A friend and her friend have partnered to open a physiotherapy shop, with a dream, and it is a big health industry, a good project that follows the trend.
Every time the two of us talked on the phone, we would ask each other about the latest situation, and she told me that the store was much better and better, and when there were many people, we had to queue up. Listening to her talk like this, I was sincerely happy for her, and really chose the right small cause.
Last night she micro me asked if I had time, came over to talk about the day, I asked her to come to my shop. I could tell she had something to say to me.
Listening to her, she and her partner have been working together for almost a year at the end of the year, and the two people did not have rules when they first cooperated, thinking that it was a good project and began to roll up their sleeves and work hard, and now they are facing a lot of problems.
On weekdays, she is responsible for the busyness of the store, her friends are responsible for running outside, it seems that the division of labor is clear, but because physiotherapy is a service project, usually someone must be in the store for a long time, so she is always stationed in the store.
The endless stream of customers makes my friend have no more time for himself, because there is no usual rest, and the housework at home is sometimes too busy to do.
And she has a strong sense of responsibility, always willing to do everything well and give customers better service, so it is always herself who is affected.
At that time, the two people did not have much negotiation, the QR code of the store collection was her friend's, and the money was also confused, so she sometimes needed to ask for money with the other party, and the other party would remember that she did not give my friend money.
Over time, tired and heavy workload, my friend was a bit overwhelmed, and several times he proposed to let the other party serve customers together, and the other party always had various reasons to run outside to talk about business, refusing to be busy in the store.
The workload is large, coupled with no time to take care of the family, there is no rest time, the two people agree to be evenly distributed, but they can't see the money in hand. My friend began to regret the original partnership, and this time he came to ask me if there was any reason to continue to cooperate.
All things must have a law, and to do things, we must also pay attention to a "degree", there is a degree, there is a measure, there is a degree, there is a reverence.
In the same way, kindness must also have a degree, and we must not let the good medicine that warms people become a deadly poison.
Life is short, there are countless twists and turns, and kindness should be left to those who deserve it, and they can't patronize the umbrellas of others and wet themselves.
Kindness, first of all, is to be compassionate to oneself.
The Zen master saw a scorpion falling into the water, and reached out to save it, but the scorpion stung the Zen master, and the Zen master suddenly released his hand, and the scorpion fell into the water again.
The Zen master reached out again and fished out the scorpion, and the scorpion stung the Zen master again.
The fisherman next to him asked him, "The scorpion stings you every time, so why do you have to save it?" ”
The Zen master replied, "The scorpion stings the human being, and compassion is my nature." ”
Seeing that the scorpion was still struggling in the water, the fisherman picked up a small branch and placed it in the water, and the scorpion climbed up along the branch.
The fisherman said, "There is nothing wrong with compassion, but first be merciful to yourself." ”
Yes, we should advocate kindness, which is a lifelong practice, but it is also a stupidity to consume it excessively.
When doing good to others, we must also ensure that we are not hurt, and before we are good to others, we must first learn not to live up to ourselves.
If good people are frequently let down, and good people always suffer losses, the indifference of this world will be born from here.
Only under the premise of maintaining independent dignity and space, as far as possible to release kindness to others, warm others and protect themselves at the same time.
Those who collect firewood for others in the cold winter to keep warm, can not freeze themselves to death in the wind and snow, all good people, deserve to be treated kindly.
Good nature, no one is right, but don't let kindness become a tool for others to bully you.
Kindness should be admired, but it must be a little sharp. Hopefully, all those who plant flowers for others can also live in a garden.