Today is the 2919th day of intensive reading to accompany you throughout your lifelong growth
01
Some time ago, the variety show "Under the Eaves" was launched, and Liu Xuehua became popular again with the label of "elderly living alone".
The program invited three elderly people living alone in Shanghai to be "landlords", and then arranged for the "Shanghai Drift" youth to live with them for 21 days, mutual understanding and mutual healing, showing the collision between generations.
One of the single landlords is Liu Xuehua.
After watching the show, I learned that the original big star of the past is 62 years old this year, and her husband died unexpectedly 10 years ago and has no children.
Therefore, for nearly a decade, Liu Xuehua has maintained a solitary life.
She said in the show that she is a post-50s "housewife", very boring, does not love to go out, and will not be advanced things, and is completely out of touch with the life of modern people.
Her life is very simple, every day after getting up, it is to feed the dog, watch TV, play mahjong with her mobile phone, and talk to her sister on the phone.
In the program, La Hongsang, the UP master of station B, a little girl after 00, lived in Liu Xuehua's home. Liu Xuehua enthusiastically wanted to cook dumplings, but he didn't know how to turn on the range hood.
The little girl sent a message asking her if she wanted to drink morning tea, she saw it but did not know how to reply, so she had to call to say.
Liu Xuehua said that she would not be able to access the Internet, and the smart appliances at home were also used by her as a fool's machine. The phone has been used for five or six years, but it can only make calls and play mahjong. The TV will only turn on and off, and once someone moves the setting, she will not be able to turn it back.
After this content was broadcast, the topic of contemporary elderly people being abandoned by the times once again set off a hot discussion.
For example, the elderly do not use smart phones, do not know how to register health codes, do not understand mobile payment, resulting in normal travel has been affected.
She also said that although she has lived alone for so many years, there are also places of worry, afraid that one day accidentally fell down and no one knows.
So, everyone began to discuss the plight of the elderly living alone.
For example, in August last year, a grandfather living alone in Anhui Province accidentally fell on the balcony and could not move.
Finally the old man could only keep knocking on a basin on the balcony, hoping that someone would hear his cry for help.
In this way, after four days and four nights of starvation bare-chested on the balcony, the old man was rescued.
There are countless such news, and with the increasing aging of the population, the phenomenon of the elderly living alone will become more and more common.
But these dangers that the elderly living alone may face, I dare to say that basically none of them will appear in Liu Xuehua.
Why?
02
First of all, the house where Liu Xuehua lives, although the decoration is not very gorgeous, but the area is less than 200 square meters.
Some people even based on her revealed in the program that "the apartment is opposite the university, you can see the old bungalow", combined with the location where she walked her dog, it was immediately speculated that the place where she lived was the center of Downtown Shanghai - Huaihai West Road.
It is said that this place is full of old mansions, 200 square meters of pleasant scenery of the old apartments are more than 30 or 40 million, it is not too much to say that Liu Xuehua is a rich woman sitting on a thousand Marriott houses.
Secondly, if you watch the program carefully, you will find that Liu Xuehua is not good at housework because there is always a nanny waiting; he often takes the wrong road when walking the dog, and it is also because there are drivers to pick up and drop him off.
How could a woman who lives in a spacious mansion in the center of Shanghai, with a driver and a nanny, fall into the house for four or five days and no one notices?
Her worries were only for outsiders.
When you meet a good role, you go to filming, and when you are idle, you can tease the dog at home, play mahjong, watch TV, cook phone porridge with family and friends... Have a career, have friends, do not have to do housework, do not have to bring grandchildren, do not have to be angry with the daughter-in-law, such an old age life, who does not envy it?
Liu Xuehua himself also said in the program that although he lives alone, life is always comfortable and comfortable.
Therefore, when you are old, it is not a problem to live alone, and whether you have money is the key.
A few days ago, the topic of "women's willingness to marry is significantly lower than that of men" was on the hot search, with more than 50,000 comments.
As for why women are reluctant to get married, everyone who understands it understands.
In short, in today's increasingly independent and rich women, after a few years, the life of living alone will change more and more.
And whether you have money or not, you live two completely different lives.
Wilde once said that when I was young, I thought that money was the most important thing in the world. Now that I'm older, I know that's true.
Deeply.
03
Rich, in addition to ensuring the solitary life after old age, its role is too much, summed up in three points:
First, have the courage to confront unknown risks.
Two years ago, I saw a news: Mr. Wei, 48 years old, because of the pressure of working outside the home for many years, work and life, let him suffer from coronary heart disease, but when he heard that the operation cost 100,000 yuan, he was desperate.
Because he was afraid of affecting his family, Mr. Wei chose to leave quietly from the hospital. After several days of searching, the family finally found him, but Mr. Wei ended his life.
Sometimes what can take a person's life may not be a disease, maybe just 100,000 yuan.
There is also an online post that makes people feel a lot of emotions:
A 33-year-old man who suddenly lost his job did not know how to explain to his family, so every morning, still before 8 o'clock, he went out on time in a suit and a briefcase.
He didn't know where to go, so he took a ride from the start of the subway to the end of the subway and cycled back and forth several times. It was hard to stay up until noon, and then go to the convenience store to buy a box lunch and eat it hurriedly on the side of the road. In the afternoon, I took my resume around looking for a job, waited until the employers were all off work, went to the bookstore, and didn't go home until after 7 o'clock.
Men don't have overly high education, no tough professional skills and connections, and it's not easy to find an ideal job in a short period of time. However, in the face of his wife and children who were counting on him to earn money and support his family, he really did not have the courage to say: I am unemployed.
Money is our greatest sense of security against unknown risks, and once there is an accident in life, you will find that the value of money is much greater than you think.
Second, have the courage to say "no" to the world.
A lawyer once said:
"A lot of women are silently putting up with a failed marriage, which ultimately comes down to not being financially independent enough. Neither can you get out of the current predicament, nor can you give yourself a better choice. Because life is cruel, there is no ability to live in peace, you have to give up your initiative. ”
Only if you have money in your hands do you have the courage to say "no" to a bad life.
Third, become more powerful.
Money is a good positive feedback, and it will really tell you that you did it, you realized your value.
Then you have the further strength to do what you want to do, and then realize your value again.
In the process of this virtuous circle, you can not only experience the joy of making money, but also feel the goodwill from the world.
I have heard a true story about a poor man from a rural area who, after years of working in the city, finally achieved the goal of an annual income of nearly one million.
Someone asked him: What is the biggest feeling after you have money?
He said that in the past, when he went home to visit relatives and friends in the New Year, he was like air on the table; but now when he returns home, the people in the village are very kind not only to themselves, but also to their parents.
This is the stark reality: as a child, the people around you will treat you according to your parents' income; when you grow up, the people around you will treat your family according to your income.
04
The American psychologist Maslow once proposed a demand pyramid theory, which refers to:
Needs are divided into 5 levels from low to high: physiological, safety, social, respectful, and self-actualization needs.
The two minimum needs are to ensure survival, followed by the stage of gaining a sense of belonging and fulfillment.
No matter what stage, money runs through it.
The first two needs money, the last three need money and time.
Only if you can make money can you survive the basic survival; only if you can make money, can you do what you really want to do on the basis of satisfying life, and get a sense of belonging and achievement.
Why do people have to work hard to make money? There is an answer on the Internet, poking at the tear point:
Hard work to make money, not because of the love of money. But in this life, I don't want to be inferior to anyone because of money, and I don't want to embarrass anyone because of money.
I only hope that when my parents are old, I can have the ability to share; when my children need it, I will not be shy.
Sometimes, we don't even need to understand the big truth of life, nor do we have to understand the meaning of dreams and persistence, we make money, but we want to make our families live a little better, let ourselves have more ways to live.
This is probably the most realistic and grounded answer to "try to make money".
In this lifetime, there are too many moments when you can defend your dignity with money.
So, whenever you want, put your earning power to the top.