"Our biggest misconception about our parents is that they will always be with us."
"No matter how old we are, we often use shouting 'Daddy' and 'Mommy' as a capital to ask them for no reason, and we will reject their gentle nagging and concern on the grounds of a sentence of 'I'm busy'." This line in "Everything About My Mother" pokes at the pain points of many children.
The daughter Li Xiaomei in the film is like you and me in the rebellious period, full of resistance to everything selflessly given by her mother, and even some disgust. "Go to bed early and don't stay up late", "Remember to eat breakfast", "Don't go to the computer and mobile phone all day"... As Li Xiaomei's mother, Ji Peizhen, played by Xu Fan, nagged in every detail, wanting to care about everything about the child, closer to her, and the more so, the more impatient the daughter was, disgusted, evaded, resisted, and even began to stab the mother with words unscrupulously.
Li Xiaomei thought that what her mother did for her was justified, and never thought that everything in front of her would come to an abrupt end one day. Until Ji Peizhen was diagnosed with advanced cancer, there were only five months left in her life...
This film is called "the best crying film this year" by many viewers, but director Zhao Tianyu does not want to deliberately stir up emotions, "Tears may be a process, and at the end I hope that everyone can find love and courage from the film." Zhao Tianyu said that this is a warm story.
Zhao Tianyu, director of the movie "Everything About My Mother"
Filming "Mom" stems from a change of identity
Some people say that when you become a father or a mother yourself, you can really understand the greatness of fatherly love or maternal love, and director Zhao Tianyu is like this. The choice to shoot such a film with the theme of "mother" stems from the transformation of the director's own identity.
After ten years of marriage, Zhao Tianyu and his wife pursued independent self and refused to have children. Until three years ago, the birth of his daughter brought him a huge impact on his emotions and life changes. After becoming a father, Zhao Tianyu was suddenly full of curiosity about family, affection, and the identity of his mother. He clearly remembers the day his daughter was born, the moment his wife picked up the child in the delivery room, and his eyes were full of determination to become a good mother.
For more than two years, the wife did put all her emotions into her daughter, and this process also reminded Zhao Tianyu of his childhood, and the warm past with his mother, "Those Jiguang Katayu, the bits and pieces she paid on me, I have forgotten almost twenty years, and these really make me think of it in more than two years." ”
In this way, Zhao Tianyu decided to make a movie with a mother as the theme, and the more he lost, left, and said goodbye, perhaps the more he could show the greatness of his mother.
In Zhao Tianyu's view, in the film "Everything About My Mother", the last departure of her mother is a normal loss, "We are saying goodbye to yesterday every day, right? Zhao Tianyu said that leaving does not mean the end, but more like a kind of transmission, because the love in the family and children is still continuing, and life is still continuing.
Many people say that "Everything About My Mother" is an extremely tear-inducing film, but Zhao Tianyu did not want to make it into a terminal illness film of misery and crying, he hopes that the audience can appreciate the temperature of the movie, feel the faith in the family, and cherish the love and courage from the family.
Poster for the movie "All About My Mother"
Tell a sad story with bright and warm tones
The story of "Everything About My Mother" is not special, an ordinary mother who spends all day with pots and pans, chai, rice, oil and salt, and has worked hard all her life to take care of this small family without complaint or regret. Until he suffered from cancer and remained in this world for only the last five months, he was still born in the sun, only worried about "what will happen after the family leaves themselves"
Ji Peizhen, the mother played by Xu Fan, reflects the shadow of thousands of Chinese mothers, and the attitude of her daughter Li Xiaomei to her is very similar to that of a young rebellious child in life.
Zhao Tianyu does not feel that "rebellion" is an extremely derogatory adjective, "rebellion itself is something that when you are young, you will be willing to do something that you will take risks or think is right; on the other hand, it lies in the estrangement from your parents." "The outside world is too exciting and too fresh, but the world that parents have given her has been building for 20 years," so it's not that the child hates her parents, she's just impatient. In the film, Li Xiaomei has graduated for two years, plus four years of college, she has been away from home for at least six years, but as a mother, Ji Peizhen still calls every morning, checks her WeChat steps at any time, and asks how many meals a day, take a taxi to work or take the subway, "When these loves are given in such a specific pattern, the child will definitely be very impatient." As a director, Zhao Tianyu understands Li Xiaomei's antipathy towards her mother in the film, and also understands that she has always wanted to break free from the shackles she thinks, but what she really wants to show is that in such a premise environment, suddenly tell her " You can still enjoy your mother's management for five months, what will you do?" ”
Ji Peizhen's excessive love and Li Xiaomei's extreme disgust may have happened in life or around you. But when this kind of love is less than five months left, how the relationship between the mother and the child will change at the end of the day is a scene that most of you and I have never thought about, and it is also the climax of the film "Everything About My Mother".
The film is tear-jerking, but it does not use cold tones to over-render sadness, and audiences who have seen the film have found that such a somewhat sad film has unexpectedly chosen bright and warm tones to tell, director Zhao Tianyu said, which is his deliberate intention. "I'm also a father, and if I die one day, I want to leave my daughter with something beautiful, I hope she remembers my healthy look, my handsome look, my humorous and cute look, and I hope that what she gets from me is the most beautiful thing." 」 Zhao Tianyu said that whether it is Ji Peizhen in the film or all the parents in the world, it must also be what they have in mind.
【Error correction】【Responsible editor: Zhang Chun】