In 1992, Zhang Ru, a rural girl, came to Changsha to work as a nanny at the Qin family.
The male and female masters of the Qin family are all serving in the organs, and the family is well-off.
After working for three years, the hostess of the Qin family offered to let her marry their disabled son Qin Tianyuan.
After thinking about it again, Zhang Ru agreed to their request,
But after 25 years of marriage, she faced the situation of being swept out of the house by her in-laws.
01
In July 2019, Zhang Ru's in-laws returned from the UK,
Since then, Zhang Ru has not been able to contact her husband Qin Tianyuan.
At that time, she did not know about the return of her in-laws and mother-in-law, and she thought that something had happened to her husband.
A year later, the mother-in-law contacted Zhang Ru and told her that her son did not live with Zhang Ru and wanted a divorce.
Qin Tianyuan also wrote the divorce agreement in his own handwriting and handed it to Zhang Ru for her to sign.
Today, she is the only one left in the family of three living alone in the rental house.
After marrying into the Qin family, Zhang Ru has been living with her in-laws and in-laws.
In 2009, the in-laws drove Zhang Ru out of the house.
At that time, several people in the family beat her, and she couldn't stand such a nest and left the Qin family.
Zhang Ru's father-in-law is a retired cadre, and the old couple lives in a large house of 180 square meters.
Contrary to their situation, Zhang Ru's family of three has been living in a rental house since they left their mother-in-law's house.
Because of the long time, Zhang Ru couldn't remember what the reason for hitting her was, and the cause seemed to be a very small thing.
However, after living in her in-laws' family for more than ten years, she lived a very depressed life.
The mother-in-law often quarreled with her, losing her clothes today, losing cotton thread tomorrow, and blaming Zhang Ru's head for everything.
The in-laws had just returned from England, and the husband left the house and filed for divorce.
Zhang Ru felt that this was instigated by her in-laws behind her back.
02
As soon as she saw her daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law pushed the reason for her son's divorce on Zhang Ru:
"It's you who don't want to be with my son, it's you who withdrew!"
"You don't share a bed with him yourself!"
The mother-in-law said that after she and her husband returned from Britain, they found that their son was much older, obviously a 50-year-old man, but like a 70-year-old man, thin enough to only have bones left.
When the old man was still in England, Qin Tianyuan called her:
"Mom, come back quickly, or I'll die!"
Speaking of the reasons for the divorce, Qin Tianyuan on the side was very excited,
Although he has limited ability to express himself, he still loudly accuses Zhang Ru of cheating.
Qin Tianyuan said that he had no solid evidence.
But he once followed Zhang Ru and found that she was very close to a strange man.
Zhang Ru is very aggrieved, these years she went out to work to support the family, but also to take care of the disabled husband, how her own conduct, colleagues can testify for themselves, husband's accusations are all catching wind and shadows.
She explained, and on the other hand, she said that she was not ashamed,
But the excited Qin Tianyuan refused to listen to his wife's explanation, and the mother-in-law beside her also coldly interrupted her:
"He also said that you are not ashamed, you are just lacking in morality!"
"Everyone else told me that she (Zhang Ru) dressed like a 20-year-old girl and wore a miniskirt!"
03
Qin Tianyuan said that when he left his wife, they had not been in the same bed for half a year, and he suspected that there was something wrong with his wife!
He found that Zhang Ru had to go out every night, and Zhang Ru told him that he was going out for a walk.
But Qin Tianyuan did not think so:
"Why are you walking so well dressed!" I also put on lipstick and draw eyebrows! You go out at six o'clock at night! ”
"I called, and a man answered and told her to get up!"
Qin Tianyuan decided that his wife must have cheated!
The mother-in-law said that the two have not been together since 2018.
It was not zhang Ru at all who said, his son separated after he returned to China,
She felt that her son's marriage did not need to continue:
"What does he want you to do?" You're not with him! ”
The mother-in-law said that Zhang Ru had been in her home for more than 20 years, and her grandchildren were already 23 years old.
Son and daughter-in-law, one with a disability, one who did not have a job at first,
The family of three, including Zhang Ru, is raised by the in-laws and in-laws.
Zhang Ru did not spend a penny on her in-laws' house, but she always quarreled with them and did not want to live with them.
Qin Tianyuan said angrily:
"She just wants the family property!"
"My parents are still here, and she wants the family property!"
Originally, Zhang Ru had made a request that her in-laws transfer the house to Qin Tianyuan's name, which made her in-laws and husband very dissatisfied.
Zhang Ru admitted that she had made such a request because her mother-in-law was too strong.
The mother-in-law always said that she stole things, today the cotton thread was not seen, tomorrow the necklace was gone, she could not really integrate into the family.
Zhang Ru wanted to defend herself, and her mother-in-law said that she was sharp-mouthed.
One day when she was cooking in the kitchen, her mother-in-law hit her head with a mop as soon as she came in and pushed her to the cupboard.
After this incident, Zhang Ru re-examined her situation in this family and decided to move out of the family of three.
04
When Qin Tianyuan was 1 year old, he was physically disabled because of his high fever.
In order to find a daughter-in-law who is willing to take care of her son, Qin Tianyuan's parents began to look for candidates extensively in the countryside.
In this way, under the introduction of relatives, 22-year-old Zhang Ru walked into the Qin family.
Counting up, Zhang Ru and the Qin family are still distant relatives.
In the beginning, she was the housekeeper's nanny of the Qin family.
During the period of being a nanny, Zhang Ru was honest and dutiful, Quiet and calm, and Qin's father and mother were very satisfied.
After living for three years, Zhang Ru agreed to Qin's mother's request and became the daughter-in-law of the Qin family.
But before they got the license, the two began to fight, and Qin Mu was not very happy with this daughter-in-law, and her heart was a little shaken.
But Qin's father insisted on keeping Zhang Ru because he was worried that his son would not find a suitable partner.
After getting married, Zhang Ru left home without moving, and could not live with the Qin family until finally she had to live separately from her in-laws.
Listening to her mother-in-law's words, Zhang Ru shook her head vigorously,
The reason for leaving was that she couldn't stand the strong mother-in-law and wanted to escape from this depressed home, their small family, completely under her own efforts, to maintain a complete home.
But the mother-in-law scoffed:
"Still a complete home, what are you complete!"
"(Grandson) I raised for you, are you responsible?"
"Logically, he (Qin Tianyuan) is half out, and you are out of half?"
The mother-in-law said that in order to stabilize her daughter-in-law and maintain her son's home, she let her daughter leave home to live and send Zhang Ru to study, and after Zhang Ru moved away, she took on the tuition and living expenses of her grandson, and also helped Zhang Ru's maternal relatives, and some people laughed at her:
"Your brain is in the water, and you are also pulling the gap between your son and daughter-in-law!"
But the mother-in-law has her own plans:
"I said I wanted to give this piece of heaven to her (Zhang Ru) in the future!"
"We can't move in the future, and she can still take care of me."
"I definitely want her to take care of my son."
But Zhang Ru did not care about her mother-in-law's intentions, and even regretted it.
The mother-in-law angrily rebuked Zhang Ru:
"Do you say I give more or does she give more?" I was together for the two of them, and I thought terribly to stabilize her because my son is disabled! ”
"She's an ungrateful woman!"
The mother-in-law felt that her daughter settled in Britain and was far away from them, and they still counted on Zhang Ru in the future.
His family's current property will be his son and grandson in the future, Zhang Ru should not be so anxious, he should look at it in the long run.
The old man felt that his son was disabled and in a weak position, so they chose to find a girl who was willing to take care of her son.
After getting married, I was worried that my son would suffer losses in life, and a little wind and grass made my mother-in-law very sensitive.
The father-in-law actually did not want his son to divorce, and he persuaded his wife:
"She's just not polite."
He also hinted at Zhang Ru, bowed his head to confess his mistake to his mother-in-law, and lived a good life with his son.
But the mother-in-law is very dissatisfied with her husband's compromise:
"My son is disabled! Where to make her win! ”
"She (Zhang Ru) came out with a fruit knife, did you see it?" You take care of it, the two of them are together! ”
Under the pressure of his wife, the father-in-law finally stopped saying a word.
05
Zhang Ru said that when she first worked as a nanny in the Qin family, she did not pay her salary on time, but when she returned home for the New Year, her mother-in-law gave her 200 yuan and bought her a ticket.
She accepted her husband because she wanted to get out of the countryside:
"It's muddy to do farm work, and it's easier to work here than there."
Getting rid of the identity of rural people and living a worry-free life was the dream of countless rural people in that era.
So as soon as her mother-in-law proposed this idea, she agreed.
Zhang Ru is willing to run his own small family well,
In the beginning, both the husband and the in-laws were fine to her.
But later, Zhang Ru found that the class is not so easy to cross,
Her main role in this family is to be a free babysitter, doing laundry, cooking, and taking care of everyone's life.
After giving birth to a child, although there is no need to wash clothes, but the housework is still done by her, buying vegetables and cooking, taking the child, she did not pull down,
After the child was one year old, Zhang Ru found a job and still undertook the housework at home.
In the eyes of the hometown people, Zhang Ru smoothly turned from the nanny post to a regular, and became the "city person" that everyone envied.
But in the hard work, only Zhang Ru herself knows that she is just empty of the name of "wife", in fact, she is still a nanny.
Her position in the family was not elevated by the change of identity, she carefully watched her mother-in-law's face, but her husband and in-laws still regarded her as an outsider.
If she doesn't agree, her mother-in-law will do something with her, and if she wants to resist, she will be insulted by the whole family...
Zhang Ru sighed:
"I feel worse than the countryside!"
The Qin family has experienced two expropriations, the first expropriation, the Qin family got two new houses, both written in the name of their daughter.
Originally belonged to a unit house under Qin Tianyuan's name, after the expropriation, more than 800,000 yuan of the levy money was also in the hands of the mother-in-law, Zhang Ru only knew through the newspaper that his house had been demolished.
Obviously, there are indicators for buying a house, and I am not willing to let my son buy a new house, lest Zhang Ru will divide the property...
From beginning to end, she was guarded by the Qin family.
Zhang Ru was fed up with a repressive life, and in 2009, she decided to leave her in-laws' house.
In the beginning, they lived in a rough house, there was no door in the room, and when she saw others decorating, she picked up people's cement to lay the floor.
She only dared to buy supermarket specials, and the stools and tables at home were picked up.
Over the years, the mother-in-law has borne the child's tuition and living expenses, giving the child 700 yuan per month, but Qin Tianyuan's salary card is kept by the mother-in-law.
Although he left his mother-in-law's house to live alone, his own small family was still controlled by his mother-in-law.
Now, the mother-in-law has taken back her husband, cut off the rent, and asked her to leave the house!
06
Zhang Ru's colleagues said that she and Zhang Ru have known each other for more than 20 years, and her evaluation of Zhang Ru is: honest and upright.
She doesn't bend over backwards, she doesn't use clever words to please others, she has spent more than twenty years in her family, and now she doesn't even have a place to live.
Zhang Ru works in the canteen of the organ, getting up at five o'clock every day, and the family's life is supported by her meager salary.
Every morning and at noon, she would bring breakfast and lunch home for her husband.
Colleagues said that Zhang Ru's mother-in-law's accusations were all nonsense, and Zhang Ru never did petty theft, never dressed up in a fancy way, nor did she make male friends.
On the contrary, Zhang Ru's mother-in-law once came to the unit to beat her several times when she was at work, and even so, Zhang Ru did not return the hand.
In the Qin family for more than twenty years, Zhang Ru had a duty, and now that she is divorced, she wants to fight for her own interests.
Zhang Ru wanted to hear the thoughts of her son Qin Kai,
But when she called her son, his words made Zhang Ru feel like pouring ice water.
The son supported their divorce, but he did not agree with the mother's fight for property:
"If you're divorced and want to fight for something you don't have a reason to get, I think it's hard."
Qin Kai felt that now her mother's fight for real estate seemed very unreasonable.
Hearing her son's words, Zhang Ru's eye circles suddenly turned red:
"My mother regrets raising you, how she carried you on her back from childhood to adulthood!" Raise you up without educating you! ”
"What you said today made Mom chill!"
Qin Kai retorted to his mother:
"Should I be on your side and confront Grandma?"
Qin Kai felt that he was deeply valued by his grandmother and covered almost all his expenses.
Mother shouldn't argue with Grandma, shouldn't make him embarrassed at home.
Zhang Ru was very sad, for so many years, she gritted her teeth and insisted on it for her son to have a complete family!
She does not expect her son to openly side with her, only hopes that he can understand his own difficulties.
Unexpectedly, even her son did not approve of her efforts, believing that he had no reason to get the property.
Eventually, Qin Kai appeared in front of her mother and aunt (Zhang Ru's sister),
Zhang Ru accused her son of blindly defending his grandmother and not understanding his mother, and always said that there was someone behind his mother's back.
Zhang Ru's sister was very excited:
"Your college is in vain, your growth is your mother to maintain you, you have today, otherwise your life will be very painful!" 」
The reporter also put forward her own views, she felt that Qin Kai was a little indifferent to everyone, and she had a sense of distance from everyone, and she was with her mother, and the two were also very far away.
Qin Kai explains:
"They started like this, and they were doomed to such an outcome."
"Why don't you go up?"
Zhang Ru was sad:
"I went up, where did I get the energy?"
"I want to take care of this family, and I want to raise you!"
The words of his son were like thorns, and Zhang Ru was bruised all over his body.
Zhang Ru came to the Qin family again, and her in-laws were not at home.
Qin Tianyuan, 50, said he needed a guardian and listened to his parents.
Zhang Ru couldn't bear it any longer:
"Did your parents give birth to me?"
"Husband and wife are you and me, not your parents!"
07
The leap of class has never been so simple.
From the beginning, the marriage lurked in crisis because neither side had simple motives.
The Qin family wanted to find a free nanny for their son for life, and by the way, they also took care of their family.
Zhang Ru, on the other hand, bears all her hopes: to leave the countryside and break the ceiling of the class.
In fact, Zhang Ru is gambling with her own life,
For the Qin family, there are countless girls like Zhang Ru who are born in the countryside, have a low education, and hope to change their destiny.
But for Zhang Ru, this is unattainable, and even the only chance in life to change her destiny.
From the beginning, their choices were not equal.
The ceiling of the class is not that it cannot be broken, but it requires great efforts and costs.
But the path Zhang Ru took seemed too simple and too fast.
In the eyes of the Qin family, they gave Zhang Ru the quickest way to "get rid of poverty", and this woman should honestly serve them for a lifetime.
It seems that Zhang Ru's identity has changed, in fact, as she sighed, it is better to be in the countryside!
In today's situation, divorce is Zhang Ru's best choice, otherwise she will never emerge.
The mother-in-law said that "we must inherit all the heavens in the family", but think about it, what did she give?
Caring for a disabled husband for a lifetime;
Now that they are old, they naturally want Zhang Ru to take care of them and settle down;
Later, the grandson got married and gave birth to a baby, and was still taken care of by Zhang Ru...
But what can Zhang Ru get?
The houses belong to Qin Tianyuan and his son, and in their eyes, these properties have nothing to do with Zhang Ru!
Throughout his life, Zhang Ru was the nanny of the Qin family,
No matter how many generations she has been, she will be the lowest-status person in the family...
In the end, Zhang Ru contacted her mother-in-law by phone,
She said that divorce can be done at any time, but all the property in the family has nothing to do with Zhang Ru!
Sister advised sister:
"Let's go home, I'll protect you for the rest of my life!"
Zhang Ru decided that she would sue for divorce through the court...