Why should a man have a woman in his heart, but he can still live with another woman?
Because men are visual animals, for a woman who does not love, as long as she has a little posture, she is not so disgusted, and she can meet her own physiological needs, then he can live with this woman.
Men have two attitudes towards women:
One is that a man loves a woman, and if he can't be together, then the man will take care of her with his heart, take care of her, treat her as a cinnabar mole in his heart, hold her in the palm of his hand, and hide it in his heart;
The other is that the woman who does not love him will not abandon her out of a sense of responsibility, and can still live in harmony, as long as this woman can meet his physical needs, life can still be maintained.
In Zhang Ailing's "Half Life", Shen Shijun loves Man Zhen, but the yin and yang mistakes make them separate, although they love each other, they cannot be together.
However, in a very short period of time, Shi Jun married Cui Zhi, a woman he did not love. Shi Jun's father died, and man Zhen's separation happened in a very short time, but Shi Jun was soon with Cui Zhi, was it Shi Jun who forgot the feelings between him and Man Zhen so quickly? Or is it the haven he found after being hit by too much sadness? Why did Cui Zhi, who was hated before, suddenly become so gentle and amiable to her? This is probably the fickleness of men.
In fact, appropriate is the end of marriage, may not love, may not be emotionally moved, but as long as it is appropriate to maintain. I just think that this person is right, the conditions of all parties are similar, men and women have such a mind, both men and women have their own calculations, they do not love each other, but they can still be together, this is Zhang Ailing's cruelty, obviously do not love, but still want to be together, each other's pain and torture each other.
Just like Shi Jun smiled, "Why aren't you happy again?" Asked over and over again. She first pushed him away bored. Then she suddenly grabbed his clothes and whimpered, and rushed out: "Shi Jun, what to do, you don't like me either." How many times have I thought about it, if I hadn't already made a fuss once before—people would have said, how come I always quit my marriage, what did I say? It's too late now, you say it's too late? ”
This passage profoundly shows that they do not love each other and are very painful, but they still have to be together. This is the tragedy of fighting each other, knowing that they do not love, but still choosing marriage for the right.
It can be seen that men will put their physical needs first and their feelings second, not that men do not value feelings, but that feelings are not as important to a man as his needs.
And women are different, women value feelings, even if her physical needs are not met, as long as the man cares about her, considerate, gives her enough warmth and care, she will still feel very happy and happy, this is the difference between men and women, maybe the physiological structure of men and women is different, maybe their needs are different.
So it is not difficult to understand the reason why a man has a woman in his heart but can be with another woman.