Mammoth News Oriental Today Chief Reporter Wu Jingjing/Wen Video
In everyone's impression, high-income artists should not have the pressure of no house and no car when they get married, but in "21 Days Before Marriage", there is a young actor couple who encountered the situation of "naked marriage". This is China's first marriage preparation life record reality show, the program records the whole process of four star couples preparing for the wedding, is preparing to get married after the 90s young actors Liu Yongxi, Li Jiaming, just in the wedding preparation encountered a lot of problems, buy a house or rent a house? How do you plan for the future? These are all fairly real problems. After the latest episode of the program was broadcast yesterday, Liu Yongxi's dispute with his father over the marriage issue also triggered heated discussion among netizens, and the intergenerational conflict also caused a lot of resonance. In this regard, the mammoth reporter also took note of Liu Yongxi and Li Jiaming, and asked them to respond to the practical problems encountered in the preparation of the wedding inside and outside the program.
Dad apologized to his daughter
"I especially want to go up and hug him!"
The incident that triggered the dispute was in the fifth episode that had just aired, when Liu Yongxi and his father quarreled over marriage. After the parents of the two sides met, Liu Yongxi's family came to the beach to talk, Liu Yongxi wanted to solve the problem of whether to accept the gift money given by Li Jiaming's family first, but Liu Dad thought that it was not clear what the two planned for the future, and there was no need to worry about the gift money. Seeing his daughter's attitude of not having the heart to discuss future planning, Liu's father was a little angry: "My adopted daughter is going to get married, can't I say anything?" The conversation reached a stalemate, Liu's father walked away alone, and Liu Yongxi also turned around angrily.
But after seeing his daughter shed tears, the distressed Father Liu took the initiative to apologize to Liu Yongxi and explained: "Old Liu was wrong, Old Liu was sorry for Little Liu." In fact, whatever we talk about today, our goal is the same, and we may have different directions. After the two reconciled, Liu's father also suggested to his daughter on the issue of gift money: "We can be a child's play for other things, and this marriage event must not be a child's play." Father Liu's reluctance and love for his children as a father have made many netizens cry out their heartache and are also very moved.
Speaking of this matter in the interview, Liu Yongxi said that after watching the show, he was also "crying a mess, and now I can especially understand my father's mood, and when my father apologized to me at that time, I especially wanted to go up and hug him", and also ridiculed myself that "it may be that he inherited his arrogance, and did not make such a move, but at that time my heart was melted." After that, Liu Yongxi sent a Weibo to thank his father: "We often quarrel, but we will be resolved in your love and tolerance for me", and Li Jiaming also said that "I will use all actions to prove to you and your uncle that your choice is correct".
Mammoth News: Does Yongxi now understand the father's reluctance to marry his daughter? Dad apologized to you, what was your thought at the time?
Liu Yongxi: I can especially understand my father's mood now, including after the show I actually understand him quite well, when my father apologized to me at that time, I especially wanted to go up and hug him, but it may be that he inherited his arrogance, I did not make this move, it seems that there is still a little bit of unforgiving, but at that time the heart was dissolved. At that time, I didn't understand why he asked me so many times, and kept repeating, and now I can understand my father's love for me.
Mammoth News: It seems that Lao Liu is a bit "jealous" in the program, and the sense of vision of the little cotton jacket being robbed, what is the feeling of the two after watching it?
Li Jiaming: I think a girl must eventually find a boy she loves and start a family. I think it's sooner or later, and if it's not me, it could be someone else, so I can't let her spend it on someone else's house. This jealous thing, vinegar shipwreckping...
Liu Yongxi: You want to let him know that you will not rob his daughter.
Li Jiaming: Yes, I think I want to give Father Liu a point of view that he feels that he has one more son, not that his daughter was robbed, that is, both of us are his children. I will definitely do everything possible for Swim Xi to be good to swim and be two men who love her together.
Mammoth News: In the program, JiaMing asked Yongxi's father to have dinner alone, and finally impressed Liu's father, was Jiaming very worried at that time?
Li Jiaming: I asked my uncle to dinner alone that day, in order to make some supplements, because when I met Xi Dad on the first day, I thought that the performance was very bad, that is, I looked uncomfortable, and then I was too humble and nervous, and I could feel it myself, so I wanted to save the first impression in my uncle's heart, to express more some views on the two of us together and some of my commitments to Yong Xi, I wanted my uncle to know some of my intentions. As far as possible, the uncle can let go of some of the burden and worry in his heart.
Mammoth News: What does Jiaming think will eventually impress his father-in-law?
Li Jiaming: I am a more action-oriented person, that is, I talk less in words and act more. The place where Yongxi's father is worried, in fact, I understand very well, that is, he feels that I may not have my own opinion, in fact, this is there, but the way I get along with Yongxi is that I give each other more respect.
Liu Yongxi: Jiaming is actually not without opinion, he impressed my father is actually my subtle, more than two years I have been talking to my parents, like Jiaming to give me the help in life, as well as some advice and help for my career, emotional, in fact, they are quite at ease with Jiaming.
Buying or renting?
"Choose a good value house to rent"
Marriage is not only a matter of two people, but also a matter of two families, as Mother Liu said, "You always ask the children if they are ready, so ask rhetorically, are you ready?" In fact, as a parent, Liu's father was not ready: "It seems that I have been thinking about her in my heart, that is my child, I think it is the best child under the heavens." The daughter is about to get married, the parents' questions and worries are behind the children's unreassurance, and what is shown to the audience is the father's unspoken love. Liu Yongxi also understands her parents more through the program in the continuous run-in of two generations, she sent a long post on Weibo to write down the subtext behind her father's reluctance and worry about herself: "To get married, the daughter should learn to grow up, life is not carried out according to a beautiful trajectory, many things Dad can not bear for you, in case unsatisfactory things happen, does the daughter have the courage to face it?" Will you come back to find Old Liu crying nose? Old Liu couldn't see his most beloved daughter going home with tears in her eyes... Daughter, think again, think clearly about remarrying."
In fact, parents are worried about their future is not unreasonable, because the actor is high-income, but also not very stable, Li Jiaming admitted that "it has not opened for half a year", but in the face of the future, the two are still full of confidence " We should only do a good job of ourselves, we plan our own path, and then we do our own business with our hearts."
Mammoth News: Regarding the naked marriage Swim Xi also mentioned in the show, there is also the issue of filming salary, has this situation improved at present? What do you think of this situation in the circle?
Liu Yongxi: Regarding the matter of naked marriage, the current situation seems even less optimistic. After the program was broadcast, some people also said that the average of ten thousand yuan a month, why is it so miserable? But what I want to say is, don't we have scenes every month? And it's not easy for young people to save money in such big cities.
Li Jiaming: Like the issue of actor's salary, I don't think it is something we should worry about, we should only do a good job, we plan our own path, and then we will do our own business with our hearts.
Liu Yongxi: I'm actually quite worried, I still want to increase the price.
Mammoth News: What's the hardest thing to ever experience?
Li Jiaming: The most difficult thing I have experienced may be to run for my livelihood in order to survive, not only to do the job of an actor, all the various industries and departments of film and television dramas have basically done it, like what recording, executive director, and like the group of actors, mass actors have done it, this time feels that it is the most difficult period of time. At that time, there was very little hope, and the money made was very small, and then I thought of some other ways to make a living, and I also did live broadcasting at that time.
Mammoth News: Yongxi mentioned earlier that he would rather rent a house he likes in the city center than buy a house in the suburbs, has this concept changed now? What does Jia Ming think of this view?
Li Jiaming: Yongxi definitely wants to have some of her own insistence and her own aesthetic, she hopes to be able to choose the house according to her own preferences, I also agree with this, we both have a very consistent point of view. About whether to buy the cheaper house or rent a better one...
Liu Yongxi: Look at whether to buy a house in the suburbs or rent a house in the city center.
Li Jiaming: Well, we young people still hope that their quality of life can be better, and in the case of trying to save, choose a house with a more suitable price-performance ratio to rent.
Liu Yongxi: Let me add, why do I care about the city center? I prefer the bustling feeling of the metropolis, life is very convenient, although I do not go out, but I feel that the kind of downtown house, there may be more happiness.
Mammoth News: How are you filming now? In the eyes of the public, actors are a particularly enviable industry, but now that you have encountered the current industry situation that is not optimistic, will you think of any way to face or overcome it?
Liu Yongxi: We are too miserable, now the film and television winter, before itself, we are not saying that the continuous file of the drama, now the film and television winter is even worse, we do not have any work arrangements behind us.
Li Jiaming: Plus now is a special period.
Liu Yongxi: Right. Mom and Dad are still giving us preventive injections, saying that you must do a good job in living a poor life, that is, to save more money, to run your own family better, and you can no longer consume as before, one person eats enough for the whole family and does not eat this mentality.
Li Jiaming: And it has not been open for half a year, and it has been unemployed for half a year.
Liu Yongxi: It's really miserable, I hope the film and television winter will pass quickly!
Looking forward to the reunion of the "Make Love" crew
"They will be invited to the wedding"
Although the economic situation is not very good, Liu Yongxi and Li Jiaming are still full of expectations for the future family life. For the post-marriage planning also has her own ideas, including the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Liu Yongxi is also prepared, she believes that the future relationship will be very harmonious: "Jiaming's mother so recognized me, in fact, the heart is particularly moved." If there is really some problem, Jiaming will come forward and then coax Jiaming's mother. ”
Due to the identity of the two actors, many times facing the situation of gathering less and leaving more, Li Jiaming also gave his love preservation secret: "Some of the words spoken by the other party, what the other party wants to do recently, and a sentence that comes out by chance, we will all care a lot." If the pace of career development of the two people in the future is not consistent, they also think of "countermeasures", "if one person develops a particularly good career, then the other person can retreat to the second line, can assist, can improve each other." The two of them were married by the drama "First Love of Chitose Adults", so they also said that they were "very much looking forward to the reunion of the crew of "Love" and said that they would invite their artists and friends to come to their wedding.
Mammoth News: In the program, I saw that Jiaming's parents like Yongxi very much, and when they met, they brought a large bag of bride price and gift money, did Yongxi worry about the future mother-in-law relationship?
Liu Yongxi: The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law does not seem to be as tense as imagined. I was definitely nervous before meeting, but seeing Jiaming's mother so enthusiastic and recognizing me, I was actually particularly touched in my heart. I think my aunt was also nervous that day, she was so nervous that she kept saying "thank you" to me, which made me a little embarrassed.
But I think it's actually quite warm, and I think the future relationship will be very harmonious. I can't imagine any extreme conflict now, I actually discussed this with Jiaming, if there is really some problem, Jiaming will come forward and then coax Jiaming's mother.
Mammoth News: Both are actors, in the state of gathering less and leaving more, how to keep the freshness of love?
Liu Yongxi: The two of us have our own mode of getting along with long-distance love, which can also be shared with you for reference. The first and last thing we do every morning and night to open and close our eyes is to send a message to each other, if in a different place, so that the other party can have a little comfort in his heart, he is the most important person in his heart, which is a little sense of ritual in our lives. Then we will spend a lot of days in the form of anniversaries, dating or sending small gifts to each other to commemorate.
Li Jiaming: More is to care about some details in each other's lives, some of the words spoken by the other party, what the other party wants to do recently, such as going to an amusement park, or a sentence that comes out by chance. Like Yongxi suddenly said what she wanted to eat, I would remember that I would learn to cook some dishes that she hadn't cooked before, and I think this is a sense of ceremony for both of us.
Mammoth News: Have you decided on what form and where the wedding will take place? Netizens are looking forward to the reunion of the "love" crew, is it possible?
Liu Yongxi: We are very much looking forward to the reunion of the "Love" crew, but the current situation is really not very allowable, and then we will also contact your artist friends.
Mammoth News: What should we do if we love and warm each other in difficult times, considering that the two people's careers are not synchronized in the future and bring crisis to their feelings?
Liu Yongxi: We definitely hope that we will develop better and better, but after all, we have a family, then we must have a clear division of labor for the sake of the family, if one person develops a particularly good career, then another person can go to the second line, can go to assist, can improve each other, I think this is not a contradiction, not a conflict, after all, the money he earns is also mine, the money I earn is also mine, right?
Li Jiaming: Yes, and it is that the two of us are getting better and better, but also for the sake of our family getting better and better, after our economic conditions are better, we will think more about each other.
Liu Yongxi: Regarding career, if one person is very busy when he is good, then another person can actually visit the shift, or change a type of work, I think it is all right.