Everything seemed to rain over the sky.
After the Bi Ying storm, on Father's Day on June 16, Zhang Haolian posted a large group photo of his family watching the performance, with the caption: "Every important stage, there are family members. And specifically marked the topic as "my father's exclusive memory and mine."
Zhang Haolian stood in the middle wearing exquisite performance costumes, holding his mother Hong Xin and father Zhang Danfeng in two hands, and his sister in the middle, and the family of four looked warm.
Unsurprisingly, netizens' doubts came - "Do you want to sell good daddy again?" ”
In the midst of the storm, Zhang Haolian once deleted almost all the photos with Zhang Danfeng, this move was once interpreted by the self-media as "Hong Xin's mother and son's counterattack", and later Hong Xin was photographed and Zhang Danfeng arm in arm shopping explained that it was Zhang Haolian's company that asked the trainees to delete it uniformly.
Hong Xin and Zhang Danfeng were originally a model of happiness for a pair of sisters and brothers who had cultivated positive results, and Zhang Danfeng was once a well-known good stepfather in China.
Until the end of July last year, a group photo caused a storm, and after the storm passed, it was a sequel. Throughout April, Hong Xin and Zhang Danfeng, the hot search wheel over and over again. Putting aside this dog-blooded star marriage drama, the melon-eating masses once regretted most Hong Xin and Zhang Haolian who were in the center of the whirlpool.
Until later, Hong Xin and Zhang Danfeng appeared on the streets of Hong Kong and said in an interview, "It's all right." The wind of public opinion began to shift.
But why can't Zhang Haolian forgive Zhang Danfeng?
Bi Ying's storm is a story in the adult world, and Zhang Haolian is still a teenager's world.
Hong Xin chose to forgive, Zhang Haolian also chose to let go, what is the problem with this matter?
<h1>Zhang Haolian's good father and bad father</h1>
In an interview, Zhang Haolian once shouted to Zhang Danfeng: "You are the best father in the world." ”
Because "My dad when I'm a pro-son, I'm going to be a pro-dad when he's a pro-dad." “
Even in the days when the Bi Ying storm spread and Hong Xin and Zhang Danfeng and his wife did not interact with each other at all, the two people were still giving Zhang Haolian help.
Zhang Danfeng's response to Zhang Haolian is definitely not a pretense, he is the only fan level that brushes super words every day.
To paraphrase a common folk saying: Father can't do it.
Zhang Haolian's biological father was Mo Shaocong.
Hong Xin was with Mo Shaocong from 1997 to 2000 and became pregnant with Mo Haolian at that time.
Hong Xin once said that she wanted to have children when she was a teenager, so she later gave birth to Mo Haolian alone without Mo Shaocong's recognition, and later gave birth to her young daughter at the age of 44.
The story about Hong Xin and Mo Shaocong is very complicated, Mo Shaocong has always said that it is Hong Xin's fault, but these are the love and hate of adults, he is a father, refuses to recognize children, this is always a fact.
In 2016, Mo Shaocong, the biological father who had not recognized him for more than a decade, suddenly tore HongXin on the Internet, saying that Hongxin slandered him, slandered him in front of his son, and posted a private message with his son.
Afterwards, Hong Xin came forward to clarify, saying that he did not remember Mo Shaocong for a long time, nor did he say bad things about him in front of his son, but Mo Shaocong took out the polite reply in his son's private message and used it, which hurt the child's heart.
After that, there was nothing about Mo Shaocong in Zhang Haolian's life story.
In 2004, Zhang Danfeng filmed to know Hong Xin after the pursuit of her, when only three or four years old Hao Lian because of his identity, personality is more sensitive, at first did not accept the sudden Zhang Danfeng, but the child's emotions are the most sensitive and direct, day after a long time, he was moved by Zhang Danfeng, began to rely more and more on the new father.
At that time, the Hong Kong media went to photograph their family, and the illustration was Hong Xin standing and lecturing the child, and Zhang Danfeng bowed his head and tied the child's shoelaces.
Whether a strange man is really good for you to tie your shoelaces, or pretending to be good to you, children can instinctively detect it.
In the New Year of 2014, Mo Haolian directly posted on Weibo to publicly declare that he had changed his surname to Zhang, and later became Zhang Haolian.
In the years that followed, whenever he talked about Zhang Danfeng, his emotions were extremely sincere.
The interaction between the two people is indeed a super circle fan, and each other becomes each other's iron-blooded true love fans and vice presidents of the fan association.
Zhang Haolian's happiest thing is to visit his father in the mainland during the holidays. In order to celebrate Zhang Danfeng's birthday, stay up late until 0 o'clock to send blessings.
Father's Day never forgets to confess to dear dad.
In 2015, Zhang Danfeng was hacked, and he came out to fight for his father, shouting that he hoped that everyone would continue to support his most handsome and kind father.
Zhang Danfeng published a book and took the initiative to publicize it for him.
Even if these are concerned, what is more touching is a story told by Hong Xin on the show, when Hong Xin and Zhang Danfeng wanted a second child after marriage, Zhang Haolian's first reaction was to refuse and reject him, because he was afraid that his stepfather would not love him if he had a biological child.
But Zhang Danfeng coaxed a little, and he happily accepted.
After the birth of the younger sister, she completely became a spoiled sister demon.
Over the years, his relationship with his biological father Mo Shaocong has not been reconciled, but his relationship with Zhang Danfeng is completely the standard template for Chinese stepfathers.
Zhang Danfeng and Hong Xin went on a variety show, and the program team asked Zhang Haolian to record a paragraph to his parents, and as a result, he chose to apologize to Zhang Danfeng.
He said that when he was a child, he once quarreled with Zhang Danfeng when he didn't understand things, because he was angry and said that you are not my real father.
The child's unintentional words are nothing, but he blamed himself for a long time, felt that this hurt his father's heart, and he has been remembering it for so many years, and he apologized to his father when he found the opportunity.
In this story of a good father and a bad father, Zhang Danfeng has always been a good father and has never changed.
<h1>In that storm, Zhang Haolian actually never said that Zhang Danfeng was not half a sentence</h1>
Few people have noticed that when Bi Ying's storm resurfaced, it was the key battle in Zhang Haolian's life.
This year, Zhang Haolian officially debuted and participated in the variety show of "In the Name of the Regiment", and now everyone knows that this year's boy band variety show is basically pasted, but for Zhang Haolian, this was a battle that could not be lost at that time.
I'm not sure how much he knew about Zhang Danfeng Hongxin's real situation at that time, but he confessed twice on the show that Zhang Danfeng was the best father in the world.
As a result, not long after the storm broke out, this passage was taken out by the self-media as material.
During this period, the media only photographed Hong Xinxin appearing on the scene again and again to cheer for his son, and the final result was the smooth debut of the second generation of the star Zhang Haolian.
What's more, the Shanghai Theater Academy also released the results of the candidates, and 18-year-old Zhang Haolian won the first place among foreign overseas Chinese and Hong Kong, Macao and Taiwan candidates.
But when the media mentioned the mother and daughter, it was said: "Hong Xin and Zhang Haolian are collecting evidence of Zhang Danfeng's derailment and intend to make a Jedi counterattack."
The fact is that after the incident broke out, Zhang Haolian, who was participating in the program competition, had to face the chase and questions of the media.
For the rumors of his parents' marriage change, he was silent throughout the whole process, and he sealed his mouth with a word of thanks.
Looking back on those days, is there a gap in his heart? I think there is.
At least after the Bi Ying storm occurred, Zhang Haolian and Hong Xin stopped more personal microblogs almost synchronously for a long time, and did not stand up in time to support Zhang Danfeng.
But another fact is that at the beginning and end of the whole storm, Zhang Haolian never said that Zhang Danfeng was not half a sentence.
<h1>Why did Zhang Haolian forgive Zhang Danfeng? Letting go and letting go is never easy</h1>
Until now, the media mentioned that Zhang Haolian also added a definite sentence - Hong Xin's son.
He debuted as the second generation of stars, and already has his own fans, but the controversy is still not small, mainly because the difference between Reuters photos and fine drawings is a bit large, and he has also been ridiculed as a combination of Yang Chengang and Wang Dazhi.
This is the double scrutiny and annoyance brought by the identity of the second generation of stars, of course, as the second generation of stars still has many benefits, in addition to the support of his parents, Hong Xin's girlfriend group is also waving the flag for him, such as Cai Shaofen has become Zhang Haolian's number one little fan sister, forwarding Zhang Haolian's Weibo directly called him "cub"!
Now Zhang Danfeng Hongxin has obviously rained over the sky, before being photographed by the media that a family of three will go to the United States to play, the two husband and wife have a clear division of labor, Hong Xin is responsible for taking care of his daughter, Zhang Danfeng will take a passport to check in.
But many netizens still can't let go, saying that Zhang Danfeng is going to continue to sell a good husband and a good father?
In terms of practical effects, Hong Xin and Zhang Haolian have played the role of "Wangfu" and "WangDa" respectively, against the perfect personality of a good husband and good stepfather, Zhang Danfeng has gradually entered the second line from the eighteen lines that cannot afford to rent a house and cannot afford to install air conditioning, has his own studio, the fans are ten times that of Hong Xin, the last satellite TV drama "Drug Hunter" before the storm, Yu he and Wei Nan are male two.
Some people say why let him continue to sell people?
The rise and fall of the star, of course, the public can express their opinions, such questions about Zhang Danfeng, OK; but if Zhang Danfeng and Zhang Haolian's father-son relationship is also disliked together, then the critics are also too narrow.
Could it be that the feelings of two people for so many years are fake? If you don't love this child and pretend to be like this every day, how can you cheat for more than ten years?
Some netizens said Zhang Haolian you wake up? You like this dad so much? Are you so inseparable from this scumbag who betrayed your mother?
But Hong Xin has already said "it's all right".
Let's look at the father and son's past: Zhang Haolian was born in 2001, his original name was Mo Haolian, and as soon as he was born, everyone in Hong Kong tacitly accepted that he was an illegitimate son who was refused to be recognized by his biological father, Mo Shaocong.
But after Zhang Danfeng appeared, he felt that he had a father, and the world no longer regarded him as an illegitimate child.
How important is this to him? I think it changed his life, otherwise he wouldn't have had the courage to go on the stage of the draft and show himself, because he seemed to have grown up in love, his father was not absent in his life, and many of the original family's hurts did not happen to him.
He met Zhang Danfeng when he was four or five years old, and now he is an adult. Think about it, what is the concept of 14 years of father-son love, that is, your childhood memories and juvenile memories, basically all involved with this man. The feelings of two people have long been not simple stepfather and son, but have established a spiritual connection and truly let each other enter their inner world.
Of course, this output of love has helped Zhang Danfeng, whether it is on a variety show or in an interview, his most advantageous talking points are Hong Xin and his son Mo Haolian.
But just by giving Zhang Haolian a complete childhood and helping him avoid the pain of his original family, I seem to understand why Hong Xin can forgive this man.
How Zhang Haolian actually viewed this storm, outsiders could not be clear. After a few years and more than ten years of getting along day and night, is the Zhang Danfeng in his eyes the same as the Zhang Danfeng we see? The truth is that we always see only one side of a person, especially a loved one, the side he deliberately revealed to you.
The so-called truth is only the truth as we understand it. Nietzsche said long ago: there are no facts at all, only explanations. At the end of the day, it's us who build a world.
How Zhang Haolian looks at Zhang Danfeng depends on how he explains it to himself.
But what's wrong with that? Who wants to see what they once had, but eventually become a lost world?
Zhang Haolian's childhood almost collapsed because of Mo Shaocong, which is a tragedy. It would be a deeper tragedy to let his childhood past collapse again.
Everyone is two sides of the same coin, and if you really see through one person, many human stories have to be rewritten.
Just like when the storm was at its most violent, the media ran to interview Hong Xin, and she talked endlessly about the performance of her son Zhang Haolian, but when the reporter asked about the marriage scandal with Zhang Danfeng, she immediately put away her smile and refused to respond: We are talking about happy things, don't ask this question, let's talk about some happy and positive things today.
Why can Zhang Haolian forgive Zhang Danfeng? Because this is the happy and positive thing in his life.
Forgiving and letting go is not an easy task. He believed a good story and found his own life, and that was it.