Education is to make children better, there is no win or loss in this process, there is no need to fight for right and wrong, and jointly formulate rules, which can avoid conflict and allow everyone to participate in the rules.
Whether at home or in school, conflicts are inevitable without rules, and what is urgently needed is how to solve problems and avoid similar conflicts from recurring.
Some parents are either too strict or too indulgent when dealing with their children's problems, and the consequence of this is to evolve education into a struggle for rights, a win-or-lose decision.
If parents attach importance to winning and losing in education, it will affect their children, making them feel that there must be right and wrong in the parent-child relationship, and turn education into a struggle.
Parents cannot always try to make their children accept their own plans in education, regardless of their ideas, threatening or directly using their rights to force their children to accept and force them to agree. This will only make the child frustrated because he is not satisfied, and the parent wins and the child loses.
Or as soon as the parents put forward a plan, the child refuses, allows the child to do what he wants to do, and sacrifices his own needs to meet the child, which becomes the child wins and the adult loses.
The safest way is that when a problem occurs, parents invite their children to find a way to solve the problem together, propose a solution that both parties can participate in and accept, and then decide together how to implement it, without coercion, without either party to compromise.
The problem itself is not harmful, in fact, there will be conflicts in any relationship, the process of solving the problem needs to respect everyone's choices, find a solution that can be agreed with each other, problems and contradictions can coexist, if you can allow the problem to arise and can propose an effective solution, then you can avoid the damage of the power struggle on the relationship.
Many problems are actually the conflict of values, children sometimes see values as their own business, and can not compromise with others, they think they have the right to choose values, will insist on their rights.
When adults try to force them to live according to the adult model, children rebel and they don't think conflict is negotiable.
When children are well aware that their actions will cause real distress to others, they will be willing to make changes to solve problems and open their hearts to see the possibilities that change brings.
From this point of view, there is no difference between children and adults, parents should be sure that they know the needs of their children, share more, preach less, provide more, force less, more advice and less demand.
Don't always try to make your child listen to him, but discuss solving the problem together. Give your child more time to consider whether to accept their parents' advice.
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