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Gesell, a young child psychologist, once said that the loss of paternal love is a defect and imbalance in the development of human feelings.
<h1>01 Is Bao Dad really not good with children? </h1>
Since ancient times, the thinking of the male protagonist and the female protagonist has been very deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.
So far, men in the role positioning, is still to make money to support the family is greater than to raise children with children.
From the perspective of the family, when it comes to Bao Dad with a baby, many Bao Moms will scoff at it and spit out that "Bao Dad takes the baby chicken to fly the dog and jump, just live."
In addition, thinking of the matter of Bao Dad with the baby, many people may have come up in their minds to get along with many "ghost animals" and "demonic" parents and children in short videos.
Is it true that Bao Dad, who can pick a spoon with his left hand and change a tire with his right hand, really can't do well in taking a baby and changing his child's diaper?
The conclusion is obvious, this is not the case, and the reason for this situation is only the result of long-term "inertial thinking" and cognition.
In fact, there is growing evidence that in addition to the fact that children cannot lack paternal love, fathers have a far better advantage than mothers in the matter of taking children.
For example, a few years ago, scientists confirmed that from a neurological point of view, when a father cares for a child, the brain is very sensitive, and in terms of talent for carrying a baby, it is stronger than the mother.
In addition, a study by Princeton University showed that men who have just become fathers also experience changes such as estrogen, oxytocin and glucocortical increases.
The researchers explained that such a change will make the more ferocious side of men less, thereby reducing the desire to attack and being more willing to be close to children.
At the same time, in the matter of distinguishing the baby's crying, the baby father is not inferior at all compared to the mother.
In one experiment, 27 babies and 29 dads were found and their children were found from 5 babies based on their cries.
As a result, 90% of parents can immediately find their babies, and in terms of quantity, the results of Bao Dad and Bao Mom are equally excellent.
Therefore, whether from a scientific point of view or a realistic operation, nature has never let Bao Dad stand idly by in the battle with the baby.
It's just a pity that social stereotypes have caused our inertial thinking, allowing men to go farther and farther on the road of caring for children.
Of course, more and more young parents have begun to realize the importance of fathers with babies, and bao mothers have also begun to use various tricks to try to pull bao dad back to the base camp with babies.
<h1>02 Xu Jiaying's "fancy graffiti" hinted at her husband changing diapers</h1>
Xu Jiaying, as a singer-songwriter, has won the love of many young people, at the end of last year, Xu Jiaying officially announced the good news, 35 years old to upgrade to become a mother.
No, two days ago, Xu Jiaying used a "fancy graffiti" method on her husband's birthday to suggest that her husband changed diapers.
In the picture posted, Xu Jiaying on the baby's diaper, doodle the words "Dad, Happy Birthday", if not explained by herself, people will really subconsciously think that this is written with the baby's "poop".
In fact, this kind of operation is also eye-catching, although the baby is still swaddling, but it has been graffiti on the baby's diaper, sending blessings to bao dad.
Presumably, when Xu Jiaying's husband sees this kind of picture, her heart will be melted, and she will definitely be eager to change the baby's diaper and join the ranks of the baby.
In addition, Jia Jingwen and Xiu Jiekai are also a model couple in the world of babies, and Xiu Jiekai, as the father of two children, has also been accompanying the growth of the baby.
The reason why Xiu Jiekai can devote himself to the process of taking the baby is because Jia Jingwen's driver has a way.
In the show "The Amazing Race", we can often see The Bird of Jia's side, and when she encounters problems, she will always say "Daddy, rely on you" and "What should I do without you" to express her dependence and admiration for her husband.
In fact, women's weakness is, to some extent, a weapon, so that men feel needed, naturally unconditional, more willing to be a good husband, a good father.
Therefore, in pulling Bao Dad back to the ranks of bringing the baby, it is crucial that Bao Mom can do the following points.
Appropriate weakness, so that the father feels that the parenting process is needed
Let go appropriately and give Bao Dad more room to play in parenting
Husband and wife work together to give Bao Dad more say in the parenting process
In fact, whether it is Jia Jingwen or Xu Jiaying, in the final analysis, it is to master these points, so that through a series of operations, Bao Dad is willing to take the baby and change the child's diaper.
Therefore, as long as we learn these methods, we can let the baby father participate, and the child brought out by the baby father has more advantages than the child brought out by the baby mother in some ways.
<h1>03 The baby brought out by Bao Dad, 3 aspects are stronger</h1>
Some people say that every participation of Bao Dad in parenting will become like a deposit, and every sum will be accumulated in the child's growth account, and eventually become the child's precious wealth.
And the psychologist Gerdy also once said: The emergence of the father is a unique existence, which has a special power to cultivate and care for children.
Therefore, let's take a look at what aspects of the children brought out by Bao Dad are more excellent.
1, Bao Dad with baby, the child wins at the starting line
The BBC has launched a major documentary, The Biological Significance of Fathers.
In this documentary, the family relationship patterns of 11,000 children were followed and studied, and it was found that the children's IQs were higher in the families where the father participated in the process of bringing the baby.
Experts have studied this conclusion and found that the reason for this result is mainly because the child starts from the babbling language, and the father and the mother are very different in the communication with the child.
Bao Dad will use more strange words and words, and has stronger logical thinking ability in communication, which leads to children growing and developing, more able to learn this ability, so that they will win at the starting line.
2, Bao Dad with a large baby, the child is more independent
Men's habitual "free-range baby" can be said to be even more important in cultivating children's independence.
Men are more willing to take care of their children in a free-range manner than their mother's pampering and everything, and under the influence of a long time, the child's independence will be higher.
Sun Yunxiao, an expert in adolescent research, believes that in taking care of children, mothers have more advantages in intimacy, while fathers are better at cultivating children's independence.
Therefore, the children brought up by the father can not worry about being "ma treasure men" at all.
3, the children brought out by the father, there are more possibilities in life
Some time ago, a bao dad who was called "Iron Man Daddy" by everyone was on fire.
Because his own children like Iron Man, Bao Dad thought that since he liked it, it was better for us to build one by hand, so he said that he would do it, the idea was very simple, but the process was very difficult, and the parts used alone were as high as more than 5,000.
However, this series of practices of Bao Dad also tells the child: as long as you have ideas, life has infinite possibilities.
Dr. John Gray of Psychology believes that because the mother is more emotional, she thinks more and does things more thoughtfully, but the father is more active.
Therefore, the baby that the father brings up will also have this trait, and with the blessing of this trait, the child's life possibilities will be more.
Mother Themi's message:
More and more realistic and scientific evidence tells us that Bao Mom should not fight alone, husband and wife, in order to do better things such as nursing and educating children.
Finally, I also hope that every couple can work together to shine in their role positioning, give the child the most perfect personality, and lay a good foundation for the child's beautiful future.
Today's Topic:
In your family, who is the main force with the baby? Will you try to get your husband to bring a baby? Welcome to leave a message to discuss.