Gambling becomes a beast, you can only work like a beast, this is your only way to atone for your sins

Hello prawns:

I followed your headlines many years ago and bought one of your books. During this time, I encountered a big dilemma in life, and suddenly remembered that I could not write a letter to the prawns?

Hey, it's self-conscious, I'm a good hand in life. I am a post-80s, middle-level manager of a state-owned enterprise, with a good income for office workers, and a beloved wife and son. Our small city is more popular mahjong, playing cards, one day a classmate said that he and his friends are playing international online football betting, anytime and anywhere can play, a month to get some extra money is not difficult. In this way, with the idea of making money, I also got started, winning and losing, winning and losing, wanting to win back when I lost, getting deeper and deeper, and I and my classmates and friends all lost. The human nature of not accepting defeat, luck, and greed in the face of gambling is vulnerable, and in the long run, it is certain that no one can win. After a few years of bank loans plus online loans plus friends loans, all the loans that can be borrowed have been borrowed, the east wall has been demolished to make up for the west wall, and finally it was discovered by the wife. The family collapsed, so much debt, relying on the ordinary income of the two people, 20 years can not be paid off.

Now I am very miserable, looking back on these years, it is as if I have entered the magic path, saying that I am sorry that my wife and family are too pale, and I have died many times in my dreams. But life always has to go on, my wife and I have always been happy with each other, love each other deeply, did not choose divorce, face difficulties together, her hard work savings have given me, I often think, I lost my wealth, lost my career, and now let me feel more deeply, I am fortunate to have love, and family.

Now the entanglement is: First, the debt is still very high, there is a way to use the wife's credit can go to the bank low-interest loan, pay off my high loan, reduce the cost expenditure, a year difference of about 30,000, 50,000 or so interest, but the wife is afraid that I continue to gamble, do not dare to re-loan, has lost trust in my use of money, I want to convince my wife? My idea is that as long as she is at ease, she is not afraid of more interest. The second is that my wife thinks that I did not work hard to make money part-time, and passed the pressure on her, but making money is not urgent, I have not found a good part-time job in my spare time, running errands, I feel that making money can not catch up with the speed of my debts, I want to find other jobs that are not billed according to time, how do I do it well?

Thank you prawns.

A child who has gone astray

A child who has gone astray:

From the pseudonym you left behind, you know that you have not yet correctly recognized yourself, how can you be a "child"? Do you still have a face so cute about yourself? You're a prime-age person.

You and your wife are not "happy with each other, deeply in love with each other", you love her, how can you lie to her, gamble indiscriminately for several years to drag her into this desperate situation? What you delight, love, is yourself, is gambling.

However, your wife really loves you deeply, does not divorce you, and pays off debts for you. It's her misfortune, it's your luck. So in front of her, you have to have a sense of shame, you are no longer a child, you are no longer a person, you are a pig, you are a dog, even a pig dog is not as good as a pig dog, a pig dog will not harm its own breeder in this way. You have to have this right self-awareness.

Before working every day, first sincerely thank the society for providing you with jobs such as dripping errands, how can you think that they are slow to make money? Do you still have to wait for the money to come fast? People like you, I believe that gambling "it is not difficult to earn some extra money", the IQ is so low, the confidence is so strong, the idea is so much, give you some money, give you some leisure, give you some sweetness, you can only return to the gambling table. When you let your wife take out a loan, you think she is not miserable enough, you must kill her, but fortunately she has some sanity left.

How do you do that? Don't pretend, don't think about anything, work like a beast, this is your only way to atone for your sins.

Have fun.

Prawns