@Good Autumn Time After eating lunch at noon, staring at the cover of a book in a daze. On the cover, the three big words of freedom have been stimulating my eyeballs, making me have to think about what the definition of freedom really is!
When I received the book, my friend kept laughing at me because in her world, laughing at herself doesn't mean being free, at least that's what my friend told me. I thought about it a little, independent and self-reliant, she seems to have always been quite free, so people who can laugh at themselves should be really free.
In fact, laughing at yourself is a mentality, and this mentality is positive. Because you know where your bottom line is, you occasionally laugh at yourself and give yourself a blow, which is a free attitude. I have to say that this is still related to everyone's own personality, otherwise who would have something to do and learn to laugh at themselves?
This is a very magical book with a very powerful title, "Once you can laugh at yourself, you are free." The main reason why I chose to read this book is that I want to know what kind of "ridicule" belongs to laughter, and what kind of "freedom" is called freedom.
I opened the book and a sentence hit me directly— it was embarrassing to be born human — The Spell, Kurt Vonnegut. After all, people's lives will be composed of countless embarrassing moments, and this directly makes our lives into embarrassing existences.
What is embarrassment? Embarrassment is when everyone is silent. Embarrassment is when you don't know what to do. Embarrassment is an uncomfortable feeling. It's a situation where you often run out of words or can't speak. You'll want to get out of that situation as soon as possible.
Think about it, when we take embarrassment as a mantra, is our life really embarrassing? Perhaps for us, relieving our nervousness is the reason why we use "embarrassment" to describe life in the first place.
Seeing the words "born to be human", it is easy to think of a very sad sentence - born to be human, I am sorry. What kind of sadness is it to be able to say such a thing? And when I look at this book "Once You Can Laugh At Yourself, You're Free" – it's so embarrassing to be born as a human being – I laughed because I finally had a new sentence that allowed me to connect after I was born as a human being, and this sentence would not make me feel sad.
Life is short, and the originally sad life must be happy and happy. So, ah, awkward and embarrassing, a laugh passed, life may be complete, after all, who does not have an awkward moment in life?
When my grandmother was in the hospital, I went to visit my grandmother, and my sister said that they would arrive soon, and I happily went downstairs to wait for them. Looking at my sister's figure in the distance, I shouted and rushed over. I ran to the man and found out who it was, I didn't know who it was, so I continued to run away from this person with an excited face.
Embarrassment, real embarrassment, after all, the root cause of the recognition of the wrong person lies in oneself - it is your own problem not to look at who is on the other side and run over happily. So, embarrassment is embarrassing, there is a saying that is not called - as long as you don't feel embarrassed, then it is not embarrassing?
In the book "Once You Can Laugh At Yourself, You're Free," the author lists many things that he found particularly embarrassing when he was a child. These stories always feel like people can't help but be funny, so you can imagine that in fact, many people's embarrassing moments are the same, but this "embarrassment" is really embarrassing?
Back to the moment when I recognized the wrong person, I felt embarrassed because I recognized the wrong person, and now that I think back on the past, I think it will be a very ordinary thing, after all, the matter of recognizing the wrong person may be encountered by anyone. I think that if someone had rushed past me years ago and shouted "sister" with excitement, I would probably have only felt that this person was particularly lively.
Therefore, many "embarrassing" moments are actually our self-righteousness. This is like the problem of looking in the mirror that the author says in the book. When we look in the mirror, we see a self, and when we see a picture, we see another self. We are the same as ourselves, but we are different, and this is the same because we see ourselves, and this difference is also because we see ourselves differently.
In general, the book "Once You Can Laugh At Yourself, You Are Free" is a book that explains the two different attitudes and views of yourself and others look at yourself through various stories. Especially many times, we think that when others look at us, we are actually the only ones who pay attention to ourselves.
When we understand that many times the "embarrassment" is because we are looking at ourselves, we can also be assured of "self-deprecation". I think when my sister and I talk about the awkward moments when I recognize the wrong person, she may just laugh and laugh, and then we open up other topics. As for the moment that made me feel embarrassed to recognize the wrong person, it was just my own momentary feeling at that time.
"Once you can laugh at yourself, you are free", laughing at yourself, is the adjustment of your own mentality, so that you can learn to see yourself through the eyes of others. As for freedom, we can learn to look at ourselves with the eyes of others, is this not free?