree
Babies in the rebellious period are like a landmine, if you are not careful, you will blow up!
One second it was still windy and sunny, and the next second it started to wrestle, crying pear blossoms with rain.
This is because the baby can not express emotions, self-esteem is very strong, when doing things badly, you need to find an outlet for emotions, collapse and crying is their way of catharsis.
So in the face of such a baby, how should parents cope? Here are a few ways to mark it.
First, understand the child's "collapse period" and accompany the child to spend it together
First of all, parents can first accept from the bottom of their hearts that the child is in a rebellious period, which is a necessary stage of his growth, and he himself cannot control himself, so that parents will understand the child, they are not deliberately crying, falling things, smashing things, but can not find the exit of their emotions.
Moreover, combined with their own experience, parents are often unable to effectively control their emotions, and they will be hysterical and collapsed in the face of things or conflicts, since they will be like this, the child is so small, and the poor self-control ability can also be understood.
Second, parents should calm down and not deal with them when they have emotions.
Many families are in such a situation: the child is angry, angry and crying, the parents can't stand it first, their own fire rubs upwards, at this time to deal with the child's problem, that is, both lose and lose, parents may speak ill of each other, or even fight, the child will be more collapsed.
This is very important, before dealing with the child's problems, parents first control their emotions, if angry, wait to calm down and then communicate with the child.
The same child also needs a time to vent his emotions, if it is only forced to "not cry", "cry what to cry", "how is this child of yours", similar to this, if you often can't control the mouth, then please calm down first, if you can't manage your emotions, why ask your child?
Third, divert attention, this trick is tried and tested for children.
Sometimes when you encounter children who have been crying and cannot be comforted, it is better to take a way to divert attention without listening to persuasion and unable to communicate positively. Pretend to ignore him, play a very fun game by yourself, or read a story with relish, exaggerated voices and expressions to attract the child's attention.
Generally children will be attracted, curious to come and see, this time with the trend to take the child to participate in the game or activity you want him to join, he has completely forgotten why he was crying at that time, instantly happy.
Fourth, give your child the opportunity and space to try, encourage more, and don't blindly stop it.
Respect the child's "autonomy" at this stage, give them the opportunity to try, encourage them to bear their own behavior, eat by themselves, dress themselves, brush their teeth, etc., do not deal with the child's things without his consent, believe that they have the ability to deal with and resolve their own problems, and give them the opportunity to try.
Fifth, provide options and try not to directly deny them
Any problem, if it is just a simple rejection or "say no" seems to be direct and simple, but for children, it is indeed a very negative feedback, even adults, do not want to be directly rejected.
At this stage, the child is also at the age of curiosity and exploration of the world, if you always say "this can't work" and "that can't", the child will also be very annoyed, arousing his rebellious psychology, he will not listen.
So, you can give your child options like ," Go to the supermarket today, do you want to buy a toy or a good one?" "Do we leave in ten minutes or twenty minutes?" At the same time, give specific expectations, you don't want him to do this, that let him do what, give specific instructions is a clear requirement.
Sixth, dialogue on an equal footing, telling your child in advance of the arrangements and steps
Really treat the child as an adult, rather than "arranging" him according to his own wishes.
For example, if you arrange a schedule for going out on a certain day, you can come to ask for your child's opinion in advance, join the place he wants to go, specifically describe what we want to do on this day, and for his requirements, you can also agree in advance, "This time you can only buy one thing you like", and abide by the agreement, do not easily change the itinerary for your own reasons.
Parenting first raises themselves, in the face of rebellious babies, not only need patience and companionship, but also need to have strategies and methods.
I hope that after the rebellious period, everyone can harvest another "angel baby"!
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