Have you been urged to marry?
Do you want to get married?
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The world doesn't seem to be very friendly to older leftover women/men, with ridicule, blows, and even sarcasm. The traditional concept of marriage and children has been deeply rooted in people's consciousness.
The TV series "Who Said I Can't Get Married" Cheng Lu faced the situation of being urged to marry as soon as she appeared. At work, leaders and subordinates always look for reasons why she is old and unmarried to question her ability to work and distrust her.
Image source: TV series "Who Said I Can't Get Married"
In life, she also has to face her mother's various fancy marriages anytime and anywhere, and all kinds of signs make her very tired and helpless.
She herself believes that marriage is not a necessity for her, so she does not worry about whether she will marry as she gets older.
In her own words, her external conditions are not bad: people are beautiful, they have bought a house, they have their own jobs, no man can support themselves to live a good and dashing life, why do they have to get married.
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Yeah, why do you have to get married?
This is also the voice of many people who are now urged to marry, because in their view, after marriage, not only will the pressure and responsibility they face increase, but also more troubles.
And now that he has the ability to live well, he can be how dashing he is, and why send himself into the mire of marriage.
But in the face of cruel real life, how many people have chosen to compromise.
As a screenwriter, Cheng Lu's lack of understanding of emotional knowledge and unmarried factors have greatly affected her career, and her ability is not recognized.
She can't be as dedicated to her career as her girlfriend Tian Lei, be a staunch unmarried person, face the blatant whispers of others, and she doesn't have the courage to say that sentence: It's not single to choose me, it's me to choose to be single.
She loves screenwriting, and she just wants to do a good job and live her life well, and as for marriage, she wants to slowly wait for the right person to appear.
However, the fact is that others always grasp the fact that she is older and unmarried to deny her, and the blows again and again make her very frustrated and frustrated.
Did she begin to trance that her old age and unmarriedness was proof of failure? From this moment on, she began to shake her previous thoughts.
She pondered what she was suffering at this moment: her ability to work because she was unmarried and had no emotional experience and could not write a good emotional bridge, to participate in blind dates but was compared to a suburban house worthless, and so on.
All of this hit her self-esteem and self-confidence. The root of the problem comes from being unmarried at an older age, and it seems that if she wants to solve the status quo and block the mouth of others, marriage is the best way.
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Marrying for the sake of getting married, that's her mindset at this point.
I know that there are also many people who are under pressure and choose to marry for the sake of marriage like Cheng Lu.
To put it bluntly, this kind of marriage is two people living together, making things together, not having to love, but all aspects are just right.
I don't agree with a person who can't withstand the pressure of marriage and finally chooses a person he doesn't love to marry casually, which is a manifestation of his own irresponsibility to others, and it is also disrespectful to others.
Fu Seoul said:
"Marriage is a loss, you must marry someone you like." The longer the marriage, the more you lose, and marry someone you like very much, you can only think about it if you suffer a loss. ”
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At a drama club party, Cheng Lu met Li Weihao, the first love she had liked for many years.
Seeing Cheng Lu again, she knew that her heart had never forgotten him, and after learning that he was unmarried, she did not want to miss him again. Without any experience in chasing people, she plans to cooperate with Wei Shu, and when she is the subject of his research, he helps her to give advice and advice, each taking what she needs.
When Cheng's mother took Uncle Wu home that day, Cheng Lu saw their happy and happy appearance, felt very lonely, and her heart was more determined to pursue Li Weihao again.
Cheng's mother decided to go abroad with Uncle Wu to live, and Cheng Lu asked her mother very puzzled: "Mom, why do you like Uncle Wu, Uncle Wu looks quite ordinary, and it is not a perfect choice." ”
Mother Cheng asked her back: "Then what do you say is perfect, and what measure it is?"
He said to Cheng Lu in a serious tone: "There is no perfect choice in this world, let alone a perfect lover, so if it is appropriate, let's get married." ”
As she herself said, getting married wasn't that easy, and she didn't know what it meant to be married.
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What is the meaning of marriage?
I think it's probably about meeting the right person who wants to spend the rest of his/her life hand in hand with him/her, living a plain life, chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea.
Some people say that marriage is the natural result of two people who love each other.
And people who choose to marry for the sake of getting married see marriage as a task.
The two are also married and there is an essential difference: the former is because of love, the latter is because of mission.
Hopefully we can all do the former.