Introduction: When some girls are in love, they can do anything for their boyfriends, but they will not think about whether it is worth it.
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I saw a girl on the Internet talking about her love experience:
"I was a slightly chubby girl who had a boyfriend, and it was he who took the initiative to pursue me, and at that time he would consciously or unconsciously say that he liked slightly chubby girls.
After a while together, however, he seems to have changed, and sometimes he will post photos of fitness slimming bloggers and other photos to praise.
Two people dating together, he will also say from time to time, your meat is a lot, it looks round. Although I also know that some of them are jokes, I still care in my heart.
Finally, when he repeatedly said that if you lost another 20 pounds, it would definitely be more beautiful, I made up my mind to lose weight. After all, every girl wants to have a perfect image in her boyfriend's mind.
However, the road to weight loss is not easy for me, and I have used some wrong methods, such as dieting and vomiting after meals.
Sometimes it is very difficult to lose a few pounds, and after a meal or two, it will grow back to the original pound, and I will lose more and more confidence in weight loss. If the boyfriend says a few more words about who is particularly disciplined, he will really collapse. I feel like I'm almost depressed because of weight loss, why is it so hard to be a qualified girlfriend. ”
Seeing this girl's troubles, I remembered that once in an emotional confession show, a girl named Liu Ye lost weight for her online boyfriend.
Liu Ye is 166 tall and weighs 120, in fact, she is not too fat, but because the other party said that she liked thinner girls, she opened her own way of weight loss.
From the initial 120 pounds to 90 pounds, the two officially met for the first time. The online dating partner really praised her for her beauty and long legs.
This made Liu Ye feel that he had lost weight and lost a lot of money, and after going back, he continued to insist on it, and lost 70 pounds, and when he confessed on the show, he had lost 58 pounds. She said she walked down the street and was called "Skeleton Girl."
On stage, she looks sick, and the most terrible thing is that she still feels that the thinner the better for the other party's liking.
I thought that if I tried so hard to lose weight, the other party would step on the show with sincerity and propose to her. In the end, however, only a desperate letter awaited.
In the letter, the man said that he had a girlfriend, just for fun, and said that when she was 70 pounds, he looked at her like a walking "skeleton".
After the effort, there was no exchange for any feelings, only her own physical and mental damage, and she collapsed in an instant.
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Everyone has a heart for beauty, and in the public's aesthetic of thinness as beauty, it is understandable that girls lose weight for beauty. But one of the two girls became unhappy to cater to her boyfriend for weight loss, and the other became unhealthy in order to cater to the so-called "boyfriend".
When girls make changes, they should think more about whether it is worth it to cater to the aesthetics of lovers just to please their lovers.
Perhaps for many girls, to love someone is to try to be what he likes.
For example, lovers like girls with long flowing hair, and they will feel that only by growing long hair, it is easier to have each other's feelings. For example, a girl whose lover likes to wear high heels will feel that wearing flat shoes will lose its charm in front of him.
However, if the other person's preferences happen to be their own preferences, that is fine, or the other party's preferences are beneficial to themselves, that is also good. But if not, the girl has to ask herself if she can always endure her behavior that is contrary to her own psychology.
Will you spend part of your time complaining that long hair has burdened you and that your high heels have worn out your toes?
Although love is attractive and can make people change their habits and even preferences, love is also impatient.
The truth of getting along between the sexes is that when a person is passionate, everything he does for the other party will feel worthwhile, and any grievances suffered by the other party can be endured. But when feelings cool down, it is difficult to focus on each other without any complaints.
Two people together, each other must feel comfortable in order to go long.e.
If the balance is lost in the relationship, the giving party is likely to feel wronged, and the enjoying party will not cherish it.
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So, when a girl meets the boy she likes, or when she is in love, how should she treat her feelings correctly or how should she treat herself correctly?
First, when conflicting with the other party's preferences, first consider yourself.
A person who truly loves himself will not force himself to change according to his preferences. If you are often asked by your lover to do so, you can only say that the other party only likes his fantasy self, not the real self.
Girls need to understand that it is not easy to be happy with someone who wants to change themselves. Because when you satisfy each other's preferences, you are likely to lose yourself.
Especially when the other party's requirements are contrary to their own preferences, they still blindly carry a flattering posture, and in the end, not only are they all wounded, but they cannot get the respect of the other party.
Therefore, girls do not wronged themselves for the sake of each other, so it is easier to find someone who truly loves themselves.
Second, change is just to become a better version of yourself.
In a relationship, two people need to grow up with each other. Smart girls, while catering to each other, will be more concerned about this matter, the impact on themselves.
Just like the matter of weight loss, some girls just want to please each other, even if they hurt their bodies against their own wishes.
And some girls think that this thing can make themselves better, and it is worth doing. Not for others, only for yourself.
In this way, even if a relationship can no longer go on, they will not complain about how much they have paid for each other, because it is themselves who benefit.
Third, there is the ability to stop losses in feelings.
Girls are emotional, caught in emotions, and it is easy to become a wholeheartedly giving party and be led by the other party. Sometimes even if you are hurt, you are still continuing a relationship, that is, you lack the awareness of stopping losses.
Therefore, if girls want to treat their feelings rationally, they must often remind themselves whether the current efforts are worth it.
If you feel tired in a relationship and lose the ability to be happy more and more, it proves that there is something wrong with the relationship.
By realizing this, you don't have to procrastinate to inflict more harm on yourself.
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Although in the relationship, it is necessary to please the other party to maintain feelings, but it is more important to understand that pleasing yourself is much more important than pleasing the other party.
If you are exhausted for the other person's preferences or needs, you should reconsider the relationship between the two.
When two people are together, both sides can supervise each other, encourage each other to make progress, and use each other as a driving force for their own improvement. I feel that what I do for the other party is joyful in my heart, and only the change made at this time is the most worthwhile.
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