A sociologist once said: "People are in the middle of a social group, communicating with people, learning to stand and find the way, are people's survival skills." ”
From the moment we are born, we are destined to deal with others and to associate with different people in this life. Because no one in this society can be an "island".
When we were young, people around us always told us to make more friends and communicate with our friends, because "multiple friends have many roads".
We, on the other hand, have always taken this criterion to heart, believing that people absolutely have to live a "group" life in this life.
However, when we grow up, when we gradually step out of society, we find that it seems that this so-called "norm" is too absolute.
In life, since there will be people who "come and go in groups", there will definitely be people who are "alone". Although there are fewer people who come and go alone, these people really live around us.
Some people, who don't like dealing with others, choose to live alone; some people, who hate social and hypocritical humanity, choose to live alone.
In the eyes of many people, these people are some "outliers". However, it is often "outliers" that attract attention. These people who have been alone all their lives may be these three kinds of "strange people".
<h1>People who have been alone all their lives are people with "opinions"</h1>
People who come and go in groups have a very fatal weakness, that is, they have no opinion and like to go with the flow.
Because they are in a group or circle, their individual actions are more or less influenced by others.
And they are afraid that their choices will contradict the choices of the circle. Therefore, they live a life of people and no opinion.
On the contrary, those who choose to go it alone are not bound by the circle, nor do they have certain realistic taboos and pressures. In this way, they can also do what they like without having to look at other people's faces.
Like a controlled soldier, he seems to be a member of the group, but in the end he is just a pawn of others. It seems that the crowds come and go, but in fact they obey people's orders.
But the latter are free rangers, they can face a world alone, maybe a little lonely, maybe a little lonely, but they enjoy this freedom, enjoy this unrestrained life.
In the eyes of these "Rangers", their own opinions are more important than others' opinions. Instead of living a life of looking at people's faces, it is better to live alone and become more dashing.
<h1>People who have been alone all their lives are not "flattered and flattered" villains</h1>
In the workplace, the ones we encounter the most are those who are "flattered and flattered".
These villains have a characteristic, that is, to win people's hearts everywhere, to have good relations with others everywhere, and to join different circles everywhere. It can be said that they are "social masters".
Why do people socialize? Sociologically, there are only three reasons, one is to fill the emptiness in people's hearts, and the other is to strengthen the flow of communication between all levels of society. But the most important reason is that people's interests are at work.
Those who flatter and please, they are definitely the leaders in the circle and the staunch advocates of the circle life.
And those who come and go alone, although they are a little lonely, they are also a little wooden, they do not know how to please, nor do they know how to flatter. However, they are people with a gentleman's heart.
In their view, live alone, don't have a relationship with anyone, don't associate too much with anyone, give yourself some freedom, but also give others some space for freedom.
Their behavior, to others, may seem strange, but in fact, they are rational.
In this society, if flattery and flattery become the norm, then the evil trend will gradually increase. Many times, disasters and contradictions will also arise from this.
<h1>People who have been alone all their lives have a clear "goal" in life</h1>
In terms of knowledge, there is a saying that instead of spending time on others, it is better to put time into what you like to do.
Many times, we are in the circle, in order to cater to others, or to keep up with the rhythm of others, always focusing on others.
Just like a student, in order to fit into a certain circle of classmates, he has been spending all kinds of thoughts on the members of it. But he may have neglected even his studies.
Just like a grassroots employee, in order to get into office, he spends his heart and soul to join the circle of leaders and show goodwill to leaders. But in the end, they forgot to improve their work ability.
These people, no matter what they do, get nothing. Because they didn't have an accurate purpose in life at the beginning.
And those who come and go alone, they don't care how the leader and the people around them see themselves. In their view, as long as they are righteous enough and good enough, that is, they are not afraid of the shadow oblique, that is, gold will naturally shine.
These people, they don't put their time on others, but more, they struggle for their own goals.
We can see that people who can generally achieve something are people who can withstand loneliness. And this lonely process is the struggle process of the lonely people to break through a certain skill.
Therefore, we must not look down on people who are alone, nor can we ignore their existence. These people, it's possible that they are working hard behind them, are thousands of times ours.
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