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Someone once asked me why when I was young, I envisioned my future life, hoping that I could break out of the world, make a difference, and live such a beautiful and complete life as I imagined. But after really experiencing it, when one day you become a person yourself, but find that the original life is just like this, there will always be a strong sense of disappointment and helplessness filled the atrium, how can you get rid of this feeling?
The only answer is not to have too high expectations for your life, to know that everyone's life is actually the same, food, clothing, housing, eating, drinking, lasa, chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, nothing more, in addition to these can not turn out any new tricks. And the happiness and pain, hope and despair we feel in life are actually all given by our own hearts.
When you fail to do what you expect, when you miss it with your loved ones, you will always feel a strong sense of sadness and sorrow, and even hate the injustice of fate, why will you have such a frustrated life?
If one day we walk through the willow darkness, usher in Hua Ming, have the success after a hundred turns and a thousand times, and have a lover who finally becomes a family, we will be extremely happy and grateful to God for giving you a happy ending in our hearts.
Our lives are actually the same, everyone is running forward, moving forward, missing at the same time as having, losing at the same time as gaining, the most important thing is how you look at it.
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Writer Liao Yimei said: "People are essentially living the same life, the difference is what your heart is feeling. ”
A friend I know whose biggest hobby in life is to keep complaining. Feel that others are better than themselves everywhere, feel that their marriage is a chicken feather, painful to the point of collapse, she and her husband will always have disputes over various things, most of them are just her alone there angrily cursing, complaining about everyone around her, why other people's lives are always so happy and happy, and she has to face an unmotivated husband, an ignorant son, and a difficult in-laws.
In fact, this friend herself is quite good, she is a university teacher, teaching and educating people for half a lifetime, and she is also very strict in the classroom, but there are also a group of students who respect and love her very much, and often come to visit her.
Some students said to her: Teacher, in fact, I have always been very envious of your life, knowing that you have walked so many roads when you were young, and you have gone abroad, you have more insights than us, and you have very unique insights on many things, I think you live differently from everyone.
This sentence almost made her tearful, she remembered at that time, she was also a good young man with dreams and momentum, when she was young, she saved a sum of money, went abroad to play once, saw different customs and customs, broadened her horizons, and at the same time was more determined that life must be a good life, not for anyone, only for herself.
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But later, after all, she gave up all this for the sake of marriage and family, and chose to be an ordinary woman who taught her husband and son. Perhaps it is this change that has always made her heart have some unwillingness.
It was the student's words that made her really calm down and take a good look at her life. Slowly she also found that her life was not as unbearable as she said, in fact, in other people's lives, there are many contradictions and frictions, but our family affairs will not be easily mentioned to the outside, and what everyone sees is the best appearance of others.
So she learned to live more harmoniously and peacefully with her husband, and also discovered many of his strengths. For her own life, she chose to understand in another way, to look at it from another angle, and in the end she also harvested the happiness and stability that she had always dreamed of.
Only then did she understand that happiness had always been around you, all depending on what kind of attitude you looked at, all depending on whether you had a good grasp of it, and whether you cherished it before it disappeared.
In this world, there are always people who keep complaining, and some people say why some children are taller than others from birth? From a good family, he grew up with a golden spoon, went to the best primary school, received the best education, grew up and went abroad to study, and his life path was more extraordinary than others from the beginning.
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Some people say that why are other people's feelings so smooth, only experiencing love once in their lives, they can grow old with the person they love?
But if you feel it with your heart, you will find that those who are happily married actually have their own sad things, because every family has a chore that is constantly cut and messy.
And those proud sons of heaven who are born to win at the starting line, they naturally have the pain that we ordinary people can't ignore, standing high naturally and falling fiercely, once they lose their feet, they are hated for eternity, because what awaits them under their feet is the abyss.
I agree with Liao Yimei's words very much, people in essence, in fact, are the same days, chai rice oil and salt, there is no difference.
The only difference is how we look at it, how we feel it, if we have hatred in our hearts, with endless resentment, our lives will naturally be unsatisfactory and unsatisfactory everywhere.
If you can have a grateful heart, look at the people and things around you with a grateful eye, face gains and losses calmly, and cherish everything you have at the moment, you will find that life has become cute everywhere.
Those who are always extremely lucky in the eyes of others, always easily get everything they want, they must always have a happy smile on their faces, not because they get it, but because they have a good attitude, even if they are in adversity, they never give up, so they will finally get their own happiness.