The pictures in this article are from the relevant screenshots of the parties' Weibo, as well as the stills of the film and television dramas "Marriage Jet Lag" and "Beautiful World".
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Wang Zhifei and Jiang Shan starred in a drama "Marriage Jet Lag", which has a bridge section that is very interesting.
The heroine Wu Ting studied with her daughter in Canada, and the husband of the real estate developer, Li Hai, could not let go of his domestic career and stayed in Chengdu alone. Gathering less and leaving more makes the former loving couple gradually become strange, Li Hai cheats and has a lover Zhao Xiaofei.
The three people tear up, and the plot is mostly the same.
At this time, the financial crisis struck, and Li Hai's career was facing a collapse, but Wu Ting did not give up, using her own money to pay off her husband's debts and help him bring the company out of a desperate situation.
Once, Li Hai clashed with a provocative tenant because of a property dispute, and the other party picked up a shovel and smashed his face. Li Hai's temperament is elegant, but his physical strength is a weak chicken, Wu Ting rushed up to protect him, and the back of his head was hit.
Fortunately, this drama takes the path of breaking the mirror after the wind and rain, and Wu Ting will not die for love, but only slightly injured.
Many people can't understand Wu Ting: people are cheating, you still have big things and small things to protect him, are you mean or stupid?!
The same questioning and scolding happened to Wang Mouwen's wife.
The latest notice of the Ali female employee case was announced, and the male protagonist Wang Mouwen embarked on the road home a month after his death in the society.
In Zhou Mou's eight-thousand-word long article, how many points are true and how many points are false, no one is a party, and they do not comment casually. Regarding the beginning and end of those trivial and confusing events, we can only rely on the police investigation and the prosecution's review.
The results of the investigation for so many days basically respond to the sentence "My husband is wrong or not guilty" that Wang Mouwen's wife said in the public online post on August 23.
After carefully reading all her words and statements on Weibo, my personal feeling is that there is not much sympathy.
Rather, I feel admiration.
On August 19, Wang Mouwen's wife posted the first Weibo related to this matter:
"At two o'clock in the morning, just got off the train, and by this time I was exhausted. These days went to JN (Jinan), although encountered some setbacks and difficulties, fortunately things have made some progress. ”
At that time, this Weibo was not yet on the hot search, and people had not noticed her existence. A woman must bear the sudden betrayal from her partner, but also stabilize the family, comfort the elderly and take care of the children, not to mention the work delayed. Then, the trouble caused by her husband rushed from Hangzhou to Jinan, running all night, a mess.
I would like to ask, have you ever endured sadness or anxiety because of a sudden family change, and ran away at a rapid pace?
If not, be happy for you, you're a lucky girl. I have experienced it, so I especially understand what it is like to endure pain as an adult.
However, some pain can be told to others frankly, such as life, old age, illness and death. Some of the pain is not on the table, and it is even impossible to talk to people.
It was not until more than 10 o'clock in the evening on August 23 that Wang Mouwen's wife posted in detail, revealing the causes and consequences and many details of her husband's account, including screenshots of the news of Ali's internal employee base.
▲ This set of screenshots made me unable to understand but was greatly shocked, and I was also punched in the face by my previous views
Overnight, her long article quickly exceeded ten million readers.
"My husband made a mistake and I was very angry at first, but after understanding the ins and outs, the emotions became complicated. From my point of view, he is sorry for me, I work hard, I am also making money to support the family, spending all my energy in this family, he actually had intimate contact with other women, I am very disappointed in him..."
Because of my profession, I am very sensitive to the smell of words and language, and through the way of speaking, the style of writing, speculating on a person's personality, not modestly, is often quite accurate.
For example, in a text, there are more facts, less emotions, no nonsense, no superfluous modifiers and flowery words, but it is reasonable and well-organized, then the expressor is often a more pragmatic girl.
She may not be delicate, not tactful, and lacks a little lover's interest in the eyes of men. But the older I get, the more I feel that this kind of girl's attitude of really living a life is precious.
After the anger, she also said her past with Wang Mouwen: college classmates, first love, love to 15 years of marriage, "the feelings are always very good."
Ren is a bystander, and these keywords also make me feel sad and sad.
She said that after the incident, the whole family followed Wang Mouwen to suffer. "The in-laws and mother-in-law can't bear the white eyes of people, the health is deteriorating, the mother-in-law has been sick for many days; the 8-year-old child cries and looks for his father every day; I am running around for days, unable to sleep at night, and my weight has plummeted from 102 pounds to 90 pounds."
You can imagine a family chicken flying dog jumping scene, the old man and child all the emotions need her to calm, and she herself is the most injured person.
Perhaps there are all kinds of things behind her that she did not say, such as discord, accusations, complaints, and the persuasion of relatives and friends who stand on her side.
If you make a big point, in the face of a husband who betrays his feelings and has a bad reputation, stopping the loss in time is the choice that looks most like an "independent woman".
But life has thousands of looks, how to come to the standard answer.
"As a wife I think he made a mistake, but his mistake is far less than a crime." "I decided to exhaust all legal means to seek justice." For this matter, Wang Mouwen's wife ran jinan 5 times.
As soon as her Weibo was posted, the comments section flooded with messages.
Supported voices:
"I think you're brave and brave. Hopefully, the truth will come out sooner rather than later, and you can return to a peaceful life. ”
"This wife... Wang Mou saved the earth in his last life. ”
Someone sneered:
"Don't be afraid of cheating in the future, there is a good wife!"
Someone seems to be lying on the crack in someone else's door and piercing everything:
"It's not for your husband's money yet."
"In exchange for your husband's annual salary of ×× million, you are also happy to wear a green hat."
Not surprisingly, scolding also poured in:
"Come on, you're the same as your husband!"
"Silly × one, for such a man."
"A donkey who is PUA by a man and does not know it."
It's such a, a woman who lives in the 21st century and still has her feet wrapped around her.
"Your husband is out there molesting women, have you fulfilled your duty as a woman as a wife?"
(Seeing this, I feel angry, when will a man's private morality be thrown to his wife?) Isn't he an adult yet? Is the wife his guardian? ）
There are ten times more unbearable than these, in order to keep our territory clean, I will not list them.
In the face of praise, insults, and ridicule, the young lady did not respond more, but calmly forwarded several case progresses to the conclusion, blocking 5 Weibo users who seriously harassed her.
From the perspective of the hostess, daughter-in-law, and mother, everything she did could be summed up as: to minimize the harm of this unbearable thing to the family.
It's about the reputation of the family, and the future of an innocent child. For children, whether a father's behavior is immoral or criminal, the nature of which has a completely different impact on future life - can "Dad do wrong things" and "Dad is a rapist" be the same?
What I appreciate about her is that she is not a shrew who defends her rights, relies on swindling to wash away her husband's faults, but pays attention to evidence, strives to restore the truth, and strives for her own interests on an objective basis.
She has the right to immediately divorce and draw a line, the right to hang up a yellow handkerchief to express forgiveness, and the right to carry things first and then settle accounts after autumn. These are her rights.
Of course, I don't deny it - Wang Mouwen has a bad side. However, Wang Mouwen's unbearable situation is driven by various factors, and there are many lies and even deceptions in the woman's story. These men and women, overdraft is the trust of the whole society, hurting the girls who are really illegally violated and in urgent need of help.
There is no winner in this farce.
Let's say three more digressions that may not sound good, but dig into the heart:
First, the victim does not need to be perfect, but it needs to be honest.
Second, everyone has the right to make a statement, and so do those who have done wrong.
Third, girls should not have vain high expectations for their current or future husbands, and Yanagisha Hui is far less than expected.
Wang Mouwen's wife's experience is very similar to Dong Xuan's.
Before fate joked, he never greeted people. 2018 is dong xuan's 7th year of marriage. At the end of March of that year, the two held hands to show their love variety show was previewing, and Gao Yunxiang, who had just sent his wife back to China, fell into Rashomon suspected of sexual assault in an Australian hotel.
Some parents and in-laws are anxious to fall ill, and there are daughters under the age of two who need to be taken care of. The whole network ate melons, and no one knew how Dong Xuan collapsed at that moment.
What remains in the public memory is the appearance of Dong Xuan appearing in front of the courtroom dressed in black.
Gao Yunxiang was detained in Australia for three months, and the first bail failed, Dong Xuan continued to work hard, set his own extremely harsh bail conditions, more detailed than the court required, and finally spent 14.65 million bail to release him on bail. The price is that the whole family lives in a rented house in Australia, and Gao Yunxiang must report to the police station twice a day, wear an electronic shackle that regularly returns the signal, be grounded for 8 hours during the day, and hand in the family's passport.
There were important details in the trial. The presiding judge was a woman, and she had a very negative evaluation of Gao Yunxiang, but when she saw Dong Xuan's sincerity, she showed a strange appreciation and kept acquiescing in her statement.
That incident made the melon-eating masses name Dong Xuan as the "Forgiveness Sect Leader." Nine months later, starry sky speech, she responded for the first time.
"Do you know what forgiveness is?" Anyway, I don't care, I only know that I am now, or the stubborn girl who is training alone in the practice room, I can't be distracted or discouraged, I can only use all my strength to solve the problem at hand.
There are old and young people in the family, and I am now the only one who can carry things. ”
While trying not to be dragged down by the other party, she spreads her wings to maintain the stability of the family and the final decency of adults.
The final verdict in the 2020 Gao Yunxiang case does not constitute sexual assault. In 2019 before this, the media learned that the two had divorced in a low-key manner. It's hard to say arbitrarily whether it's for feelings, for profit, or for feelings.
When benevolence and righteousness are exhausted, the rest of your life will be forgotten.
The seemingly weak Dong Xuan-style girl is actually the core of the big heroine. They are not defeated by bad luck, kidnapped by public opinion, and intimidated by scolding, but do their best to bear what they must bear and protect the whole family. When the typhoon passes, clean up the mess of fate, abandon it, or rebuild it.
A netizen in the comment area said a sentence, not necessarily all right, but I think I can share it with you -
"Women's rights are not the right to control the right to speak at home, the right to property, the decision-making power between two people. It is human rights, the right to choose in the face of differences, the right to speak out in front of problems, and the right to choose how to protect yourself after being hurt, the decision-making power of your own life. ”
May we all be in control of our own rights, regardless of momentary luck.
Zi Chen, a woman with a fragrant soul, signed the author. Senior editor, media commentator, national second-level psychological counselor, new list of original top 20 authors, in-depth research on Chinese women's emotional and social psychology.