The term "social fear" is actually very easy to understand, that is, the fear of social interaction, with some anxiety about getting along with others. People who are accustomed to being alone in life are often mistaken for high cold, but in fact, they are just not good at dealing with others. There are many artists in the entertainment industry, they are filming in addition to filming, because of the limitations of identity, they can not go out with their friends when they have time.
Gradually, some artists are accustomed to living alone, some people like to stay at home, and some people don't have many people around them. Liu Xuehua, 61, is an old man immersed in her own world, and she prefers a life of being alone than socializing.
Liu Xuehua, 61, participated in a reality show
In 2021, 61-year-old Liu Xuehua was invited by the program group of "Summer of the Eaves" to record a program with two other elderly people living alone. The program team wants to present the life of the elderly living alone to the audience in such a way, and also aims to let more people pay attention to the group of the elderly living alone.
Liu Xuehua has lived alone for more than ten years now, because she has no children, so her life basically has no other outsiders except for filming. In addition to the driver and the nanny, there are only dogs and dogs. The TV set at home was also on 24 hours a day, because she wanted to break the silence in the house.
After the launch of "Summer of Eaves", 61-year-old Liu Xuehua became the focus of everyone's attention. This Qiong Yao girl, who has always been a magnificent girl in everyone's memory, originally lived so lonely in her later years. Liu Xuehua, who had a rough life of feelings, met Deng Yukun, who had pampered him for 12 years, but unfortunately, this marriage ended with the unexpected death of her husband, and Liu Xuehua began to live alone.
In "Summer of Eaves", Liu Xuehua's life is very simple, except for walking the dog, basically do not go out, live alone for too long, she feels that socializing with outsiders will cause her own mental pressure. Therefore, being alone has also become a way of life in her later years.
Liu Xuehua is reluctant to socialize
Liu Xuehua, who is accustomed to living alone, is accustomed to a life of being alone, and it is also a test and challenge for her to face social interaction again. In the latest episode, she also blamed herself for her "social fears".
(1) Refuse Grandpa Zhu's invitation
Because he is unwilling to socialize, Liu Xuehua also shows a very entangled mentality in the face of other people's invitations. When others get along with her, she is not happy because of it, but feels a kind of pressure. When Grandpa Zhu invited her to visit another old man's home, Liu Xuehua panicked.
After some struggle, she still refused Grandpa Zhu's invitation on the grounds that she wanted to accompany her dog.
Unable to understand Liu Xuehua's audience, it may be because they think that this old man is very cold, others have invited her so much, she still does not go to the home of the vegetarian guests, is it because the other party has no topic with herself? Not really.
(2) Liu Xuehua blamed herself afterwards for worrying that others said she was cold
After rejecting Grandpa Zhu's invitation, in fact, Liu Xuehua's heart also has some uneasiness, she feels that her rejection of the other party will hurt the other party's self-esteem, but also leave a bad impression on others, in the preparation, Liu Xuehua blamed herself for her rejection, and cried because of her, and finally she gave herself a new task, saying that she wanted to go to Grandpa Zhu's house for three hours.
Only those who are "socially afraid" can empathize
In fact, looking at Liu Xuehua's state, we can not only see the living conditions of many elderly people living alone at present, but also see another group, that is, the "social terror" group.
With the change of the times, as we grow up, we will find that the human feelings we face are becoming more and more complex, no longer the simple and unintentional way of getting along when we were young, because we are afraid of the unknown, because we take into account too many other people's views of ourselves, so we gradually fear socialization and fear of interacting with others.
Some people cannot understand Liu Xuehua's state, but the social fear crowd can fully understand Liu Xuehua's inner struggle. She is not deliberately trying to reject others, nor is it because she feels different from others, but because social interaction will be a kind of spiritual pressure and trepidation for her, so choosing to reject others is also one of the ways to make herself not afraid.
For social terrorists, it is not a simple social to overcome, nor does it mean that they will get along well with others, they need not only to contact different people, but also to the customer's own inner resistance and fear. In life, have you ever encountered social terrorists? What do you think they give you? Welcome to leave a message to tell everyone!