If you want to grow, do what is good for you but you are afraid of. Only if you have experienced it to know that when encountering difficulties, perhaps behind the gritted teeth and perseverance is the power of success, and every breakthrough will reap a piece of growth.
Why is it that many people often have no way to do what we really want to do in our hearts?
Teacher Fan Deng said that our thinking mode is divided into two types: a fixed mentality and a growth mindset. People with a fixed mindset resist challenges, hate change, and like to stay in their comfort zone, thus tying their hands and feet; while people with a growth mindset, not afraid of failure and humiliation, always think that they still have room for improvement, and believe that through hard work, "everything is possible."
When the former looks at the unknown, it sees more fear, while the latter looks at the future as all about opportunity and hope.
There must be such a person around you, who was talented and intelligent when he was a child, but he was devastated by a setback, and finally disappeared from everyone. Almost all of them have a characteristic: they have strong self-esteem. When you are sailing smoothly, you feel that you can do everything, and once you encounter small difficulties, you feel that you are useless.
They like to grow up with an aura on their bodies, pay special attention to the evaluation of others, face challenges once they fail to be afraid of being evaluated, for things that are difficult or cannot be completed, they are willing to escape, and always maintain the role of "strongman" in the crowd.
People with a growth mindset believe that everything should be tried, and he believes that progress and change can be achieved through hard work. At the same time, he will think about how to get things done, rather than what problems will be encountered in doing things.
The god of the ball Jordan is such an example, we see the glory of Jordan, we may say that he has this talent existence, it must be that he is particularly powerful to reach the status of the god of the ball.
You have to know that he was excluded from the high school team. He came home very frustrated and told his mother, "The team doesn't want me, says my physical fitness is not good." His mother said, "Then practice." So he began to train desperately.
Every time Jordan loses a game, the first thing he does is practice. He feels that if he doesn't play well today and feel badly, he will continue to train. Jordan's career is very long among all sports players, and he once challenged baseball for a while.
In the eyes of normal people, this person is too crazy, your aura, you are such a great celebrity, how can you run to a baseball field that you are not familiar with to play baseball, and still hope to become a professional baseball player? It's humiliating.
But, for Jordan, he felt, what shame was there? This is my hobby, my life, and I want to try it. So, he plays baseball in shame and makes people boo him, or he disappoints people. It doesn't matter, that's your opinion, I'm constantly trying, I'm learning.
The most difficult time of his life was his second comeback from the baseball field back to the basketball court, and he lost several games in a row with the Bulls. The evaluation of him has reached the "bottom".
At that moment, Jordan didn't do anything else, just step up his training, and as he grew older, his fitness must be declining. But you will find that Jordan played in the later stages, and he did not rely on his body, that is, he constantly practiced his skills to adapt to his older body. That's the greatness that a growth-thinking player can show.
The so-called growth is that you face a thing that makes you afraid, and you are no longer afraid.
Maybe you're not familiar with it, maybe you haven't done it, but you're not afraid, and you have the courage to correct yourself while walking and watching, doing it.
Because the essence of fear is to maintain the original life, you give up the obsession of maintenance, and you can eliminate the fear.
Once you have done things and broken through, the sense of accomplishment you gain is incomparable to anything else.
The minimum threshold for growth is: fear. What kind of mentality you use to face difficulties, the fruits you harvest will be similar to what you expected. To take a step forward and to take a step forward is to grow. Yes, growth comes at a price, but just like planting a field, without sowing seeds, what do you take to reap the fruit?
Zhang Defen said: When you really want something, what you emit is the vibrational frequency of that energy, and then the whole universe will unite to help you achieve what you want.
If you want to exude that frequency, then insist on it for many years. No longer afraid of failure, no longer afraid of being surpassed, walking at your own speed, paving the way with your own efforts, getting, it's only a matter of time.