Colton said: Sincere friendship seems to be healthy, and it is only when it is lost that it is precious.
In the face of a relationship, when the other party has given all the sincerity and love for us, can we be ashamed? Whether it is friendship or love, the person in it is like one end of the scale, if one party is weightless, the other will fall into the abyss of pain. Unequal feelings will only hurt the giver's feelings and lose the weightless person's heart.
Afghan writer Khaled Al-Husseini's masterpiece, The Kite Chaser, shows unequal friendship amid racial differences. His Amir enjoys the unconditional loyalty of his friend Hassan, but he repays Hassan with betrayal. When he became an adult, he found that this guilt and uneasiness had been with him throughout his life. It wasn't until he looked back and faced his mistakes that he finally plucked up the courage to open the way to self-redemption. And for each of us, can we have the courage to face ourselves like Amir and let our hearts be redeemed?
01 After all, it is difficult to maintain the balance of friendship with one's efforts
The most humble friendship is that one person gives everything and the other person enjoys it completely. A blind worship, a full acceptance.
The protagonist, Almi, is a young master living in a wealthy family, and Hassan, the son of the servant Ali, is a playmate who grew up with Amir.
They grew up drinking the same mother's breast milk, learning to talk together, watching movies together, climbing trees together, flying kites together...
Amir would encourage Hassan to play some pranks, and every time they were caught on the spot, Hassan would always stand up and admit his mistake.
Amir will also tease the illiterate Hassan, holding a storybook but telling his own nonsense plot, but Hassan listens to it with relish.
On their way to the movie, Hassan is humiliated by several soldiers, saying that his mother is exhausted, and he can only hide in the dark theater and cry alone, and Amir comforts Hassan with pain.
And when Amir meets assef, the person he hates most and fears the most, he instantly becomes weak like a bullying plaything, and it is Hassan who steps forward and pulls a slingshot to force Assef back.
Amir enjoys Hassan's loyalty and dedication, while he himself is an unbright escapist.
Two children with very different personalities are looked at by Amir's father, and Hassan is upright and brave, daring to be bold. And Amir, a child who can't stand up for himself, can only be a coward when he grows up in the eyes of his father.
When Amir knew these thoughts, he was extremely aggrieved and full of jealousy of Hassan.
Amir's time with his father didn't even want Hassan to accompany him. On the day of the inauguration ceremony of the orphanage, his father asked Amir to call Hassan along, but he lied that Hassan had something to do.
Jealousy is a thorn in the heart of a superficially superior person, the darkest rejection of someone superior to himself. Even the closest friends. When the original balance between the two is broken, hatred and jealousy mask the goodness of human nature, leading to the ever-irreparable mistake.
Amir's sense of superiority comes only from the fact that he is a pure Pashtun and Hassan is a low Hazara, and class differences leave them with a gap that is always separated.
This kind of friendship rather than friendship has been wavering in Amir's mind.
They always walked together, and in the absence of people, Amir acted as a strong man to comfort Hassan, and when the danger suddenly came, he became a weak person, without the slightest resistance, easily exposing his inner escape and the cowardice of his character
Assef, his sworn enemy, said, why did he play with others but not call Hassan, why did he always ignore Hassan when no one was there.
He is afraid that more people will find out about his cowardice and darkness, and can only continue to play the role of the strong in Hassan's eyes when no one is there.
Once the scale of friendship is out of balance, a person's painstaking efforts are humble, and such feelings are doomed to not go long.
02 The choice is only in one thought, whether to become a brave person or a coward
Finally, after a big kite flying competition, it also ignited the fuse for the imminent rupture of their friendship.
Amir won the championship in the kite competition, and when the opponent's kite fell, Hassan was ready to chase the victory for his young master, and he confidently said to Amir: For you, thousands of times.
This was the last time Hassan smiled brightly at Amir. And this turn has since cut away their friendship and life.
Hassan was forced into a corner by Assef to hand over the kite after chasing the kite, and hassan was asked to hand over the kite in his hand, which was the trophy for young master Amir to win the championship, and it was also the opportunity for young master Amir to win the attention of his father. He is here to guard the kite, and he is also guarding his young master.
In the end, the price of non-submission is to be mercilessly humiliated.
Amir, on the other hand, witnessed the crime, saw Hassan being persecuted, but he always hid in the corner and did not dare to show his face.
He also struggled in his heart, whether to become a hero in his father's heart or a coward.
When fear and cowardice prevail, what little morality remains in the heart will be vulnerable, and escape becomes the most instinctive reaction.
Amir, who witnessed all this, was even more tormented in his heart, and hassan who appeared in front of him since then was no longer the playmate Hassan of the past, but hassan who always reminded him of his cowardice.
He was ashamed and embarrassed after the tragedy, but he pretended not to know anything.
He did not dare to face Hassan's kindness to him, he scolded Hassan, and wanted to ask his father to drive away Hassan's father and son. Unexpectedly, he was dismissed by his father's fierce attitude, a plan could not be achieved, and another plan was made, he framed Hassan for theft, and as a result, Hassan admitted that at this time, Hassan probably understood the truth of Amir's heart, and they chose to take the initiative to leave, which made Amir's behavior look despicable and dark.
In the face of their own unbearable and betrayal, escape is the most useless way, and as long as you have a little guilt, the rest of your life will be shrouded in the shadow of inferiority.
Then the political war in Afghanistan began, and Amir and his father had to abandon everything and flee to the United States. Former status and wealth will have nothing to do with them. They boarded a black car smuggled in, and their future was dark.
When the car passed the checkpoint, it was raided and inspected, and the Russian soldiers who checked the car wanted to invade a nursing young mother in the same car, and no one in the car dared to say a word, and Amir also curled up in the corner of the carriage and did not dare to move.
Amir's father stood up and threatened the soldiers in turn without fear of life and death, while the cold muzzle of the gun was already aimed at his father. This does not affect his determination to resolutely defend his compatriots. In the end, his swearing-to-death momentum frightened the soldiers.
His father was one such man, known as "Mr. Hurricane," who fought a black bear with his bare hands and his eyes widened to make "the devil kneel and beg for forgiveness." He built a widow's house without any experience, despite the world's incomprehension. Just and courageous, he had the same expectations of Amir.
Amir was terrified, but wondered what he would do if his father was killed, he would be left alone.
When the heart is full of justice, bravery follows, and only by not fearing everything can one live frankly. The most difficult thing in life is that no matter who you choose to become, there will be difficulties and setbacks, but you must have the courage and determination to go on.
03 Bravely facing the past can realize the transformation of life
Time is greedy, and sometimes it will swallow up all the details alone, but conscience will always remind you that there is still unfinished redemption.
In the United States, Amir grew up, and he was at ease with everything here, as if this was the place where he grew up, and no one knew his past and his unknown cowardice. Here, he realized his dream of writing, found a kind wife, and everything went smoothly.
In contrast, his father was always very wandering, and he could only secretly miss his hometown and relatives in his growing years. Even if his body began to weaken, his father still held his faith in his heart as before, and justice and bravery were never abandoned.
We always like to find many reasons for ourselves to explain our cowardice, but the truth is that one day, we have to face those sins calmly and redeem our hearts.
One day after his father's death, he received a call from his friend Racine Khan. Rahim Khan wanted Amir to return to visit him. After learning about some of the deceased, Amir decided to go back, because there was a way for him to become a good man again.
Returning to his hometown to meet Rahim Khan, he tells Amir a secret.
Hassan was the child secretly born by his father and the wife of his servant Ali, so Hassan was his father's illegitimate son, which explains why the father always looked at Hassan with a loving look, which Amir had always dreamed of.
The truth revealed by Rahim Khan shatters his father's image as a hero in Amir's mind. Amir respected his father, and at this time he began to understand that his father had been a little disappointed and cold to him, because he had not become a hero in his father's eyes, and he would always escape when things happened.
Amir's cowardice reminds his father of his betrayal of Ali, whom he regards as a friend, himself a cowardly escapist. Faced with the departure of his son Hassan, there was nothing he could do. This became the pain and regret of the rest of his life. So his disappointment in Amir is also a disappointment in himself.
Amir learns that Hassan was brutally murdered to protect his home and that his son was abandoned in a orphanage. He decided that in order to make up for his and his father's past mistakes, he must rescue the child, which was his nephew.
Because they are also the sons of their fathers, only he is the glorious side of his father, the side recognized by the world, hassan can only be reduced to the Hazara people, abandoned and trampled by the people, and endure the worst tribulations in the world.
The most exciting moment for people is to clear the fog and see the road under our feet, which can guide us in the right direction, that is, to bravely face our past and save ourselves from pain.
Amir went through all kinds of hardships to find Hassan's son Sohrab, the process of searching for twists and turns, the little Sohrab inferiority, autism, he experienced the hope of getting rid of bad luck, and because he could not escape the status quo disappointed, and even committed suicide. Fortunately, he was saved. Eventually, he traveled with Amir to the United States. However, little Sohrab had no difficulty in opening the closed door of his heart.
Amir never gave up, and in a kite game, he showed Sohrab with the superb skills with which Hassan used to fly a kite, and Amir saw the surprise and waves in his eyes.
This time he was going to be the kite chaser and say to Sohrab, "For you, a thousand times." This was hassan's promise to Amir in the past, but it was only betrayed by his cowardice.
This time he successfully redeemed himself, giving all his love and bravery to Hassan's son Sohrab and becoming a hero in his heart.
In the relationship, what we seek is nothing more than two things, one is the selfless efforts of friends, and the other is our return for sincere friendship. It's like a kite that needs to be held tightly in our hands.
Once we may be lost in our own confinement, lose the direction we should have, but the most important thing is not to escape from reality all the time, but to bravely break through the shackles of self-appointedness, complete the transformation of life, and become a better self.