The Tao Te Ching reads: "If you do not want to be quiet, the world will be self-determined." ”
Be a person, do not deliberately pursue, let nature, will live quietly; according to the law of the development of things, in order to do more with less.
There is a kind of person who remains silent in case of trouble and goes with the flow. Let all those who should come, let those who can't stay leave.
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Keep silent in case of trouble, so as not to change.
Montaigne said, "Silence is more beneficial to socializing than insincere words." ”
On the road of life, there will always be such troubles, and if you can't find a way to deal with it in time, it will be more and more troublesome.
However, when encountering trouble, if you toss blindly, it will do a lot of harm and no benefit. The most troublesome thing for a person is "his own mouth". As the saying goes, "Sickness comes from the mouth, and evil comes out of the mouth." "If a person can't manage his mouth, it means that he can't manage anything."
My colleague Xiao Li complained in the work group early yesterday morning: "I really don't know, why do you arrange me to work overtime continuously?" Just because I'm new here? ”
Soon, Xiao Li realized that he had made a mistake and quickly withdrew the "speech". But many colleagues still see it, and maybe their bosses see it too.
Xiao Li came to our unit not long ago, he was not familiar with the situation, and it was not strange that his work was in a hurry. However, Xiao Li did not find the reason from himself, and was unwilling to bow his head to consult his old colleagues, but instead complained wildly.
In the workplace, if you talk nonsense, it is easy to offend the leader and it is not good for themselves. No matter in which position, trouble is constantly a common thing, if you encounter trouble, you will "talk nonsense", the work is not done well, and you may lose your job.
Silent people, who seem to be bullied, are actually thinking. As long as you calm down, "there are more ways than difficulties"; as long as the personality becomes impatient, it is often "rushing to the doctor" and becoming more and more chaotic.
Anything, wait, endure, slow down, it is easy to be seen, you can see the essence through the appearance.
Silence, in fact, is to wait and see how it changes, so that you can be more confident in handling things, and it also shows that a person has the courage to "go against the grain".
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The best way to solve a problem is to go with the flow.
In the "Augmentation of the Sages", it is written: "But do good deeds, do not ask about the future." ”
A person should do more righteous deeds and do a good job in the present, rather than worrying about future development. Future events, which no one can say clearly, may be accidents, excessive worry, is meaningless.
Some people think that going with the flow, that is, waiting for the results to appear, waiting slowly, and not caring about anything. In fact, such an idea is wrong.
Smart people, not passively waiting, but in the waiting to accumulate strength, do more good deeds, as long as the opportunity comes, immediately "jump up".
I once read such a small story in a book: At the top of the mountain, there is a small temple, and there are two monks in the temple, one old and one small. Because the small temple is located on the top of the mountain and has no water source, carrying water has become something they have to do every day.
The little monk has little strength, and when he carries water, he often feels that his legs are weak, and the water in the bucket is always shaky. Two buckets full of water, when picked to the top of the mountain, there is not a third left.
The little monk was very angry: "Master, I carry water so hard, but the water does not listen to me, and it always leaks out." You think of a way to stop the water from leaking out. ”
The old monk said, "You can use a plastic kettle, cover the lid, and it won't leak." ”
The little monk thought to himself, it is really a good idea. Since carrying water from a plastic kettle, the little monk has never leaked the water he picked.
However, one day, the little monk found that the flowers and plants at the entrance of the small temple had withered. He was very sad: "Master, these flowers have withered, what should I do?" ”
The old monk said, "Really? Then you continue to carry water from the bucket, maybe it will be fine. ”
After many years, the little monk grew up, and he no longer felt difficult to carry water, and the water in the bucket was smooth and stable, and would not leak out. But every time the little monk fetched water, at the door of the small temple, he would shake a few times to let the water leak out, because the flowers and grasses at the door needed water.
It turns out that it is not necessarily right to do things "without leaking", and it is a good thing to be able to leave regrets or failures.
Someone said, "It's easy to destroy a person, just let him pursue perfection." ”
Life is destined not to be perfect, but we have been pursuing perfection; an imperfect life will achieve "perfection" in another way, but we always ignore this "perfection".
There is a kind of person who has learned to go with the flow, just like carrying water, the water that leaks out is actually watered with flowers and grass, and there is no need to deliberately prevent the "leakage".
Many problems must be taken with nature, and when an opportunity comes, the problem will be solved.
As the saying goes: "If you have the heart to plant flowers, the flowers do not bloom; if you have no heart to plant willows, the willows are shaded." ”
What can really help you succeed is often inadvertent, not deliberately pursued.
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There is a kind of wisdom called "great wisdom is foolish."
Truly intelligent people often have a mentality of "soldiers will block, water will cover", life rises and falls, what is the big deal?
If you do not calmly cope with the ups and downs of life, then it is the trough of life, it will be very painful, can not find the direction, and can not see hope. If you calmly deal with everything, the heart will be at peace, and you can always use the trough as a place to rise, and you can turn pain into experience.
As the saying goes: "The authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear." "When a person is accustomed to being a bystander, then he has the overall situation, is not controlled by others, and is not easily subdued.
Anything, can not be too hasty, let go of their own subjective assumptions, observe the law of the development of things, follow the law slowly, although the speed is slower, but the effect is more obvious.
A person, the more wisdom, the more he feels that he is not smart enough, and he still needs to study seriously. On the contrary, those who are ignorant are always "clever", thinking that they are right and that others are wrong.
Be a person, do something, do something, it is best to go with the flow.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
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