To be an outstanding person, you cannot go with the flow

Living in modern society, it is much easier to be a person who goes with the flow than it is to follow the rhythm of your own drums. A person who can grasp himself at any time, no matter what everyone is doing now, and no matter what is currently popular, requires considerable self-confidence and independence.

Emerson famously said, "To be a man who stands tall in the sky, you must not go with the flow."

On your way to the top, you should not refuse help, but remember that in the long run, you will still be the captain of your own ship. It's you at the helm, and the ship is heading for where you go - you have to be the one who gives the orders. After all, you may not like someone else's destination.

In chasing your ideals in life, you must trust your intuition and feel what is right and what is wrong. The crew of Columbus's ship urged him to return, but he was unmoved and continued his voyage. You have to learn to develop the ability to be "independent." It is very similar to self-confidence, but it is not exactly the same: it is also similar to fanaticism, which is the continuous driving force of independence.

When you climb all the way to the top, many times when you look around, you will find yourself so lonely, just like Su Shi said, "There is no cold in the high places." You might suddenly think, "Who am I going to rely on?" Who am I walking with? Who will lead me through the arduous journey after another?"

The answer can only be: yourself. Now you are staggering towards your goal alone, and it is the ability to be independent and autonomous. You have to keep trying to do what you think is right, and that's what you believe in your heart to be done.

Even if you find yourself so lonely, so different, you should still do what you deserve. Others may want you to look up to everyone. But think about it, if everyone is carved out of a mold, then how monotonous and tedious the world will be! After all, in this world, no two people's fingerprints are the same, and no two people's sound waves are the same, even snowflakes are different.

The rule you have to follow is to make sure you don't stand in the same way as you stand alone in your career and in the realm of your life. Let them maintain their foothold as well, and if necessary, let them help you maintain your own foothold.

As one philosopher put it, "Absolutely no one but yourself has the final say in your destiny."

You respect your parents and friends, but your closest friend is yourself. You have to be friends with yourself first, you must respect yourself first: before winning the favor of others, first get your own favor, the greatest wealth you have is your evaluation of your own ability and planning for the future. Whoever it is, it cannot be taken away. If someone does this, it's that he's being opinionated and wants you to live his life instead of your own.

Of course, you can listen to the advice of your parents and friends, but at the last minute, you have to decide what you want to do. As long as what you want to do is within your own ability, within the scope of your knowledge, as long as what you want to do will not harm others, then, actively move towards your goal, do not let anyone make you turn in the voyage; Because you have to look at your goal, you have to get to your destination.

Your goals are not the same as those of your parents and friends, and you must do what you feel must do, which is the power you should exercise. In other words, let confidence help you instead of against you. Choose your own career because you believe in its development. Don't choose to adapt to someone else's business, that's the beginning of failure and distress. Respect the principles that others adhere to, that is, respect the principles that you uphold: you are the master of your own destiny.