Text: Smell the autumn sounds
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In life, everyone has their own way of life and circles, and they don't have to fit in.
Under the rapid development of society, social achievements have been different circles, which can be roughly divided into two categories, like-minded types and interest bundled types.
When people do not meet the right circle for themselves, whether they choose to continue to walk alone, or change themselves and integrate into the circle they don't like, the impact on future development is huge.
Roland said: "We can't put all our happiness on others. Because others can only know and help us to a limited extent. In fact, there are more people in this world than in the snow. If you are strong, others will come to encourage you; if you are weak, few people will come to help you. ”
In life, if you want to live without getting tired, don't always wrong yourself and please others.
If you always give up your self-principles and bottom lines in order to fit in, and live like you hate, then you will only live more and more unhappy.
People live, do their best, live the way they like, there is no need to have a herd mentality.
Sometimes it doesn't fit in, but it can have unexpected gains.
The weak, like to walk in groups, like to go with the flow.
Most of those who like to walk in groups lack self-confidence and do not have the courage to go it alone. Without their own ideas, they will only go with the flow and focus on the interests of the moment.
Albert Einstein put it this way: "I have never seen much comfort and pleasure as the purpose of life itself, and this ethical basis, I call it the ideal of the pig pen." ”
The way of getting along in groups, seemingly in the comfort zone, is actually just a group of weak people to warm up.
If you are a person, you always want to fit in, and you don't dare to take risks and grow. In the long run, it will only make yourself weaker and weaker.
A person, for a long time, will gradually lose his firm belief, and over time, he will lose the ability to be alone.
In life, don't give up your dreams in order to conform to the crowd, and go with the flow.
Truly capable people, who do not like to be gregarious, are good at being alone and promoting themselves.
The famous physicist Newton discovered the law of universal gravitation by thinking about the ripe apples on the tree, and not only that, he also developed modern physics.
Such a good person, but a person who does not fit in.
He is alone, thinks independently, and spends more time on all kinds of novelties.
He once said, "If other people can think as hard as I do, then they will get similar results." ”
The strong are not social, not because he is isolated, but because they themselves choose to be alone. In solitude, constantly reflect, reflect on yourself, and constantly improve yourself.
The reason why the strong are reluctant to fit in is to give up low-quality social networking.
Strong, unsociable, like to be alone, is that they have a brave and upward heart. Even if you are alone, you will not spend time and make full use of it to improve yourself.
A person's choice of circle often determines the direction of his life.
Strong, unsociable, unwilling to spend time on low-quality social interactions. I would rather be alone with high quality than go with the flow and force a circle that does not belong to me.
People who don't fit in well are good at reconciling with themselves. When things happen, good solves them alone.
Many people think that networking is very important in order to gain a foothold in society. However, in life, it is not that there are many people who know, but a wide circle involved, even if it is a network.
True networking is not about currying favor with each other, but about getting to know each other and succeeding in their respective fields. In short, friends lie in refinement, not in many.
Unsociable is an ability.
People who do not fit in, are not afraid of loneliness, dare to face the criticism of others, and will not "force other people's circles".
People who do not fit in, have a strong heart, can think calmly when encountering problems, do not easily follow the crowd, and go with the flow.
People who don't fit in, have a clear mind, and aren't led by emotions.
In life, people who do not fit in have long seen through the dangers of the world, learned to reconcile with themselves, encountered things, and were good at relying on their own ability to solve.
In interpersonal relationships, people who are truly capable are not actually "gregarious."
People who choose to be social for a long time are most afraid of loneliness, and always feel that a person's ability is too weak, so in the name of "unity", they constantly find excuses for their weakness, unwilling to take risks, unwilling to grow positively.
In order to integrate into the circle, many people look at the color of their words, insincerely speak, and live more and more hypocritically. Years later, I found myself still standing still, without any progress.
And those who do not fit in, instead, enjoy life in loneliness.
In solitude, constantly improve yourself and strengthen yourself. People who do not fit in with the group never give up their original intentions easily and dare to go alone.
The interaction between people has advantages and disadvantages, and meaningless social interaction will only drag down themselves, and there will be no help for future development, but it will waste their time.
Those who choose to become unsociable are not lonely, but his life has been far higher than others.
They understand: "The Tao is not different." Not being social is just the way of life of the strong.
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About the author: Smell the autumn sound, live by words. Autumn wind boiling rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.