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Compared with the famous novel "Waste Capital", Jia Pingwo's "Free And Alone" should not be so well-known, but it is also on Jia Pingwa's best-seller list.
And it's an essay, which is better suited to reading in fragmented times than a novel of hundreds of thousands of words, and it's short, each one is an independent point of view, and it can be read in minutes.
This is also the reason why I prefer to read prose, the point of view of each article is very clear, in a short period of time can get a lot of inspiration, unconsciously, you will feel that your thinking is open, the perspective of the problem is more comprehensive.
This collection of essays, called "Walking Alone", is a collection of Jia Pingwa's forty years, including a total of five chapters, including nearly a hundred essays, each of which can give us a different touch.
One of the first "Spinning Wheel Sound", after reading I almost had the urge to cry, but also specially wrote a book review about this article, interested people can click on the following link: "Jia Pingwa: What is a person's fate, in fact, it has long been doomed, just look at one thing"
This article is written by Jia Pingwo's mother for his education, people can't help but feel the greatness of their mother and the importance of reading, the reason why Jia Pingwo has later achievements, and his mother is inseparable.
In this book, Jia Pingwo writes about emotions, hobbies, society, and life, and the content involves all aspects of life, life, emotions, and interpersonal society.
In the eighth chapter of the second chapter, "Silently Looking at the World", Jia Pingwa wrote an essay with the word "Friend", which began: "Friends are iron pieces, nails, screw caps and small pins sucked by magnets, as long as they want, they can be sucked from any dust in the world." ”
From this passage, it can be seen that in fact, making friends is also in line with the law of attraction in psychology, what kind of person you are, what kind of people will be attracted to get closer, the so-called things are clustered in groups, probably this is the truth.
At every stage of our lives, we will meet many, many friends, who thought they could accompany us to the end of our lives, but later found that they could accompany only one of them.
Jia Pingwa mentioned in the book that when he was in the countryside before, he had many friends, and more than twenty years later, there were only a few contacts, but although one friend had passed away, he still remained in his heart.
That friend gave him special warmth at a special time. When he was young, he played basketball, Jia Ping was short, and no one wanted to pass the ball to him, but this friend was an exception, he would take care of his feelings, so they became friends.
Later, they were separated because they ate the mulberries plucked from the tree, and he ate half of Jia Ping's absence.
Don't think it's a big deal, in an era when food and clothing problems were difficult to solve, eating was the first important thing. Although they were no longer friends, Jia Pingwa still remembered him.
Later, Jia Pingwo slowly became famous, and more and more people took the initiative to approach him, but the more friends he had, the more he could not distinguish who was sincere and who was false.
Some people are friends with you because of you as a person, some people are friends with you because of fame and profit, the former will treat you sincerely, the latter is more inclined to use you, when you fall one day, they will be far away.
For this reason, Jia Pingwa said: It is my friend who has done my thing, and it is my friend who has done bad things for me.
This reminds us that friends can not be promiscuous, only if they really get along and treat each other sincerely, it is worth deep friendship, otherwise the more they are careful, the easier it is to hurt themselves.
One: Friends can not make promiscuity, only seek refinement, not more.
Jia Pingwa said: "There are many human beings on the earth, but the most contacts you have in your life are nothing more than a few miles or dozens of miles. The circle of friends is actually the world of your life, and your struggle for fame and profit is the history of your friends' good and evil. ”
If you savor this sentence, you will feel that it has been written in your heart. When you get better and better, are your friends really not jealous of you at all? When you are down, do your friends around you really not look down on you at all and are willing to help you without asking for anything in return?
We rarely envy the celebrity we don't know, who is much better than us, but when the people around us get better and better, it is more or less uncomfortable.
The friend who is always with you, whether you are down or beautiful, is really worth interacting with; and those who come close when you are in the scenery and leave when you are down are mostly hypocritical and purposeful.
Two: Good friends are scattered, starting from different ambitions.
Friends become friends mostly because they are like-minded, but later, we will gradually take different paths, and at this time, the distance between each other will be far away.
People with different views basically cannot be friends, because it is difficult to reach an agreement on the same issue, and unless mutual respect can be achieved, it is easy to have contradictions.
Many good friends drift apart because they have embarked on different paths and gradually lost a common language, in which case, even if they can't put each other down, it is difficult to bother to contact each other.
After all, everyone's time and energy are limited, a relationship, if there is no contact, how long can it last.
Three: It is a good thing that good friends are separated, and the world is a kind of maturity from noisy to quiet.
When we are young, we feel that one more friend is one more road, and it is difficult to walk without friends, but when we have a certain life experience, we will slowly find that the only people we can rely on in life are ourselves.
Friends can give you some help, but only if you have the value of being helped. This kind of human exchange has always been mutual, you have value, it is worth being helped by him, and in the future, you must also return this human feeling. So in essence, this is still a kind of interest exchange, just so-called: the poor in the downtown no one asks, the rich in the mountains have distant relatives.
From this point of view, it is a good thing that good friends are separated, you see through human nature, you also understand a lot of truths, when the world goes from noisy to quiet, your mind will mature.
Jia Pingwo wrote at the end of the article: After all, friends are friends, friends are flowers in spring, and in winter there is no more.
This sentence seems a little negative, but it is actually a true portrayal of real life, and we will find out in the end that there may not be a friend, this is not your failure, this is a normal life.
Instead of struggling with how many friends you have, instead of spending time on these useless social interactions, it is far more important to take the time to read more books, enhance your own value, and enrich your heart, which is far more important than blindly thinking more.
Recommend Jia Pingwa's prose collection "Free and Alone", which is full of worldly wisdom and not lacking in the fun of life, and every time you read it, you will feel empowered and suddenly cheerful.
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