How women define their marriage in the end is always a topic of self-knowledge such as people drinking cold and warm, and the attitude of female stars to marriage will often receive more people's attention, some of them are humble, some are hardcore, some are calm, some are warm, some are sober, and some are dazed.
Xu Fan is a very special one, she once defined marriage as "a legitimate enemy between husband and wife" in an interview with "Great Sister".
All along, Xu Fan's marriage is a topic that people like to chew after tea and dinner, especially her understanding of her husband's lace news, such as "it is not us who suffer losses", some people say that she is open-minded and transparent, and some people say that she is humble and strong, she can endure 8 years to survive the original match, tolerate Feng Xiaogang's heart, Xu Fan's fierceness is far beyond your imagination.
Nowadays, when Xu Fan is mentioned, everyone instinctively remembers that she is Feng Xiaogang's wife, and her own achievements on the screen seem to have been forgotten.
But the truth is that she is a national first-class actress, who has been nominated for the Golden Rooster Award many times, and has won the Huabiao Award, the Asian Film Festival, and the Cairo Film Festival.
Xu Fan has been very independent since he was a child, in the words of the old man, "the idea is right", his father is a Chu opera actor, Xu Fan has liked the stage since he was a child, but his parents feel that learning drama is too bitter, so he has always been very opposed to Xu Fan's contact with opera. As a result, when he was 15 years old, Xu Fan applied for the Hubei Provincial Opera School without authorization from his parents, and only told his parents when he was admitted.
The parents had no choice but to compromise, but they did not expect that three years later, Before Xu Fan graduated, the school was yellow, and Xu Fan rolled up the covers and went home.
Normal school can not go to, she applied for the Wuhan Repertory Theatre, after graduation, she stayed in the troupe to do miscellaneous work, the dragon set ran for three or four years.
Later, when she met a noble person to really embark on the road of acting, her first nobleman was Yang Lixin, and after the two of them had cooperated once, Yang Lixin saw that Xu Fan had potential, so after returning to Beijing, the two have been in contact.
In 1987, Yang Lixin told Xu Fan in a New Year's greeting card that Beijing Renyi and Central Opera would jointly organize classes and encouraged her to take the exam.
So as soon as the Spring Festival passed, Xu Fan packed his bags and stepped on the train to the north, and it turned out that Yang Lixin's vision was correct, Xu Fan was successfully admitted, and after four years of graduation, he stayed in Beijing Renyi.
Xu Fan, who has no relatives in Beijing, has been taken care of by Yang Lixin and his wife at first, and later attracted to Wang Zhiwen, and the two have fallen in love.
But the good times did not last long, with the popularity of Wang Zhiwen, Xu Fan felt that the gap with him was getting bigger and bigger, just when Xu Fan was appreciated by Tian Zhuangzhuang, filmed "Special Operating Room" and "Grand Eunuch Li Lianying" was an official debut, but the result overturned Wang Zhiwen's vinegar jar, the two had a big fight after Xu Fan was driven out of the house, and later she recalled that at that time, she felt like an abandoned baby.
When the future was confused, Xu Fan received "The Big Sa handle", at this time Feng Xiaogang was still just a small screenwriter, desperately trying to make money every day to treat his daughter's cleft lip and palate, with the role of Lin Zhouyun, Xu Fan officially debuted and was nominated for the Golden Rooster Award for Best Actress.
When the director invited Feng Xiaogang to see the sample film, he asked him, "How's it going, not bad!" Feng Xiaogang said, "Well, it's very good, but the heroine is a little bit interesting." The director laughed and told Feng Xiaogang that the heroine was sitting behind you.
The first time they met, it was a little awkward, Feng Xiaogang felt very embarrassed, so he found a friend to make a dinner to apologize to Xu Fan, and after a meal, the two people also became friends who talked about everything.
Because of the success of "Big Sa tong", Feng Xiaogang finally has the strength to pursue the dream of becoming a director, and then he joined hands with Zheng Xiaolong to shoot the TV series "Beijingers in New York" and once again received a lot of praise, in 1994, Feng Xiaogang shot the movie "Forever Lost My Love", about the heroine he has long had a candidate, that is, Xu Fan.
Since then, Xu Fan has become the royal heroine of Feng Xiaogang, "A Place of Chicken Feathers", "Party A and Party B", "Not Seen and Not Scattered", etc., Xu Fan has been nominated for the Golden Rooster Award six times, nominated for the Hundred Flowers Award twice, won the Huabiao Award for Film Queen twice with "Not Seen and Not Scattered" and "Tangshan Earthquake", and was nominated for the Golden Horse Award.
Xu Fan almost became famous hand in hand with Feng Xiaogang, and this process Xu Fan endured for a full 8 years.
After the two people were familiar, Feng Xiaogang often joked with Xu Fan before and after that she was his girlfriend, Xu Fan was not angry and let him say that he was making trouble, the two took a plane together Feng Xiaogang had to change his seat to Xu Fan, and the rumors of the two people also spread widely, which was already a well-known secret in the circle.
But at this time, Feng Xiaogang already has a family, his wife Zhang Di is not a good stubble, in the face of Feng Xiaogang and Xu Fan's lively gossip, she does not take it seriously at all, since it is Feng Xiaogang who is fresh for a while, and naturally goes home after playing enough.
But what Zhang Di did not expect was that Feng Xiaogang was not just playing, from the first time he saw Xu Fan, he put this girl into his heart, of course, Feng Xiaogang also lived in Xu Fan's heart.
Just like she once said, Feng Xiaogang adopted her heart, unlike Wang Zhiwen's indifference and purity, Feng Xiaogang was humorous and considerate, there was no sweet talk, but it made Xu Fan have a strong sense of belonging, so she was willing to accompany Feng Xiaogang with Xiao San's insults and respond to those specious jokes and noises.
After eight years of stalemate, Zhang Di realized that her delaying strategy had failed, feng Xiaogang did not have the slightest intention of going home, but the distance with himself became shorter and shorter, and finally the two broke up peacefully, Zhang Di took her daughter to study abroad, and from then on completely broke off contact.
Feng Xiaogang received a divorce certificate with Zhang Di on the front foot, a marriage license with Xu Fan on the back foot, and a lively wedding in 1999, and Xu Fan became "Feng Xiaogang's wife" since then.
From the very beginning, Xu Fan clearly knew what kind of situation he was going to face, did not make any demands, and listened to Feng Xiaogang's arrangements, including how to face his daughter.
The first day Xu Fan stepped into Feng Xiaogang's home, his daughter gave Xu Fan a cup of white water mixed with salt, and Xu Fan drank it without changing his color, and after this scene, feng Xiaogang put it into the movie "A Sigh", which shows how much Xu Fan can endure.
Xu Fan knows that this daughter is the lifeblood of Feng Xiaogang, because her daughter had a cleft lip and palate when she was a child, and Feng Xiaogang proposed to Xu Fan not to have children on the grounds of psychological shadows, but in fact, Xu Fan knew in his heart that this was Feng Xiaogang's agreement with his ex-wife Zhang Di, that is, he was afraid of having children treat his daughter harshly.
Even though Xu Fan liked the child very much, he still agreed to Feng Xiaogang's request, and it was not until many years later that the two adopted a child.
In addition to children and careers, Xu Fan began to gradually return to the family after marriage, in addition to the drama of Beijing Renyi, he occasionally acted in Feng Xiaogang's films, but his acting skills did not regress at all, Feng Xiaogang directed the web drama "North and South" for the first time, Xu Fan even if there are only a few cameos in it, but it is full of highlights.
Sure enough, Xu Fan was still that Xu Fan.
In addition to giving up her career, Xu Fan is also a good hand at home, taking care of Feng Xiaogang's diet and living in every detail, and some people even say that Xu Fan's care for Feng Xiaogang is especially like taking care of a big child, even her attitude towards the "Feng Pants" lace news after marriage is like an old mother who protects her calves.
Feng Xiaogang seems to be able to tell the heroine a little funny story in every play, Xu Fan is like a melon-eating crowd to see the hilarity, not at all true.
The biggest incident was Feng Xiaogang's overnight stay with the well-known anchor Shen Xing, who was released by the paparazzi to take pictures of the hammer, although the woman strenuously denied it.
But the eyes of netizens are not blind, after the rapid fermentation of the incident, Shen Xing returned to Hong Kong, but the popularity is not as good as before, and Feng Xiaogang is like a person who has nothing to do, what to do, do not respond, do not explain.
So the media turned the camera on Xu Fan again, and it turned out that Xu Fan was also the same silent, it was time to shoot a scene, what to do.
In the face of the news of her husband's cheating, I am afraid that xu fan is the only one who can be so calm and open-minded, and the only person who dares to interview her head-on is Venus.
Xu Fan was a guest of "Venus Show", talking about the warblers and swallows around Feng Xiaogang, and also broke out the golden sentence "Our family is male, and we do not suffer losses."
Such an answer makes the famous mouth Venus almost unable to catch, in Xu Fan's concept, men can not control, at most can manage to die at home, simply do not care, not to mention those little girls themselves to pounce on, if you come to one, you must not be angry to death and exhaust.
In this regard, Feng Xiaogang's attitude is, "Men in the world are the same, marriage does not need the truth, women must understand the overall situation." Xu Fan is such a person, without any shortcomings. ”
So from the very beginning they reached a certain tacit understanding, marriage this thing is originally like people drinking water cold and warm self-knowledge, but it is really rare to be able to do Xu Fan's share, and it is indeed not an ordinary person who can lower "Feng Pants".