Most men are not ordinary people in life, but in the process of struggle, most people have finally become the most ordinary people.
Therefore, men hope in their hearts that their wives can accept their own ordinariness and not set too high goals for themselves, after all, no one can ascend to the sky in one step.
However, some women do not know how to tolerate the ordinariness of their husbands, and complain endlessly in front of men all day when they are not happy, and as a result, they push their marriage to an irreparable situation.
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Cheng Xin and her husband have been married for 5 years, and in recent times, she has become more and more dissatisfied with her husband, because her husband has worked in the unit for so many years, has not been rated as excellent, has not been promoted, and has not seen an increase in salary every month.
Seeing that Xiao Gao, who joined at the same time as her husband, not only promoted to director, but also increased her salary by two levels, Cheng Xin was even more smothered.
On weekend nights, my husband was out partying with friends for a drink and didn't come home until 12 o'clock. Cheng Xin watched him hum a small song and walked slowly into the door, and he was even more angry.
The husband just changed his slippers, and before he entered the living room, Cheng Xin began to loudly accuse him: "Look at you, after so many years of mixing, you are still a small clerk, and then look at the old high, they have even been promoted two levels, do you still have the face to go out and play?" ”
Although Cheng Xin's husband was not drunk, he was also very angry when he heard her say this, so he quarreled with her through the strength of wine. When the two quarreled fiercely, they almost moved.
Cheng Xin packed up his things and returned to his mother's house in a huff, and threw down a sentence saying that he wanted to divorce her husband.
Cheng Xin thought that in a few days her husband would definitely come to pick herself up, because divorce was her usual trick, before they just quarreled and got angry, Cheng Xin would mention divorce, every time her husband returned to her mother's house, she would buy gifts to please her and ask for her forgiveness.
But this time I don't know why, Cheng Xin has been living in her mother's house for a week, and she has not seen her husband come to pick her up, and she has not even made a confession call.
At first, Cheng Xin was still patient and waited for her husband to call her, but her husband did not move at all. After another two days, Cheng Xin couldn't help it, so he called her husband.
But what she didn't expect was that she took the initiative to call her husband, but her husband's attitude was lukewarm, just told him that his son was very good at his grandmother's house, and he didn't have the slightest intention of picking her up.
Seeing that her husband was so indifferent, Cheng Xin also gambled to continue to live in her mother's house, and the two were deadlocked, and neither of them took the initiative to show weakness to the other.
Just when Cheng Xin hesitated, she received a WeChat message from her husband, saying that she had always been such an ordinary person and could not give her the life of an upper-class person she wanted, so he decided to let her go and give her freedom, and said that he would go to the Civil Affairs Bureau for divorce in a week.
Seeing this WeChat, Cheng Xin was completely dumbfounded, because she never thought of divorcing her husband, but this time her husband really wanted to divorce her, so Cheng Xin entrusted several friends to say peace, hoping to save this marriage.
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I think that there are many women in life who, like Cheng Xin, are always dissatisfied with their husbands and feel that he is not as good as others.
However, we should also stand in the perspective of men for them to think, men outside the hard work is not easy, a hard day back home, the wife always blindly blame him, without a word of care and consideration, the man will naturally feel desperate for married life.
In addition, competition in the workplace is very cruel, and many times, even if you have the same ability as others, you may not necessarily have the same opportunities and luck.
So, don't always complain that men make less money, and don't always accuse him of slow promotion, as long as he is hard-working, his life will definitely get better slowly.
Moreover, your complaints and accusations will only make men more and more reluctant to go home, and over time, men will lose confidence in this marriage, and later they will develop into a willingness to live outside, and they do not want to go home to listen to your nagging.
Only a woman who knows how to be tolerant can have a man's heart. Therefore, don't always count down the man, tolerate his ordinariness, he can transform into the person who loves you the most.
So, how can you make a man the person in the world who loves you the most?
First, usually save face for your husband.
At home, we can criticize him, but we must know how to maintain the face of men in front of outsiders and outsiders, because for men, the most important thing is dignity, so don't blame him in front of outsiders.
Second, don't always compare yourself to others.
Comparing others with husbands is a woman's biggest mistake. Because the more critical you are in front of your husband and say how good other men are, the more he will hate you, and once he meets a gentle and considerate and understanding woman out there, there is a good chance that a third party will appear in your marriage.
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In fact, happiness is very simple, as long as you can think more about each other, use the initial heart to him, can meet these two points, you can harvest more happiness.
Lev Tolstoy said, "Choose what you like, love what you choose." ”
Since you chose each other in the first place, it takes a little more thought to create your own happy marriage. I hope you can understand that a happy marriage needs to be run-in, and it needs to be tolerant and patient with each other.