She believes all her life, I believe in a word, you only believe for a moment.
This is a passage from a movie poster.
The name of the movie is "Love and Blind Date".
Director, Zhang Aijia.
Many years ago, someone asked me what a good movie is.
At that time, I was still studying. I am a science student, I don't know what a camera position is, I don't understand what depth of field is, and I don't understand the textbook-like rhetoric of those majors.
So I told them about an old movie I liked, Heartbeat. The director is Zhang Aijia.
In what they call the grand and colorful films, "Heartbeat" seems to be a lonely child who does not fit in, and no one cares what kind of story it tells except for a few familiar actors.
Later, I watched another movie by Zhang Aijia, "Nian Nian". The narrative is too bland, but it makes me feel touched by the old people in other places. Friends don't understand why you would like such a movie.
Yeah, why would I like a movie like this?
There is no magnificent background, no tense plot, no fresh meat face that sucks powder, and no high-end technology components, such a niche and literary film has become a treasure that has been hidden in my heart for so many years.
So much so that when I saw the poster of "Blind Date", I ran to the screening as soon as possible.
Throughout the course of the film, there was laughter and occasionally a slight sobbing sound. When the film ended, I sat quietly until the end song was finished.
This is Zhang Aijia, who I am not very familiar with, but it is the best Zhang Aijia in so many years.
Because she told me a story that was most ordinary, but also the warmest.
This is a story about "moving graves".
It is also a story about three generations of grandchildren.
In the film, Zhang Aijia plays a teacher who is close to retirement, Yue Huiying. She is decisive, strong, has a desire to control the lives of her children, and has less feelings for her husbands as a little woman.
Daughter Vivi, who works in a television station. At the age of marriage, she falls in love with Ada, a singer who lives in a bar.
Wei Wei's grandmother died, and Hui Ying wanted to bury her with her husband in order to fulfill her mother's last wishes, a long-hidden past, so it was gradually pulled out.
In a small mountain village in the countryside of Henan, there is an old man named Azu (Wu Yanshu), and Wei Wei affectionately calls her "Grandma".
The old man was nearly ninety years old, she didn't like to talk, and there was an empty coffin in the house. She often sat next to a lonely grave at the head of the village, silently guarding, occasionally nagging twice, but most of the time, but just quietly.
Everyone in the village knew that in this grave, buried, was her sixty-year-old man, Yue Zifu.
When Vivi's mother brought a bunch of people to move the grave, she wouldn't let her, she said, this is my man, I am his wife.
When they didn't listen, Grandma took out a wooden box that was treasured in the cupboard, and what was in the box was a genealogy book, and on the book, after Azu's name, it was written, Yue Zengshi.
When Azu was seventeen years old, in the countryside, he became a woman in Yue Zifu, and a few years later, he went to the city to work and fell in love with another woman, that is, Vivi's grandmother.
This walk, that is, sixty years, has never come back.
Azu waited for him for sixty years, from Ust's eyebrows to his silver hair, but what he waited for was a corpse after his death.
A marriage certificate, a lifetime of waiting.
A "Yue Zeng clan", a lonely grave, a stack of family letters, Grandma in this way for the rest of her life, guarding a memory that has long been unable to remember the appearance, waiting for the moment when she is buried with him,
Mu Xin said that in the past, the carriages and horses were very slow, the letters were far away, and there was only enough to love one person in a lifetime.
For Grandma's generation, love is a lifetime of perseverance. Even if he didn't love her, she was still willing to wait a lifetime for this commitment.
If something breaks down, just fix it. If the clothes are torn, just make up for it. The feelings at that time were different from those now, how can I say that I lost them.
On the wall of Azu's house, there is an embroidered painting with the word "Fu", which is grandpa's name. She didn't have a picture of him, and after his death, he could only embroider a word to mourn.
Later, in Vivi's house, Azu saw pictures of grandpa and grandmother hanging on the wall, which she had never seen before. She stepped on the small stool and gently stroked the way he looked in the photo.
"Is that your grandfather?" It doesn't look like ah, the forehead is not so wide, and the chin is round."
You see, after more than sixty years, I have finally seen you. It turns out that you are old and look like this. They wanted to remove your grave, I didn't let it, I thought that when people died, they must return to their hometowns. Vivi said that what you wrote me was a family letter, which was different from the love letter you wrote to her, and I thought how could it be. You send me five extra dollars a month to supplement my home, you see, I use it to make new jackets, and I wear them all the time. It's nice to be able to see your pictures now, and your pictures.
That's nice.
I don't know if Azu will think so when he sees the photo. All I knew was that she bowed deeply toward them.
This prostration, which had been waiting for decades, was finally over.
Later, Ada, the man who sang softly in the bar, was leaving. I don't know if Vivi will really wait for him, waiting for him like grandpa like grandma, for too many post-80s and 90s, dreams and distances may be more important than love.
He wanted to carry a guitar on his back, on the streets of Beijing, in the afternoon in Houhai, and play a song of his own, singing it to the girl he had loved from afar.
Later, Hui Ying finally understood who the face of the young man in the dream was, and finally understood that for so many years, the man who loved her the most had been standing silently behind her, he may not make much money, or he may not be handsome, but he is definitely the one who knows what you think and understands what you want.
He wants to buy your own car, put on your favorite song from your youth, and go for a ride on a sunny afternoon with just the right breeze.
This may be the best way for people to reach middle age and love.
Zhang Aijia once said at a meeting that the film was originally named "Strange Flowers Blossom". But because it was too literary, it was changed to "Love and Affection". Therefore, this "Strange Blossom" was used as the theme song of the film.
Strange flowers bloom Tan Weiwei - Strange flowers blossom
Strange flowers bloom, can't bear not to open, when can slowly return.
In this world, there are people who are divided and merged every day. On campus, in front of the station, in the café, in the street corners, some people laughed and hugged each other, and some people cried and parted. But who can remember whom for a lifetime.
In my early twenties, I forgot what it was like to be moved. As soon as I worked, I thought about dreams and love, and I couldn't have both. On Weibo, there are cheating little three celebrities breaking up every day, and in reality, there are exs tearing up family discord everywhere.
The feelings of this era are too cheap, so cheap that they turn around and leave if they are not happy, and cheap enough to use love as a reason to blackmail.
The pace of this era is too fast, and almost no one is willing to stop, to wait for a person, to wait for a love, to wait for a kind of feeling that flows for a long time.
Some people say that waiting for someone who doesn't love himself is like waiting for a ship at the airport,
Some people wait for a day and night, and some people wait for a lifetime.
Grandma's life was spent in waiting, and at the end, she only touched grandpa's bones and cried,
"I don't want you anymore".
Later, Vivi sent a photo to her grandmother, which was synthesized with ps, and it was a photo of her grandfather and grandmother. This was the biggest thought of Azu's life, and she finally had a photo of her grandparents.
It rained heavily that day, and the rain wet the photos. Azu wiped Grandpa's face with his hand, but accidentally, the photo was wiped, and the more she wiped it, the more anxious she became, and eventually Grandpa's entire face was wiped off.
Azu looked at the broken photo and finally cried bitterly.
If one day, you are not by my side, I still want to remember your appearance, the wind and rain are heavy, waiting for you to come home.
Grandma, don't you cry,
You see
Strange flowers bloom, he will come back.