Dear Teacher Ke, hello!
I am Yuncheng, Shanxi, read your "Deciphering the Disease Code", "Out of the Hell of the Heart", "Good Parents Are Better Than Good Schools: Chinese Children's Success Law", recently bought another set, and read it with my husband, we especially admire you! All this is thanks to my son. Because my son didn't want to go to school when he was in his third year of high school, until now he was anxious when he went to school for more than two years, your help to an An Zilin family made me pluck up the courage again and again, trying to give you private messages, hoping to get your help, but I didn't want to bother you!
Teacher Ke, the child is very kind, but also very smart, before and after the 2016 middle school entrance examination, his father hurt the child twice, resulting in the child's loss of interest in learning, (the interest in learning in the third year of junior high school is very strong), the first two years of high school did not study well, and after two months of hard work in high school, they still felt that they could not catch up with the previous classmates, and they did not want to go, until now. He also really wanted to go out, and he often dreamed of going to school happily. Has lost two opportunities for the college entrance examination, he said that he can no longer do this, must take the college entrance examination, even if it is a specialist, must pass the college entrance examination to go out, at home is too painful ...
I am a primary school teacher, now know that there are problems with the way of education with the lover before, although it has changed a lot, but still can not help the child, the lover's blood sugar is a little high, busy at work, see the child's state is also helpless, depressed, recently every day to about three o'clock in the morning can not sleep, wild thoughts ...
Our family is walking through the trough of life, tormented and exhausted, praying for your help!
Smile and listen: Hello!
From the letter, both of you have read the Chinese Children's Success Law, and In the book, Mr. Ke particularly emphasizes the eight-character policy towards children: appreciation, praise, encouragement and example. The so-called example is to set an example for the child, you hope that the child will smile optimistically, you must smile optimistically, you hope that the child will be diligent and upward, and you will be diligent and upward,...... Wait a minute.
We must truly realize that the responsibility for children's problems lies with the parents. You see how much progress your son has come now! I never wanted to go to school, but now I dream of going to school, and I am happy to go to school. This progress deserves your sincere praise and encouragement. As for whether his son will take the college entrance examination, he must also start from reality and start from his physical and mental health. Not necessarily in such a hurry.
The key is to raise your awareness. Recognize the problems you have in your child's development, including the mental harm you have done to your child. Recognize these things, and understand each other with the child, the relationship will be less tense, and the child's state will be better.
Teacher Ke also wants to say that this eight-character policy also applies to parents themselves. Always give yourself encouragement and see your progress. For example, through your current learning, you realize that your child's problems are responsible, which is progress. We must also praise and encourage our own progress in a truth-seeking manner. Only then can we have confidence in the future.
At the end of the day, the influence of your state on your Son is the first. Don't always think about your son. Adjust yourself well and be optimistic. Hello, the son's change will happen naturally.
You name yourself "Smile and Listen," which is fine. Smile and listen to the world, smile and listen to the people around you, and smile and listen to your son. This also includes reading Mr. Ke's book with a "smiling listening" attitude and experiencing it while reading. I really read it, I have experienced it, and the truth in the book is better than any meeting and conversation.
Say hello to your son and say that Teacher Ke wishes him every day!
Teacher Ke
April 25, 2021