Regarding rural household affairs, there are many folk sayings, and some of them still have certain reference significance. "Good men do not compete for family meals, good women do not want to marry clothes" this sentence, I believe many friends have heard, this sentence can not only look at the literal meaning, which contains a profound truth. After reading this article, I believe that everyone will have a different understanding.
"Good men do not compete for family meals, good women do not want to marry clothes" is explained literally, good men should not compete for the "meals" of the family (with quotation marks), and good women should not try to get married when "clothes" (with quotation marks). The literal meaning is very simple, so let's talk about the implications.
In the first half of the sentence "good men do not compete for family meals", "rice" does not refer to meals alone, but family property, before there were many children in the countryside, after marriage, they will divide family property, such as homesteads, agricultural appliances, furniture, etc., especially homesteads, basically boys will be divided. After the separation of the family, they built their own houses and lived on their own, while their parents would find a small vacant lot and build a house to live in.
And now, if there are capable men, there is no need to divide the family property, such as the most important homestead, the capable will buy a house in the county, settle in the city, and the rural homestead will be given to the brothers. The author's village has a similar thing, the boss is at home, the second is in the field, has not returned for more than ten years, the old house in the family is the boss, but if the boss builds a house, he will leave a few rooms for the second, if the second comes back to visit relatives, you can live, usually do not come back, the boss can also live.
However, netizens also have different views, believing that whether it is a "good man" or a "bad man", it is still necessary to share the production reduction, especially the homestead. One of the netizens said that he himself was because when the family property was divided, he did not want a homestead, worked hard to settle outside, after more than ten years, the local village was demolished, and as a result, he did not fish for anything, and because of this incident, the relationship with his brother is now cold.
Looking at the second half of the sentence "a good woman does not want to marry a dress", the "clothes" here does not only refer to the clothes worn, but also contains all the dowry, in addition, there is an explanation that refers to the "mother's family".
Whether it was before or now, when the daughter gets married, the woman will accompany the dowry, there are clothes, quilts, etc., according to different family conditions, the dowry is also different. Before the girl is married, her parents will be responsible for everything, but after marriage, it is the man's family, and what happens in the future needs to be responsible for the husband and in-laws, and the mother and mother of the mother's family are basically no longer responsible.
Therefore, after getting married, don't think about the mother's family for everything, if there is a woman who has the ability or ability, she can speak in the man's family, and the husband and in-laws also listen to their own words. On the contrary, some girls, do not have independent opinions, or will not deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there are things to help the mother and father of the mother-in-law, but because after marriage, the parents have no care or manage very little, especially for girls who are far away, even if the mother and father of the mother's family want to manage, due to the distance, there is nothing they can do.
The above is the relevant explanation of "good men do not compete for family meals, good women do not want to marry clothes", and my own point of view, this saying is actually not right or wrong, the family is different, the final result is also different.
For example, many families are now only children, and a family is a boy, and there is no need to think about dividing the family property. Now, after some girls get married, the two families get along very harmoniously, and many parents directly treat their daughters-in-law as girls. It can be said that it is the development of society, and it can also be said that the living conditions are getting better and better.
In short, we must understand the profound meaning of the phrase "good men do not fight for family meals, good women do not want to marry clothes", some things need to be fought for by themselves, others cannot give you all, only if you fight for yourself, you will get what you want.
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