<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="1" > text: Zheng Shaoyuan May my text warm you~</h1>
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Teacher Tu Lei, an emotional expert, once described marriage like this:
In marriage, everyone has to give, but also to take back something, which is the law of supply and demand. A marriage in which one party gives the other is not going to last, and the most stable state of marriage is that both husband and wife are giving and can return. This state of "coming and going" is the best.
For everyone, marriage is not only because of love, or for other reasons; the only thing that can determine the happiness of marriage is the sense of responsibility of both husband and wife.
Only being responsible for the other half in the marriage will make the other half feel that the marriage is safe and happy, and the relationship between the husband and wife will be very good.
In marriage, almost all people will fall into such a wrong psychology, thinking that since they are already married, they must not lose each other. So in the long married life, gradually become picky, become selfish.
Marriage is gradually decaying in this endless overdraft.
For women, marriage means very much to them. Marriage means happiness for the rest of their lives, so what kind of man they marry will determine their quality of life, hope, and happiness. It is no exaggeration to say that what kind of man a woman chooses to marry determines the happiness of her future life.
Therefore, when women choose a mate, they must choose carefully, carefully consider, and must not blindly choose because of a momentary impulse. When choosing a marriage partner, we must consider it rationally, and we must not be emotional.
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He Miao recently announced in the circle of friends that she and her husband Nie Jun were divorced. After hearing this news, everyone talked about it, speculating about the real reason for the divorce of the two people.
In fact, for He Miao's divorce, I am not at all surprised in my heart. The only strange thing is that she was able to hold out in this marriage for two years, and I can only admire her.
He Miao's marriage with Nie Jun was not favored by the people around him from the beginning. If nothing else, it is because the difference in the family situation between the two people is too large, and it belongs to the wrong door.
When it comes to door-to-door pairs, many young people do not believe this statement and think that it is feudal superstition. But the older generation is very convinced of this. Maybe it's because of life experience. But in fact, the door is very important for marriage.
He Miao was a woman who did not believe in this statement of the door, she felt that marriage should find a person she liked to be with, as long as there was love, it was enough, and nothing else mattered.
So she fell in love with Nie Jun, who was a lot different from her, a phoenix man who was completely out and about.
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He Miao's husband Nie Jun is actually a phoenix man through and through, and everyone around him knows this, including He Miao. But He Miao didn't care about this at all, but felt that Nie Jun was a potential stock, so he insisted on marrying Nie Jun.
Nie Jun's family is poor, his hometown is in a remote mountain village, and his parents are farmers, living by farming. When Nie Jun was in junior high school, his father died in an accident, leaving Nie Jun and his mother to rely on each other. For him, his mother never remarried, relying on herself to provide Nie Jun to college.
Nie Jun's academic performance from childhood to adulthood was relatively good, and he was admitted to the university by his own efforts, becoming the only college student in the village. In order to provide for his education, his mother borrowed a lot of money outside.
After graduating from college, Nie Jun chose to stay in the city. He found a good job, compared with his peers, he is more able to endure hardships, and the ability to work is outstanding, self-motivated, in the company is highly appreciated by the leadership, a few years of work on the promotion and salary.
It was also at that time that Nie Jun met He Miao. The two men fell in love and soon got together. The advantages of Nie Jun are all he Miao likes, she feels very secure with Nie Jun, although he is very poor now, but who dares to conclude that Nie Jun will not become rich in the future?
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When he married He Miao, Nie Jun couldn't even get a dowry of 20,000 yuan, let alone buy a house in a city with little land.
He Miao's father did not agree to his daughter marrying this phoenix man at all, so he always insisted on opposing it. But He Miao kept insisting. Because the father and daughter were very unhappy, He Miao's father even said, If you marry this phoenix man, I will break off relations with you. But at that time, He Miao would rather break off relations with his parents and marry Nie Jun.
At that time, He Miao still foolishly believed that with the ability of the two of them, he would definitely stand out and become famous, and Nie Jun also showed a scrappy look, saying that he would definitely not live up to He Miao's expectations.
Life is a trivial daily life of chai rice oil and salt, not shouting slogans.
-05-
After the two people got married, He Miao understood that money was so important for marriage. At first, she thought that as long as there was love, the marriage would be happy. But now that she didn't think like that anymore, she finally understood what "poor couples lament" was all about.
After getting married, Nie Jun's salary was not given to He Miao, he still gave money to his mother everyone, and the family's expenses were all responsible for He Miao alone.
He Miao's salary was not enough for her to spend every month, and now that the burden of supporting her family was entrusted to her, she had to start cutting down on food and clothing. Because of the problem of money, the couple quarreled many times, and their feelings were weak.
In the end, He Miao, who couldn't bear it, finally filed for divorce, and Nie Jun was tired of her and happily agreed.
When she was divorced, Nie Jun once said: A woman like He Miao, after divorcing herself, no man will marry her.
-06-
But not long ago, Nie Jun found out that He Miao had remarried. The man He Miao married was the opposite of her, and He Miao's parents agreed very much to this marriage.
Not only that, Nie Jun also learned that He Miao married this man, and her parents married the house and car! This made Nie Jun very jealous, why marry him to accompany the caravan?
So Nie Jun found He Miao, he broke down and cried, asked He Miao why he did this, he now has nothing, and you are looking for another man to marry.
And He Miao never said a word, facing this phoenix man, she was already heartbroken. She didn't want to be in contact with such people anymore.
What constitutes marriage is half feelings and half material. If there are more feelings and fewer materials, it is inevitable that there will be the troubles of poor and lowly couples; there are more materials and fewer feelings, and marriage is only a formality, because material marriage will inevitably be divorced because of materials. Marriage is fair, it doesn't treat anyone who runs it badly, and it doesn't bypass a person with bad intentions.
If you want to have a happy marriage, you must first correct your purpose of marriage, which is more important than anything.
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