The father is big, the mother is good-tempered

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(The big pattern of the father, the good mood of the mother, is the best feng shui in a family)

If the father is the mountain, the mother is the sea.

The mountains give people to rely on, and the sea soothes people's hearts.

If the father is the lamp, the mother is the fire.

Lights illuminate the direction, fire brings warmth.

1. The pattern of the father determines the direction of the family.

The so-called pattern, "grid" is personality, "bureau" is the vision, the mind. As the locomotive of the family train, the father's character is noble and broad-minded, so as to ensure that the development direction of the family is not wrong.

Only those who have a big heart can have a big pattern; those who have a big pattern can become a big climate. This point has long been exquisitely interpreted by Chinese characters: those who stand on the mountain have a long-term vision, so they are "immortal" people; those who stand in the valley have a limited vision pattern, so they are "common" people.

Father has a big pattern, may not seek the prosperity of the family business, the name has been passed down through the ages, the pattern is also reflected in the attitude to life, the open-mindedness to adversity. I think of that moving article, "Bringing a Smile Home":

In a poor rural family, the child is 1 point behind in the high school entrance examination, and has to pay an 8*** school choice fee. The mother and son were worried, but the father brought a worse news: "I am laid off." But when my father said this, he was smiling.

His elderly and frail father ran into a wall looking for a job, but every day when he came home, his mother asked him about the situation, and he smiled and replied, "Almost."

Suddenly, one day, my father changed his mouth and said, "I'll go to work tomorrow!" This time, he smiled even happier.

My father began to work on the only three**** car in the family, but he was accidentally injured while transporting goods. When I got home, my father was still smiling and giggling, even saying "it's okay, it's okay"...

In the end, the family relied on his father's three- car to save up the tuition. The child was also infected by his father, and secretly resolved to study hard during high school and was admitted to a prestigious school.

Around us, too many families have good economic conditions, but they are often filled with smoke because of their children's temporary achievements and a little difficulty in life. And this poor father can not be chaotic, open-minded and optimistic, "want to be a big tree, not to fight", is a rare pattern.

No matter what position a man is in, he cannot limit the breadth of his heart, especially men.

When the father has a big picture, his wife will have the determination not to be chaotic, and his children will have the motivation to go forward. And all this is the strength that a family has accumulated for future prosperity.

2. The mother's emotions determine the temperature of the family.

If the father plays the role of the helmsman and leader in the family, then the mother is the regulating valve and oxygen supply machine of a family.

Hu Shi wrote in the article "My Mother", "My mother has a large temperament, a good temperament, the most benevolent and gentle treatment of others, and has never said a word that hurts people's feelings."

When he was a child, Hu Shi's family was in a decadent state, and every year Chinese New Year's Eve there was always a large group of debt collectors who came to the house, each with a lantern, sitting in the hall and refusing to go. Hu Shi's eldest brother had long avoided going out. The mother walked in and out, taking care of Chinese New Year's Eve meals, thanking the god of the stove, pressing the old money and other things, there was no trace of resentment on her face, just as if she did not see this group of people.

It was not until nearly midnight that the mother went out through the back door, invited a neighbor to come to the house, gave a little money to each debtor, and sent away the debt collectors one by one with a pleasant face. After a while, the eldest brother knocked on the door and came back, and his mother never scolded him. And because it was New Year's, she never showed a little anger on her face. Hu Shi recalled that for six or seven years, the New Year was celebrated like this.

The eldest sister-in-law in the family did not understand things, and the second sister-in-law was small, but Hu Shi's mother never quarreled with the two sisters-in-law. "They often make trouble, but because of my mother's kind example, they have not openly scolded each other."

The kindness of the mother does not mean unprincipled indulgence in spoiling the child, on the contrary, the mother disciplines Hu Shi the most strictly.

She is a loving mother and a strict father, but she never scolds him in front of others, and when she hits him, she will punish the child for kneeling, and no matter how severe the punishment, she will not allow her son to cry, because she taught her son not to use this to make others listen.

Finally, Hu Shi writes:

"If I can learn the slightest bit of good temper, if I can learn a little kindness to others, if I can forgive people and be considerate of people - I have to thank my loving mother." 」

Ms. Hong Lan, a doctor of psychology in Taiwan and an expert in brain science, used her brain research report on men and women to clarify from a scientific point of view: from the perspective of human evolution, women's emotional energy far exceeds that of men, mothers are the soul of the family, mothers are happy and the whole family is happy, and mothers are anxious about the whole family.

So when you educate a boy, you educate only a boy; but when you educate a girl, you educate the whole family and the next generation.

Liao Yimei, a famous screenwriter, said: "I don't think a good wife has to do housework, I can't cook, but I am confident that what I give my family is more important than cooking." ”

Today, my son is cheerful and optimistic, and his goal in life is to be happy. Liao Yimei said: "I told my son that this goal is good, and I am quite proud of myself, and I think it is very good for me and Old Meng (husband Meng Jinghui) to be subtle." ”

3. Family harmony is the highest state of practice.

"Whether it is a king or a farmer, family harmony is the happiest."

The Father is Qiantian and the Mother is Kundi. Qiankun is suitable for attracting each other, and the human universe and the beauty are infinite. The father has direction, the mother has temperature, and the fortunes of a family must be smooth.

A family's good feng shui and good luck are the blessings cultivated by all family members, inseparable from the father who is as steady as a mountain and humble as a valley, inseparable from the tender and understanding mother, and even more inseparable from the good husband and wife relationship and the harmonious and happy family atmosphere.

A good family will never be estranged and hidden, and there will be frequent gaps; but a group of people will go in one direction, walking together is fate, and walking together is happiness.

The big picture of the father and the good mood of the mother are the best feng shui in a family.

The family wants to prosper,

It takes the big picture of the father and the good mood of the mother.

If the home is a house, then filial piety is the foundation, diligence is the beam, and forgiveness is the roof.

Without filial piety, the family will be uneasy; without diligence, the family will fall; without forgiveness, the family will be scattered.

For a family to be peaceful and prosperous, these three points are indispensable, and the fortunes of a family are hidden in these three points