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There is a saying that is very true: "Everyone's life is only one life." While everyone can fall and get up again, no one can erase the established past, especially one that he is not ashamed of. ”
Every step we take determines our future days and is an indicator of our attitude to life and our lives. Therefore, we should think twice. It wasn't me who said it, it was said by an emotional writer. I think it makes a lot of sense, so I want to remind some young girls: really, a great young man, who doesn't fall in love well, why fall in love with a married man when you are confused?
It seems that in the past TV series and reality, many people think that the third party can be completely retired, and those young girls who fall in love with married men seem to have a bad ending? Is this really the case?
Guo Haiweed in "Snail Residence" is already miserable enough. She lost her womb, had no children, and finally she had to stay away from a foreign country without Song Siming's support. She lived a life abroad not as an alcoholic, but as a strange place, completely unknown and devoid of any money.
Lin Youyou in "Thirty Only" seems to have completely escaped, but she is also a mess. If the blue firework tattoo left on her chest was later asked by others, would she be ashamed to say it? Being a little three is not a glorious history. Will her future partner really not care?
Of course, you may say that Guo Haizao and Lin Youyou's ending is not very bad, but I wrote a realistic version of Lin Youyou's story. She was definitely worse than Lin, and she had paid a heavy price for that ridiculous affair. Falling in love with a married man is just wasting his youth, and even if he breaks up, he is still restless.
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The worst ending for young girls falling in love with a married man.
Bai Ting changed a city and started her life again. She was really going to say goodbye to her past self, and she deleted all the contact details of that man so she shouldn't be bothered. Qingyue obeyed her parents' arrangement and gently and gracefully kissed a local boy of the same age. They chatted well and had serious contacts.
After returning to her hometown, Bai Ting did not tell her parents everything about her life in Tianmu City. As for why she suddenly came back, she explained that she was homesick and thought it was better to be with her parents. The old couple didn't know anything, but felt that their daughter had finally understood things.
Bai Ting returned to her hometown at the age of 26 and then went on a blind date with Li Jinsheng.
The two men talked very well about their feelings. Six months later, their parents met and they were both satisfied, so they discussed the wedding for them. Li Jinsheng gave Qingyue a little sense of security, and Qingyue wanted to settle down. She felt that it was good to marry Li Jinsheng, at least reliable, and her job in Li Jinsheng was relatively stable. If it was Bai Ting before, it would definitely not look up to Li Jinsheng, but now Bai Ting's requirements for the other half are not so high.
After coming back for a long time, Qingyue would still think of Zhang Xianhua at night, but that was only a vague memory in her mind, and it would disappear after a hurry. She wasn't going to tell Li Jinsheng about her and Zhang Xianhua's past, and she didn't feel the need. "If I don't say it, who will know?" Even if it's disgraceful, it's my secret, isn't it?
Qingyue stubbornly believes that as long as she does not say it, no one will know, but if the network is so magnified, China will be so big, as long as someone wants to find, your past can still be found, not to mention the people who have been pestering you, no one intends to let you go, how can you escape?
Bai Ting married Li Jinsheng, and the two lived happily after marriage. They don't have children yet. Then they often go to some interesting restaurants after work to punch in and eat. On weekends, they also go for walks in the surrounding cities. Life is so bland, but it's very interesting. Qingyue was satisfied.
After a year of marriage, Qingyue and Li Jinsheng discussed her plans to have children. She was recuperating and eating folic acid. Li Jinsheng also quit drinking, and they were pregnant.
But at this time, an "uninvited guest" disrupted their happy married life.
Bai Ting did not expect that Zhang Xianhua would come to her city to find her. Zhang Xianhua did not look for her directly, but went to Li Jinsheng. By the time Bai Ting knew, it was already too late. Qingyue asked Zhang Xianhua why she didn't want to feel better. Zhang Xianhua said, I myself am not happy. Do you want to have fun? I'm not going to let you go we've been talking about the relationship for five years. Have you said it for so long? Yes, I won't marry you, but I also don't want to make you happy. Bai Ting's teeth itched with hatred. She slapped Zhang Xianhua, but what was the use? Li Jinsheng already knew everything. Zhang Xianhua came here to destroy Bai Ting's happiness. He didn't want Bai Ting to have a good life. Although Zhang Xianhua returned home, he did not want Bai Ting to leave so easily. Because Bai Ting had been with him for five years, he felt that Bai Ting was his, which was really funny. What kind of life can you give to others? Some people are always so dissatisfied, especially men who have been cheating for years.
After knowing Bai Ting's "black history", Li Jinsheng could not accept it for a while, so he divorced Bai Ting. "I can't imagine that you've been with him for five years, and you're still living together, so which five years have you been his?" hostess? You make me feel dirty. You gave birth to him twice. He was so cruel. How can you make yourself stupid again and again? I told myself before that I don't care about your past, but I can't accept that you live with someone else and you get pregnant and have a baby. You didn't tell me about your past, you kept it a secret from me, do you respect me? In my heart, you are so good, but now, I accept it like a fool. "Bai Ting apologized, but Li Jinsheng couldn't listen to it at all." I mind, I mind you being a mistress, I mind everything you've been in the past. I know that man must be your favorite and you will never forget it for the rest of your life. I didn't want to be a substitute and wasn't so kind. Let's get a divorce. I can tell your parents that we disagree with each other. "And just like that, they were married for a year and divorced when they got pregnant. Bai Ting was in pain, but there was no other way.
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At the age of 21, Bai Ting had just graduated from university and went to work in Tianmu City and met Zhang Xianhua. Zhang Xianhua was ten years older than her. Bai Ting did not know that Zhang Xianhua was married until later, but it was a little late at that time. She was tricked into going to bed by Zhang Xianhua. Zhang Xianhua said that he liked her, Bai Ting was interested in him, the two people naturally had a connection, and it was natural for adults to fall in love and have sex. Qingyue was less sensible. She trusted Zhang Xianhua and thought he could protect her, but she didn't expect him to be the one who brought her into the fire pit.
Knowing that Zhang Xianhua has a family, Bai Ting proposed to break up, but in Zhang Xianhua's retention, Bai Ting gave up again. Young girls are easily defeated by substance. Zhang Xianhua gave her a luxury bag and paid her rent for a year. She felt that Zhang Xianhua loved her.
Zhang Xianhua told her, "You wait, I'll get a divorce, and then let you be my wife," and she really believed it. They did have a lot of happy times. Bai Ting would occasionally work as a cook for Zhang Xianhua, and Zhang Xianhua would occasionally come here, two or three times a week, to treat the house rented by Bai Ting as his other home. After three years together, Bai Ting met Zhang Xianhua's wife, a beautiful and gentle woman. She came to the door and said, "It's nice to have you taking care of him." I'm not mad at you for being with him. I can rest assured that he's with you so he doesn't go out and look for some messy woman. We're not divorced, you wait, wait another five years, neither of us will divorce. Bai Ting thought that when she was young, she would win, and she lost even worse. The reason why Zhang Xianhua did not divorce his wife was because of his wife's good family status, what did Qingyue have? When Bai Ting became pregnant for the first time, she urged Zhang Xianhua to divorce her quickly, but Zhang Xianhua asked her to beat up the child. More ironic? On the day Qingyue miscarried at the hospital, Zhang Xianhua's wife gave birth to her second child at the same hospital. After Bai Ting knew, her face was as pale as blood. This is what she calls love. After raising her body, she broke up again, but not intermittently, so Qingyue was not so cruel. Then there was the second physical abuse. When the two were together for five years, Qingyue had been depressed for a long time, and she wanted to let go of everything and start over. Five years of youth were wasted. From the age of 21 to 28, the good years of youth are gone. They wasted on a married man, and Bai Ting felt worthless. She didn't say "break up" with Zhang Xianhua and then ran away, but how could she escape? In fact, if Qingyue is generous and decent, it will solve the emotional entanglement with Zhang Xianhua, and maybe there will be nothing behind. But it was too late. Bai Ting's ending was quite tragic. I fell in love with the youth of a married man who had wasted five years, and I didn't end up with any money, but also lost two children. Then I finally got married, changed cities and started over, divorced again. At 28, I was distressed because of a broken relationship. Bai Ting didn't know what to do in the future. Can she have a new life? Did she really break up with Zhang Xianhua?
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Because of an extramarital affair, ruined my best youth.
In "Snail Dwelling", Mrs. Song says a word to seaweed: "I got everything I deserved." Love my husband, lovely daughter, due social status and respect. At my age, there are not many women who live so happily, and I have no complaints. I really sympathize with you and I hope you have as many things as I do my age instead of going out like a street rat. I hope that your future husband will still treat you as a baby after learning about your tragic history. Take care! ”
This sentence I gave to some young girls is not worth it. Don't spend your youth on married men. Be young and fight for your career, rather than getting involved in the "rotten peach blossoms". Girls who fall in love with married men are really stupid. Miss it once, don't miss it a second time, break up quickly, and don't fall into their scams and traps.
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