Author: Blue Song
Originality is not easy, and it is easy to see and cherish
The name of this movie is very simple, called "I am Sam" in English, which translates to "I Am Sam" and introduces itself, but it does not prevent it from becoming one of the Douban top 250 films.
Once released in 2001, the film became popular all over the country and was nominated for Best Actor at the 74th Academy Awards.
The tone of the film, "The Story of Hachiko the Loyal Dog", is somewhat similar, it is a tear-jerking sensational film, and many people say after watching it: "It is very touching, and the tears are flowing." ”
Of course, the reason for this tearful face is similar, that is, the male protagonist of the film, Sam, although he has become an adult, only has the IQ of a 7-year-old child, but it is precisely because of the simple and simple mental structure that he has maintained the original beauty of human nature.
His deep fatherly love for his daughter Lucy has touched countless audiences, he told us that what children need most is love and companionship, told us how to insist on love, and also taught parents to reflect on their current behavior.
<h1>Sam's love makes Lucy a girl as shiny as a diamond</h1>
Li Yinhe once said a classic saying: "Love is an ability, some people have, some people do not, people with this ability are happy, can feel love and give love." ”
Sam is clearly the one with the ability to love, and his 360-degree care and companionship for his daughter Lucy has nothing to do with his IQ of only 7 years old.
Sam works in a coffee shop and, because of his mental retardation, can only do some work to wipe the table and organize the items.
He accidentally took in a female tramp, who later gave birth to a child and disappeared.
In the face of this soft little life, Sam was helpless, he didn't know when to feed her, didn't know when she was peeing, everything seemed strange and flustered.
Fortunately, there is a female neighbor Anne, who tells Sam that if the child is crying or is either pulling or hungry, he should change the child's diapers on time and feed him every 2 hours.
In this way, Sam and his daughter Lucy's life is slightly on track.
As his daughter Lucy grows up, Sam gives her all the love of her father, he will take her to the park to play, and the happiness of the father and daughter when they swing in the park is about to overflow the screen.
Before Lucy was 8 years old, Sam would tell her bedtime stories.
For his daughter Lucy, he has enough patience, at the parent-teacher conference, Lucy explained the process of insect growth on the podium, and Sam, who was sitting in the audience at this time, did not accuse or feel humiliated, but gave Lucy encouragement and comfort, telling her: "This stage is more, it is difficult to carry." ”
With her father's encouragement, Lucy finished the story smoothly.
Father Sam's IQ is only 7 years old, but it is precisely because of this that his love will be so pure and sincere, and Lucy grew up in this tolerant and gentle environment, she is sensible and kind, and her personality is cheerful.
Later, Lucy grew up, Sam had no way to tell Lucy a story, and the sensible Lucy deliberately said that I wanted to sleep every time her father could not continue, and she wanted to maintain her father's dignity.
Lin Qingxuan once said a thought-provoking sentence: "No matter what kind of child, love is the best education, and the best way to express love is joy, reward and appreciation." ”
Deeply.
When you were young, you didn't have companionship, and the growth you missed in those years really never came back.
The family of the female lawyer Rita in the film is in stark contrast to Sam, she has a successful career, excellent work ability, and is a leader in society, but her parent-child relationship is a mess.
Husband cheated, she is powerless, the son is entrusted to the care of the maid, she thinks that hard work to bring a materially rich living environment to the child, the child can understand her good intentions, but she does not understand that the child needs is simply companionship and love.
Like the most common phrase in the film: "I just need to love".
But Sam's appearance made her realize the failure of her parenting education, and in the matter of parenthood, she was inferior to Sam, who only had a 7-year-old IQ.
I suddenly remembered the speech of the shadow emperor Xia Yu in an interview, and the host asked him: "The first time your daughter stood up, the first time she called her father, are you all there?" ”
Xia Yu replied, "I'm all there."
This answer surprised the host, who in his perception of the actor is busy with work and will not have so much time to spend with the child.
Xia Yu said: "After my daughter was born, I had two and a half years without work, and I accompanied her specially. ”
No one will accompany the importance of the child, but in the companionship is also divided into heart and no heart, the child is sensitive by nature, she can feel everything about you.
Think about it, how long have you not been with your children in this rush?
<h1>Sam's persistence and efforts eventually won Lucy's custody</h1>
The climax of the film is that Lucy grows up day by day, and Sam's intelligence is obviously no longer able to deal with the questions Lucy asks.
He could no longer tell more wonderful bedtime stories, and he could not teach Lucy more and more.
The U.S. Social Welfare Agency believes that Sam is no longer able to raise Lucy and wants to send her to a family with conditions to raise her.
Sam, who has no economic base and social resources, watched as his daughter was taken away by the welfare home.
As the saying goes, three stinky cobblers are topped by a Zhuge Liang, and Sam has a group of good friends who are as intelligent as him, and they discuss how to get back his daughter Lucy.
A little friend said, "We have to find a good lawyer to help us fight the case." ”
They find a well-known female lawyer in the newspaper, Rita, the ignorant and fearless, and Sam thinks he can find a lawyer and convinces him to file a lawsuit for himself.
Surprisingly, he actually found Rita, a well-known female lawyer in the rich area, but the next thing to ask a female lawyer to help fight the lawsuit was not so easy.
First, the female lawyer Rita is so busy every day that she doesn't even talk to Sam for five minutes, and second, she doesn't help a person with an IQ of only 7 years old to fight a lawsuit, so Sam is rejected.
But Sam didn't give up, he waited for rita outside her office, offered to buy her coffee, and blocked her everywhere he could meet her.
At one of Rita's business gatherings, Sam waits for her at the door again, and everyone present knows that Rita won't help the mentally demented man fight a lawsuit.
However, in order to show her justice and selflessness, Rita agreed to help Sam fight the lawsuit in public.
It may seem simple, but because of Sam's mental retardation and financial instability, the lawsuit did not go well.
In order to get Sam to remember the testimony, the hot-tempered lawyer held back his anger again and again, telling him over and over again how to do it.
The first time he went to court, at first Sam was able to speak fluently of his testimony, but then under the aggressive questioning of the opposing lawyer, he was on the verge of collapse, began to speak incoherently, and finally he lost the case, and his daughter Lucy was still given to a conditional family to raise.
Since then, Sam often sneaks to see Lucy, who begins to feel that he only has a 7-year-old IQ and has no way to give his children a better life, a process from full of hope to complete abandonment, full of sadness and helplessness.
There is a picture that I still seem to be quite touched by, when Lucy's birthday, Sam in order to let his daughter stop thinking about himself, even if he has prepared a gift, or did not give it to her, until the visit day, Sam went to see Lucy, little Lucy cried and scolded Why Sam did not appear, did not call her.
The father-daughter affection of this scene is the most extreme.
Later, Sam never wanted to give up on Lucy anymore, and he went to Lucy's neighborhood and wanted to live with her in this way.
Every night Lucy ran out of the house to sleep with her father, and during the day she would walk the dog with her father, and the days seemed to go back to the past.
The couple who later raised Lucy were touched by Sam and Lucy's father-daughter relationship and decided to return Lucy to Sam.
A father with only a 7-year-old IQ has been touched and recognized by countless people and finally able to live with his daughter.
Although the film will have some artistic elements, we can't deny that in this pursuit of love, Sam shows the persistence and effort of other than ordinary people.
After watching the movie, back to reality, sometimes life seems to have a long way ahead, but when we do it, we find that in fact, we have taken the first step, and the remaining difficulties will be self-defeating.
<h1>In the matter of companionship, children are always more sensible than their parents</h1>
A lot of times, we're talking about what's the best education?
I do not deny that a good material foundation can bring children more superior educational resources.
But compared with a rich material foundation, I think the companionship and love of parents are more important.
I once saw a poignant debate in "Strange Story": If it is not enough to accompany the child for 12 hours a week, cancel the title of father, do you support it?
First of all, the show selected a few children and asked them how their father was?
Some children say that dad is very good, some children say that dad is often angry with me, and some children say that dad often does not play with me.....
Then let him choose his favorite toy and ask them: Toy and Daddy to accompany you for a day, which one do you choose?
Some children said: I choose my father to accompany me for a day.
Some children said: I want my father to play with this toy with me.
Some children said: Dad usually spends less time with me, and I choose my dad to accompany me.
When faced with their favorite toys, they still choose to get the company of their father.
And these answers made the fathers bow their heads in shame.
Finally, the program asks the children: If you spend less than 12 hours with him, you will not call him Daddy, will you?
The children replied unanimously: No.
The reasons are:
Because he's my dad.
Dad is my best dad.
Dad worked hard, it wasn't easy.
Our IQ and emotional intelligence are several levels higher than Sam's in the movies, but we all lose to him when it comes to loving and spending time with our children.
Some people say that I also want to accompany my children, but I don't have time to work every day, and I don't have time to earn money with him.
However, your child's needs are simple, but it is enough for you to accompany him after work to read a book or play.
Studies have shown that to establish a high-quality parent-child relationship, you only need to spend 15 minutes with your child for 15 minutes. Even, as long as you regularly do some small things with your child, you can achieve the effect of companionship:
1: Play games with your child
Psychologist Lawrence Cohen said in "Game Force": In the game of fighting, the father is the best play object for the child. Studies have shown that wrestling and boxing with their fathers, as long as moderate, will help the growth of children, such as boys who often fight with their fathers, and get along better with others.
2: Give your child a hug every day
I once read a psychological research analysis: the father's hug, to the child's affirmation and shock, far more than the mother.
3: Have time alone with your child
Set a fixed time a week, alone with the child, like two friends, even if you don't do anything, it is better than playing with the phone.
These are not difficult, the difficult thing is that we have been using our busyness as an excuse to ignore the need for love and companionship of our children.
The storyline of this movie is very simple, but it has achieved a touching effect, and a good movie has never won with light and shadow technology, but let the audience get life inspiration after watching it.
The companionship of children, the persistence and pursuit of love, and the reflection on their own educational behavior are the most profound life principles conveyed to us by this film.
Author: Lan Ge, freelance writer, ten o'clock reading contract author...
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