Spicy Yoko's real name is Li Jiaqi, probably because he wanted to take this stage name because he wanted to look hot from black.
Many people know her because in May 2017, a short video of "When You Learn Bbox" went viral on the Internet, and she was cold and cold, and there was a hint of embarrassment in the cuteness, and it was very funny in embarrassment, so Yoko spicy became angry.
However, with the rise of popularity, the various criticisms of netizens have also become more turbulent. Yoko, whose looks and figure do not conform to the aesthetic standards of the times, has also cried because of these negative voices. When she first signed Huayi, her photo was put on the Huayi wall, on which hung a dense number of Huayi actors, the beauty of the handsome man, the spicy Yoko in the middle, not to mention the appearance, only a big face seemed out of place, she still felt particularly embarrassed at the time.
But none of this can kill Yoko Spicy's insistence on her dreams! Nowadays, whether it is the humorous and funny her in the short video, or the expressive her in the film and television drama, in her, we can fully perceive her sunshine and self-confidence. And more and more netizens are attracted by her "unique charm".
So what is the force that makes this girl who is not a beautiful woman also become a "charming girl" in the public's mind?
Charm comes from a sense of self-identity
Saying it is like a joke to anyone, and Yoko Really has a dream after the movie. She also stressed that it is a category A, not an unknown water trophy, and it has the highest gold content if you want to take it.
Powerful actors may not dare to have such dreams, and even if they do, it is difficult to see them say it, because they are afraid of disappointment and afraid of punching their faces. No, she shared this "goal" with her friends around her, even though they all laughed to hide the "whimsical" phrase.
But now, who would dare to say that her goal was whimsical?
In 2014, Yoko Hotaru was only a freshman in college, and one day on the playground, she suddenly announced to her good sisters, "Let's make a short video!" You want us to put it on Youku, in case it is a fire, just by which big director to see, go to me to act, I will become an actor. With the mentality of trying it out, Spicy Yoko began to create short videos, but at that time, the content production was not mature, and it was all about entertaining herself. However, she also got an internship job in short video production, just at the end of the internship, the Bbox became popular, and Bao Bell contacted her to participate in the "Fat Man Action Team" after seeing the video, playing an international agent with funny cells.
Life is sometimes so wonderful, and the original declaration has become true. But all this cannot be said to be accidental! Opportunities are given only to those who are prepared. Yoko Spicy, who has not studied acting, has a dream after the movie! This is not whimsical, but stems from a strong sense of "self-identity." She knows what she wants, and she knows what she should give for what she thinks in her heart, and she will not casually deny herself because of the voices of the outside world.
"Self-identity" is a psychological concept first proposed by the American psychologist Eriksen, also known as "self-identity". That is, to be able to see and accept oneself and the outside world rationally, to be energetic and love life. It consolidates self-confidence and self-esteem from this sense of identity, while not blindly succumbing to the public opinion of society and others.
Self-identification consists of two parts: self-understanding and self-actualization. Yoko Hotaru is naturally expressive and loves acting, and she tries to do it. Of course, in the process of her efforts towards the goal, there are many voices of doubt and even denial, but she has achieved self-"firmness". The outside world's doubts are more of a complaint about her figure and looks! And these external things are not enough to be a reason to deny yourself!
Beauty, there is no uniform standard!
Remember when she participated in the Supernova Games. The little sister of the gymnastics group is all a bunch of water spirits, goose egg face, swan neck, thin and small, spicy Yoko looks a little "outlier" in it, but in the end, her performance is not contrary at all, stretching limbs, confident smile but let people feel a special charm.
Aesthetics are upgrading, and there are more and more comments under Yoko's Weibo photos praising her for her cute looks and good looks, and more people are envious of her confidence.
The power that Yoko Spicy brings to people is not how successful she is, but that she knows who she is, she knows what she is good at, she knows what she likes, and then she does it.
I can't help but think that there are many women, because some people say that their faces are big, they go to cut bones and make slimming injections; some people say that their eyes are small, so they open the corners of their eyes and cut their double eyelids; in the end, not only did they not become the beauty in the hearts of others, but also lost their own health. Even from the bottom of my heart, the denial of self.
True self-identification, not immersed in lamentation, complaint or regret, should be deeply understood after the self, strive to work hard, positive and independent, have a clear goal in life, and in the process of pursuing and gradually approaching the goal will experience self-worth and social recognition and praise.
How to strengthen self-identification
Self-identity profoundly affects a person's growth and development. But often invisibly we will be disturbed by external voices, you feel in your heart that you can, but the voices of the outside world imply that you can't, which sound is right? And how can we strengthen our self-identification?
(1) Repeat the practice to strengthen self-belief and accept the bad things that were once there
In the process of growing up, we will have some traumatic experiences, perhaps the original family makes you not feel the love and warmth of the family; perhaps it is a love that hurts the heart, tries hard but does not get results; perhaps it is a position that is fully fought for but cannot be sought...
These failed experiences may be internalized as part of our self-identity through the subconscious, and then continue to accumulate and ferment in our minds, unconsciously causing us to have self-doubt.
So the first step to improving our self-identity is to accept the failures we have had, to accept the bad things that have happened to us. Try to dig into your true self hidden under these sad stories.
(2) Ask questions creatively and find your true self
Maybe you'll find that you really don't know yourself well enough. The voices of the outside world have been listened to a lot, but they have forgotten what the voice in their hearts is. So, you can try to find your true self by asking creative questions.
Creative questioning can be:
Is your daily material life more satisfying, or is deep spiritual exploration more enjoyable?
Do I prefer to be alone or happier with friends and family?
In the team, would I rather be a leader or prefer to be a collaborator?
By asking questions like this, you can roughly sketch out your own real puzzle.
(3) Keep being firm with yourself
Self-identification is not something that happens overnight, and the journey from self-doubt to self-identification is likely to be a repetitive process. And what you have to do is to continue to understand yourself and strengthen yourself in this process.
The process of understanding oneself is also the process of creating goals for oneself, and making efforts and explorations for it. This process may not be so smooth, but you must always remember: I do not have to live for others, even if I am not successful, even if I am ordinary, but as long as I begin to love myself, listen to the true voice of the heart, and live in a comfortable state, I am already my own master, worthy of all the praise and applause.