On Tuesday, take baby to dinner with good friends. Xiao Bei played a game of "fighting" with a few good friends, and a few of us were chatting. Suddenly, a friend said, "Oh, XiaoBei kicked xx away and kicked him in the stomach, it was too scary." Then everyone went over to see the kid who had been "kicked." The friend then said: I didn't see that XiaoBei was still quite fierce. I believe my friend is just expressing what she sees that she thinks is "serious." However, when we thought that there had been a very serious accident in the past two children's side, Xiaobei and xx were blindfolded and did not know what was wrong. Maybe they were playing and didn't pay attention to what we were talking about. I looked at xx, nothing happened, and then crouched down next to Xiao Bei and said to him very seriously: Xiao Bei, you must pay attention to safety, this kick is too dangerous. Xiao Bei reacted and began to make trouble, saying: No, no, and began to cry. I realized he was feeling wronged, and then I took him to the balcony to guide him.
In fact, this is a normal game of two boys, and the characteristics of boys are not to express emotions through language, but to achieve communication and emotional flow through fighting games. However, because Xiaobei's movements were too large, it caused parents to worry about the incident. Parents think that the safety problem is very serious, the child thinks that we are playing a game, and suddenly is wronged "I hit xx". Therefore, the solution of things is not black and white, can not play or can play, but how to remind children to pay attention to safety when playing, and how to deal with safety issues when they see safety issues.
There is a classic story about Mr. Tao Xingzhi: he saw a small child fighting on the playground, and he said you go to my office. The child went first, Tao Xingzhi later, as soon as he sat down, Tao Xingzhi opened the drawer - this piece of sugar rewards you, came to me on time, earlier than I came, indicating that you respect me; the second piece of sugar, I told you to stop, you did not fight again, you listened to my advice; the third piece of sugar, I understand that you fight to help others out of anger, fight righteousness. The child panicked and said you hit me, I was wrong. The fourth piece of sugar, if you know it is wrong, change it, you can go.
This story shows that education can have a very kind face to shape a good soul and a good child; punishment is malicious, and what reflects its own power will never be a good and correct education.
