Teacher Ke: Hello, I have been reading your books for a while now.
There are a lot of ideas, and I am doing a deep analysis of myself. But there are many things to figure out.
First of all, I am a worker, fifty years old, have a son, the son is twenty-four years old, is a single parent, as soon as the son is born his father left us, I have been raising my son alone. My son is a good boy in good health.
Now I have an old problem, often chest tightness, heartache, fear, a strong sense of fear, sometimes I can't control it, often afraid of being alone, I know that I am releasing a kind of pity, knowing what I have to do to heal this mentality, salute. (Your reader: Qiushui)
Filling the mind with pleasant thoughts is the fastest path to health.
Qiushui: Hello!
As a mother, it is worth respecting and congratulating to be able to raise her son alone as a "healthy and good child".
You talk about yourself "often with chest tightness, heartache, fear, a strong sense of fear, sometimes uncontrollable, often afraid of being alone", and saying that "knowing that this is releasing a pitiful appearance", indicating that you have a certain depth and understanding in self-analysis.
Raising children is a very heavy burden for any family, not to mention that you are still a single parent, understand this, it is not difficult to understand your "often chest tightness, heartache, fear, fear is very strong, sometimes you can't control, often afraid of being alone", you must know that this is a very normal reaction of a woman in the face of heavy life pressure, you need to face and deal with countless life problems alone, it is normal to have the above mental and physiological activities.
However, when the son has reached adulthood, the role between mother and child will be adjusted, the son will gradually leave the mother's wings and grow into a strong person, you may be disappointed at the same time, after all, "dependence on each other" is the main string of your life for more than twenty years, tired, and happy.
When you talk about "poor looks", I think it is normal for adult sons to experience more of the hardships and hardships of mothers, so as to be more considerate and warm to their mothers. But everything is measured, and we must let go of our son and let him live his own life.
You are only fifty years old, your life has only reached the middle, there will be a rich life scene in the future, you can start a new life without the company of your son, the key is to have your own spirit.
More psychoanalysis, I suggest you read my book again, some of the content to read more, in connection with their own life more experience.
You are a man of understanding, have fun!
Teacher Ke October 26, 2021