When it comes to singers, the first reaction of many young people at present is always Zhou Shen, Deng Ziqi, Jay Chou and other well-known singers now, but if singers are mentioned, we will definitely think of Yan Weiwen, Tong Tiexin and others.
Tong Tiexin, a famous singer in China, has a brilliant resume in the singing industry, not only appearing on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala for eleven times, but also leaving us with many popular works. But in fact, Tong Tiexin's emotional road, which has a smooth career, is not smooth.
Divorced in his 30s, he didn't enter his second marriage until he was 40. But surprisingly, Tong Tiexin's second marriage was much happier than everyone imagined. So in the face of Tong Tiexin, who has already been married once, what is his experience when running the second marriage?
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="61" > at the beginning of the blind date, frankly meet each other</h1>
At that time in 1998, it was still simple and simple, and most of them were married in the form of blind dates or introductions, but Tong Tiexin had already embarked on the road of the second marriage. Yes, at that time, he was "escorted" by his cousin to go on a blind date.
The 40-year-old Tong Tiexin's marriage has become a big problem, since the divorce, he has lived alone, and he does not want to continue to be entangled with anyone for a while. Perhaps it was the frustration he suffered in his marriage last time that he was too slow to face it.
But what if a person of an age is not taken care of by anyone who knows cold and heat around? In the face of relatives and friends, again and again to introduce the object, Tong Tiexin can only go to see it this time.
At that time, Tong Tiexin did not have hope for this new blind date, and even used the purpose of scaring the other party.
When the cousin took Tong Tiexin into the agreed park, Tong Tiexin had already arrived and was sitting quietly waiting for him.
He was a tall man of six or seven meters, with a clean face and glasses. At that time, there were not many people wearing glasses, so everyone who could wear glasses was a symbol of high education, and it was also a joke that Lin Danshi graduated from the Physics Department of Shanxi University, and was also elected as one of the top ten outstanding young people in Taiyuan City, and now runs a restaurant in Beijing.
There was really a little ink in his stomach, but in the face of this marriage, Tong Tiexin had no intention of becoming one. Therefore, even if his cousin gestured from the side, Tong Tiexin still said with a big grin: I am divorced, I have a seven-year-old child, and the house I live in is only 89 square meters, not so rich.
Tong Tiexin said these two words, but he wanted to make Lin Danshi dislike himself. Who knew that Lin Danshi had seen him on TV a long time ago and already had a lot of good feelings. Therefore, in the face of Tong Tiexin's words, Lin Danshi felt that he was a very honest person.
He also confessed his marriage to Tong Tiexin, and it turned out that Lin Danshi had also been divorced and now lived alone in Beijing with a six-year-old daughter.
Lin Danshi, who runs a restaurant alone in Beijing, is not the kind of woman who is willing to cling to men, so she feels that it does not matter what house Tong Tiexin lives in and how much savings she has.
And Lin Danshi is a very careful woman, when the two walked along the park to talk, she saw a thread on the other's sweater, so she took out the fingernail money she was carrying and carefully cut the thread.
Lin Danshi's gentleness silently impressed Tong Tiexin, coupled with the other party's extraordinary temperament, Tong Tiexin began to have more good feelings for Lin Danshi, and the two also became acquainted after this blind date and met often.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="62" > correct the positive results and enter the marriage</h1>
Four or five months later, the relationship between the two went further, Tong Tiexin came to Lin Danshi's home as a guest, for Lin Danshi, this is an opportunity to open her heart to Tong Tiexin, after all, a person's home represents her last harbor.
Although Lin Danshi's home is very large, a full 200 square meters, it is not too luxurious, but it is clean and tidy, elegant and fresh, and plants are planted everywhere, almost into the eyes of a green.
In this house, Tong Tiexin suddenly had a feeling of home, she looked at Lin Danshi who was sitting next to him, and there was an inexplicable feeling in her heart, and at this moment, he found that he already liked Lin Danshi, and he was willing to become a husband and wife with her.
So soon Tong Tiexin confessed to Lin Danshi, and after a period of running-in and adaptation, the two people were successfully married on October 1, 1999.
The restructured family is not as simple as the newborn family, because it is not just the union of the two of them, but also the children behind them. Lin Danshi consulted with her husband and asked him if he wanted to take their respective children to live together?
Tong Tiexin actually thought about this matter for a long time, but there are also people around him who have reorganized the family, and after taking the child to live, there are more family conflicts, and even because of the child's problems, they have been scattered since then.
Tong Tiexin told Lin Danshi about his worries as a father who loved his son, and he was afraid that he would not take good care of the other party's daughter, and he was also afraid that the reorganized family would cause discomfort to his son.
Lin Danshi is a considerate woman, after thinking about it, she also thinks it is better not to take the child over, since then, the two have fostered the child in the parents' home on both sides, and every weekend they bring fruits, snacks, toys and other things to visit.
It is often to visit Lin Danshi's daughter Lin Guo'er first, and then to visit Tong Tiexin's son Tong Shuai. Because of the tight time, they can only stay with their children for one meal.
But their children are very young and cannot bear the pain of being separated from their parents at a young age, so every time their parents come to see them, they will always hold their parents with tears in their eyes.
Even once when Tong Tiexin was playing with their son and wanted to leave, Tong Shuai sent the two of them to the door, and carefully and reluctantly asked the sentence: Daddy, Aunt Lin, can I go to your house to see?
At this moment, the child's caution deeply touched the hearts of Tong Tiexin and Lin Danshi, and at this moment, he realized that a long period of separation from the child may not be good for the child's growth, only bad.
After returning home, the couple talked in the bedroom for most of the night, and finally felt that it was better to take the children of both sides and live together. After all, once born and two times acquainted, both parties have been in contact with each other's children for up to a year, and the two children have long been accustomed to the new family formed by their parents.
It is not impossible to bring them together to live together. Coupled with the fact that children are now small, it is a critical period for character development, and the lack of parental companionship may have a very bad impact on the future.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="63" > stepdaughter, and contradictions emerged</h1>
Finally, on January 1, 2002, at the beginning of the new year, Tong Tiexin and Lin Danshi each picked up their children, starting with the New Year and beginning their family of four.
On the same night, at the lively dinner table, as a father, Tong Tiexin stood up and told the two children: Even if it is a reorganized family, they are still the treasures in the palms of their parents, as a father, he will not favor Tong Shuai, and likewise, Lin Danshi, as a mother, will not favor his daughter.
At the dinner table, Tong Shuai called out to Lin Guo'er as a sister, and Lin Guo'er also recognized Tong Shuai as his brother.
After that, Tong Tiexin and Lin Danshi did what they promised, did not favor their children, they transferred their children to the same school, gave the same amount of living expenses and pocket money, and in terms of eating and wearing, the two children were treated the same.
After settling down for two or three years, one day Tong Shuai suddenly said to his father at night that tomorrow was his own mother's birthday and wanted to go and see it. As a stepmother, Lin Danshi was very generous, but instead encouraged Tong Shuai's behavior, believing that it was his performance as a manly person, and gave him money to buy some gifts for his birth mother.
Later, the couple also used the same method to let Lin Guo'er also go to his biological father's house to see. I thought that life should be like this, and I would live in peace. However, in fact, with the continuous efforts of Lin Danshi's career in recent years, while his assets have reached a higher level, family crises have gradually emerged.
It turned out that as a career-oriented woman, Lin Danshi had originally done things sharply, and occasionally her temper was a little big, and she was used to cleaning up her home in an orderly manner, and she was not accustomed to her husband's sloppy appearance, and she had said more than once that her husband, as a public figure, should pay attention to the image when going out.
Tong Tiexin, as a manly husband, has his own majesty, and is no longer willing to be counted down by his wife every day, and occasionally resists. But the top two sentences also said that the wife could not be, and she could only run to the study alone to sulk.
Who knew that all this made Tong Shuai see it in his eyes and remember it in his heart. In her opinion, Aunt Lin has developed a good career over the years, and she is more fearless of her father, who has become a weak person at home. Coupled with the fact that the family was originally formed, I can't say anything about this new mother, and I can't say I like it or hate it. After all these things, I began to hate this new mother a little.
However, loving his father's face and the majesty of his stepmother herself, Tong Shuai did not dare to show it, so he had to secretly bully Lin Guo'er, the daughter brought by his new mother.
Not only did he throw sand at Lin Guo'er at school, but he also said that she was fat and made fun of her in various ways.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="67" > build a nest with love and be happy</h1>
At that time, Tong Tiexin was preparing to launch a new song "The Wife Is Hard", even if he found the clue between the brothers and sisters, he talked with Tong Shuai about his heart, but since then he has not paid too much attention, plus after talking about the heart, his son has been performing very well, Tong Tiexin also put his mind at ease, but he did not know that his son would quietly remember this matter in his heart and wait for revenge later.
And that year Tong Tiexin launched a new song "Wife Is Hard" won the China Music Television Gold Award, the Military Song Television Competition Gold Award, it was at this time, Tong Tiexin learned that the investment company behind this song, in fact, the wife secretly disguised, and this song was thrown into the market, but also the wife silently promoted for him.
His wife's silent efforts, but never striving for credit, made him very moved. Since then, in the face of his wife's occasional nagging and tantrums, he felt that as a man, he should be considerate of his wife, and he was accustomed to smiling and squinting. However, in the eyes of his son, this is a manifestation that his father has become accustomed to being bullied by Aunt Lin.
One afternoon in 2011, Tong Shuai was playing basketball when he noticed Lin Guo'er passing by. Tong Shuai, who was angry in his heart, grabbed the basketball in his hand and slammed it into Lin Guo'er. Cause and effect did not expect that his brother would suddenly hit himself with a basketball, cry out in pain, and also go home to complain to his mother.
Tong Shuai also realized that he had gone too far, and stood by and did not dare to speak. Listening to her daughter's crying, although Lin Danshi was distressed about her daughter, she was hindered by herself, after all, she was not Tong Shuai's biological mother, and it was not easy to make any comments.
But Tong Tiexin lost a lot of temper, went back to the house to teach his son a lesson, and talked to his son. It was also at this time that he knew where the resentment in his son's heart came from, and he was both helpless and felt funny.
That night, the couple's bedroom was once again brightly lit, and they also realized that their parents' words and deeds would affect the children, and Lin Danshi also felt that she might have done something excessive, if she said less angry words and less tantrums to her husband, her son would not misunderstand.
Tong Tiexin also feels that as a father, although he loves Lin Danshi and knows that Lin Danshi is very good to him, but in the face of children's some bad words, his feelings for Lin Danshi in his heart cannot be conveyed to the children, and it will cause misunderstandings to the children.
Since then, the couple has changed their previous image, Tong Tiexin began to learn not to be sloppy, Lin Danshi also tried to drop Tong Tiexin twice, and the children of the two also returned to their previous relationship, and they are still a happy and harmonious family of four.
Even later, when his sister encountered trouble at school, Tong Shuai, as an older brother, would stand up to protect his sister.
And their family is still harmonious, happy and peaceful.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="51" > summary</h1>
Marriage needs to be managed, and the family also needs to be managed, especially the reorganized family, which has many factors that are prone to rupture. If both parents are unwilling to find reasons from themselves and are unwilling to communicate and contact with their children more, then the restructured family is actually difficult to last. What do you think about this?
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