When it comes to "marriage", it is inevitable to think of China's blind date market.
Eileen recently brushed the video and accidentally saw such a headline: "If I don't marry the 50 million rich second generation, my whole soul will be destroyed!" ”
The speaker is an ordinary sophomore Xiao Zhou, who bluntly said in a blind date show: I will marry the rich second generation in my life, not millions of kinds, but tens of millions!
The staff of the program advised her: "Marriage is not only about money, and we are not very well arranged for your request..."
Under The repeated requests of Xiao Zhou, the program team worked hard to find a "rich second generation". However, after Xiao Zhou met with people, he immediately began to make demands to the other party: "Your family must distinguish between right and wrong, and require honesty and reliability, so that I am willing to call each other's parents and mothers." ”
The man asked, "What can you attract me to you?" Can you play the piano and draw? Or do you have to go up to the hall and down to the kitchen? ”
Xiao Zhou looked around for a moment and said something that made everyone around him dumbfounded: "After the negotiation is completed, I can learn all this." ”
As the saying goes: "There is no love in the blind date market, you come and go is friendship", but blind date women like Xiao Zhou are indeed a bit surprising.
What is a blind date? However, according to the conditions of the two people, the marriage and love environment is adapted. And once people accept such a marriage logic, they need to abide by the laws of the market: you don't have much capital to premium, don't complain about why others are not willing to pay more!
And can a happy marriage only be obtained through a one-sided rich marriage? Eileen puts a big question mark here.
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"Marrying rich" is not necessarily happiness
In the "Beijing Women's Illustrated Book", Chen Ke meets Yu Yang, the second generation of the rich, after breaking up with the affordable man. Yu Yang could easily give her luxury bags and watches, but never disclosed their relationship.
Once, Yu Yang met with a partner, Chen Ke's lame English made the scene very embarrassing for a while, which showed that the circles of the two people were far apart. In the end, Chen Ke released a big move, invited his mother to force Yu Yang to marry, and the answer he forced out was: "I don't want to get married so early." ”
So the two finally broke up, but soon after they separated, Fu Er Dai quickly married another woman who was in the right house.
Yu Yang likes Chen Ke's young beauty and is willing to buy and buy for her, but for the role of his wife, he has never been a woman like Chen Ke who is completely different from him.
Even if Yu Yang toyed with her feelings in the palm of her hand, she could not say a word of "no" from the material vortex.
Although this is only the plot of TV, it is more than enough in real life.
I have a small hair, used to be a college flower, white skin, beautiful and long legs, proper idol heroine appearance.
Since falling in love with a rich boyfriend, she has often not been seen, and often skipping classes has also led to her hanging up several subjects in college, and almost did not get a diploma.
Later, I heard that she married the rich boyfriend because she was pregnant with twins. However, it seems that he has embarked on the fast lane of life, but he often shows his "melancholy" in the circle of friends.
"Instead of others making you tired, it's better to make yourself tired," she said. Life that can't be climbed is simply living a sin! ”
It was actually her in-laws. Her mother-in-law has always looked down on Her young hair, and her life is full of arrogance, at first her husband helped her say two words, but then her husband also looked down on her.
These are the real results of blind "rich marriage" in real life.
When some women face marriage and love, they often only look at each other's wealth and whether they can get a better life, but never consider the quality of the other party or the family environment.
In the marriage found in this way, the happiness index is all pinned on others, and naturally after marriage, it will not feel the sense of family security.
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Don't think of marriage as a life-changing stone
Wu Peici, who debuted at the age of 18, was once titled "Nine-Headed Beauty" by the Taiwan media.
But she is bent on joining the giants, and has given birth to 3 children in four years for her boyfriend Ji Xiaobo, and even abandons her career, planning to wholeheartedly teach her husband and children at home.
Even so, Ji Xiaobo still did not want to marry Wu Peici, but instead kept rumors with the warblers and swallows around him. Later, in order to break through the psychological defense line of the mother-in-law, Wu Peici spent more than a billion yuan to buy a villa for Ji Xiaobo's mother and a big golden dragon for the hotel of the family business.
Although desperately trying to please, the child's father is still his boyfriend, and the mother-to-be is still the mother-in-law.
Some people say: Wu Peici's mistake is to marry into the rich as the only goal of his life, and even give up his self-esteem and give up his career, bent on becoming a vassal of the giants, and has so far become a "single mother".
Some time ago, Wang Rui'er, who was called the first model on the Internet, once posted on Weibo that she was seriously abused by her rich second-generation boyfriend, and she boldly exposed the tragic situation of her right eye being red and swollen, bleeding from the corner of her mouth, and saying that her important parts were knocked down "seriously deformed", causing an uproar in network public opinion.
The Wang Rui'er has been dating the rich second-generation boyfriend for three years, and generously admits that they were initially together because they coveted each other's "money", but they suffered countless abuses and beatings in the past three years, and finally proposed to break up in anger.
Women taking shortcuts in marriage will certainly make themselves easy, but they also have to bear a lot of unexpected risks. Relying on others to achieve yourself will only make you lose yourself more and more.
The biggest tragedy of a woman is actually that she thinks she can live easily, and her life is tied to the soaring glory of others.
Fantasizing about changing your life through marriage seems like a shortcut, but in fact you will lose more. As Zweig said: "All the gifts given by fate have been secretly marked with price tags." ”
And in love, the best state is to be yourself first, and then live the most comfortable life with the person who loves you.
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The way you pursue material things determines your worth
If you want a golden life, you can choose to fight for the college entrance examination, fight for college, fight for work, fight for promotion and salary, even if you are tired and tired, you can accumulate wealth down-to-earth.
There are also people who will choose to find shortcuts, spell youth, fight face, spell plastic surgery, fight marriage, just to relax and effortlessly, there is no problem in trying it.
In the young age, it is human nature to yearn for beauty and prosperity. But how to satisfy desires can determine a person's rank.
The nobility of human nature is not that there are no desires, but that we will satisfy ourselves in the right way.
When you work hard for a project, stay up late for three consecutive days to rush to work without closing your eyes, face the boss's constant prick, and never give up, in fact, you have grown up and harvested your own stable wealth.
When you and your husband, who is not a rich second generation, carefully plan the resources in your hand, do everything perfectly, you can also find the happiness of a small family in life, and your heart is full of stable joy.
However, if you have not worked hard and are full of thoughts about how to take shortcuts, this idea will slowly become "poison", eroding all your persistence on the road of life, until you find that all your efforts and persistence are worthless in the face of shortcuts.
There is no shortcut on the road of life, only down-to-earth, based on improving yourself, you will definitely be able to harvest stable happiness!