Once upon a time, we turned on the TV and watched the evening program of the "China-Japan Friendship Song Society".
Famous singers from the two places joined hands on the same stage and presented an audio-visual feast to the audience.
However, there are many thought-provoking stories behind the feast. For example, Ni Ping was suffocated to tears, and Hamasaki's side and Li Wei's side almost clashed.
What is even more surprising is that some people have a "double standard" view of these two things.
Next, I will take you to recall the events of that year, and then explain the views on the "double standard".
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In 1992, the "China-Japan Friendship Song Festival" was held in Beijing, which was a grand evening broadcast live at the same time between the two places.
The host of the party was Ni Ping on our side and Weng Qianyu on the Japanese side.
That year, Ni Ping had only been transferred to the general station for two years; in that year, Weng Qianyu was already a well-known celebrity.
This Japanese-Chinese actress, who won the Golden Horse Award for Best Actress, has a good achievement in singing, hosting, costume design and so on.
Working with such accomplished people, Ni Ping is more stressed and motivated.
During the preparation of the party, Ni Ping's experience can be summed up as follows: one struggle, three grievances.
A scramble
The debate is over who will play first, who will speak first, and whether the opening statement is appropriate.
Especially in the dispute over the opening statement, the first sentence of the original script was Ni Ping bowing to the Japanese audience friends on behalf of our people.
For such a setting, Ni Ping was extremely dissatisfied, in our own home field, why did we bow to the Japanese audience first?
Although it is called "Friendship Song Festival", in the hearts of the entertainers, it is a ring match!
After all, there are hundreds of millions of viewers expecting them to have a more brilliant stage performance.
Ni Ping always adhered to her own position and fought with the relevant personnel of the other side. Weng Qianyu, who has the same bloodline, does not mind, and has been mediating from it in a kind and amiable manner.
Finally, the opening statement was changed to something more appropriate:
Dear audience friends, good evening, this is Beijing, the capital of China, allow me to greet my Japanese friends from afar.
Three suffocations
1. On the day of rehearsal, because of the sudden rain. Our staff was drenched, and there were one or two people in charge of umbrellas around each other.
When Weng Qianyu assigned someone to hold an umbrella for Ni Ping, Ni Ping declined.
One is that I can't stand the expression on the face of the person assigned;
Second, the other party's sense of superiority made Ni Ping's heart tingle;
Third, director Huang Yihe, who is over the age of huang Yihe, has been directing in the rain, not only is his whole body soaked, but he also slipped and fell several times during the process of running, and Ni Ping was extremely distressed and uncomfortable when she saw it.
2. In the backstage of the main hall, Weng Qianyu has a personal powder room and rest room of more than 200 square meters, and dozens of staff members of our side are crowded together in a powder room.
In such a comparison, Ni Ping felt a little uncomfortable in her heart, but she thought about it for a moment:
Compare these things with others, what should be compared is the skills on the stage!
3. At the entrance to the stage, there is a temporary costume room dedicated to Weng Qianyu, which is specially marked with Chinese, and there is also a Japanese costume artist guarding the door.
Ni Ping couldn't find any other place to change clothes, and she didn't want to ask for others, so she could only run to the back of a big tree outside and hide behind a change of clothes.
The live broadcast of the night was a success, and both sides had a wonderful performance.
After returning to the hotel after the performance, Ni Ping did not go to the celebration banquet, but closed her room alone and cried loudly.
Later, Ni Ping wrote this experience into her autobiography, and some people criticized Ni Ping for being too pretentious after reading it, but she couldn't see the efforts of others at all.
It is true that Ni Ping's original idea was not necessarily entirely right, but put herself in the shoes of Ni Ping, what is ni Ping's inner sensitivity?
The other party's work in entertainment is indeed experienced, and the economic conditions of the other party at that time can also support the good treatment of entertainers, which is undeniable.
In my personal opinion, Ni Ping's inner sensitivity is not that her side cannot enjoy the same treatment as the other party, but that our conditions at that time were indeed not up to standard.
If we had achieved that condition at that time, or had better conditions than each other, even if we couldn't enjoy it ourselves, Ni Ping's heart would not be sad.
Just like when people are poor and embarrassed, their hearts will inevitably be sensitive, but if you can correctly look at this psychology, take this sensitivity as a driving force for progress, and take it as the courage to fight for a breath, it is not a good thing.
Ni Ping can confess her past psychological journey, did not complain to her own side at the beginning, was able to restrain her psychology in words and deeds, and finally fought for a breath on the stage, is this not the case?
Ni Ping once wrote in her book "Quotations from Grandmother":
Neither hypocrisy nor fabrication, I am such a person who can distinguish between what belongs to me and what does not. I never think that when people say I'm bad, I feel really bad, I have a few pounds, I have a number.
It is easy to criticize the shortcomings of others, but it is difficult to see the efforts of others and understand the true thoughts of others.
However, if similar examples happen to outsiders, some people's views are very different.
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The 2002 China-Japan Song Festival was unprecedented. The singers from both sides participated in the performance: Tan Yonglin, Faye Wong, Li Wei, Ayumi Hamasaki, Noriko Sakai and so on.
However, something unpleasant happened in the process.
After Hamasaki arrived in Beijing, I don't know if it was because there were no fans to pick up the machine, so after arriving at the hotel, not only frequently accused the hotel of poor security work, but also put forward a lot of inexplicable requirements, making many staff very confused.
And it also made it clear that it would not accept interviews from any media and could not take pictures.
Because of this incident, later in the backstage of the performance, the Hamasaki side almost caused a conflict with Li Wei's side.
Because Li Wei attended that concert with the accompanying photographer, and the dressing rooms of the two sides were next to each other.
When Li Wei's photographer took a picture of him, Hamasaki's bodyguard suddenly rushed out and pushed off the camera and forcibly confiscated the videotape.
Li Wei's photographer explained to the other party that he was not a reporter, but just taking pictures of Li Wei.
Unexpectedly, the other party not only did not listen to the explanation, but also drove him out of the background, and the two sides caused a dispute.
It wasn't until Li Wei personally came out to explain the situation to Ayumi Hamasaki that the personnel of both sides calmed down.
As an "Asian diva", Ayumi Hamasaki has his own pomp and circumstance, but without first communicating and forcibly interfering with the normal behavior of others, it is inevitable that there will be a suspicion of "playing a big card".
However, when this report came out, some people's views were very "considerate", saying that the other party only paid attention to their own privacy, respected the habits of others, and so on.
These people don't know if they are the same wave of people who criticized Ni Ping in the first place, but they should be the same kind of people, right? Such a double standard, let people want to laugh and can't laugh out, after all, the chinese characters are played.
The double standard person can always tell his own big truth, but similar things happen to different places and different people, and the reasoning is often the opposite.
Why is that?
It is nothing more than always thinking that others are good everywhere, and compatriots are bad everywhere. It can really be said that "strict self-discipline and leniency toward others" can be described as "self" is to exclude oneself, and this "person" is a person other than one's compatriots.
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In daily life, we can often hear some "foreign moons are rounder", such as:
A country has a conscience sewer, a country's toilet water can be drunk, a certain underground rain will not be waterlogged...
It is undeniable that there are indeed some better places on the outside than we do, and we have to learn about the strengths of others, after all, "mastering the art of mastering the art to control the yi" is an ancient precept that will never go out of style.
But is the good outside true or heard? Is it universal or partial? This has to be made clear.
If it is only partial, and you spread it into universality, it is to mislead some people to blindly yearn for and worship others.
Recently, the official number nicknamed "Tuantuan" by netizens published a rumor-busting article, and also listed examples one by one, punching some so-called "well-known" and "double standard" faces:
It is important to learn from others, but we must spread the truth and learn the truth.
The first thing that can make us progress is to have a self-respecting, self-reliant, self-reliant, and confident heart. If the heart does not fall, no matter how hard it is, it will be able to stand up; if the heart falls, the waist behind it will also bend down, and the head will also go down.
There is such a sentence in Ni Ping's "Quotations from Grandma":
When people speak, half with their mouths and half with their hearts. You can just listen to what you say with your mouth, and what you say with your heart is true.
Some people speak only for others, not for themselves.
But when you tell it to others, you must first think about it for others, whether others will be uncomfortable, whether there will be any harm.
If you say this to yourself, can you fully accept it?
The deepest truth is not that this word came from the mouth of any "celebrity", but that it is between our lives.