Someone once said, "The hand that pushes the cradle is also the hand that pushes the world." "The three views of a mother are indeed the ones that infect the family and her children. People who like to read history may perceive that behind almost every accomplished person, there is a mother who is intelligent, insightful, and has the right views.
A family, even if the family is surrounded by disciples, as long as there is a mother who is upright, kind, industrious, optimistic, insightful, and has three views, is the greatest blessing for the children and the greatest blessing for the family.
The mother's three views are positive, and the child is not going astray
There is no more terrible three views than the uselessness of reading and the dignity of money. Under the influence of this belief in material supremacy, some mothers are ruining their children's lives. Respecting knowledge and attaching importance to reading are the most basic manifestations of whether the mother's three views are correct or not.
In the old days, when Mencius was young, living close to the cemetery, Mencius learned to play the game of funeral. Meng Mu said to herself, "I can't let my children live here." ”
Later, he moved to the market, and Mencius played a game of bargaining between killing chickens and geese. Meng Mu said to herself, "This place is not suitable for my children to live." ”
Eventually moved to the vicinity of the school. Mencius began to become orderly, polite, and a lover of reading. Meng Mu said happily, "This is where my son should live!" ”
What Meng Mu did was to keep Mencius away from those vulgar and vulgar environments, and let him be a person who loved to read. It was MengMu's foresight that made a generation of Great Confucian Mencius.
The mother has three views and the child has good character
The kindness and love of the mother is the key to the child's good relationship and career development in the future. The mother's vision and heart determine whether the future of the child is broad and whether the mind is broad.
Many parents have their own moral cultivation to be improved, they have no great ambition to do anything, but they demand that their children have a career; they only care about making money on their own, they rarely care about their children's education, they do not read books and study, but they ask their children to be among the best; they are addicted to mahjong poker games or staggering chips, but they require their children to concentrate on their own; they do not honor the elderly, but they require their children to obey their words; they open their mouths and shut up their dirty words, but they require their children to be polite and civilized; how can they ask their children to be virtuous in order to make money?
Tao Mu retired from the fish, talking about the mother of Tao Kan, a famous general of the Eastern Jin Dynasty. Tao Kan, who was once a fisherman's official, when eating the pickled fish of the official government, remembered his poor mother at home, so he used clay pots to fill some people and send them to his mother. Unexpectedly, the mother returned the favor in full, and the letter rebuked: "Ru is an official, leaving me with official property, not only can not benefit me, but to increase my worries!" It is precisely because of Tao Mu's words and deeds that although Tao Kan's family is poor, he has been an official for a long time.
Children are often the shadow of adults. If the mother is kind and gentle, knows how to manage the family financial management, is helpful, optimistic and cheerful, can eat small losses, and has the courage to take responsibility, then her way of thinking and good habits will be imperceptibly passed on to her children.
The mother has three views and the child's emotional intelligence is high
The fate of each person is made up of multiple factors, especially sons and daughters. A mother's emotional intelligence can also affect a child's life.
Ouyang Xiu, an outstanding literary figure of the Northern Song Dynasty, was very poor at a young age. Unable to afford to buy paper and pencil, his mother used reed stalks to write and draw on the sand and teach him to read and write; there were no books to read at home, so Ou Mu went to the reader's house to borrow books to learn from Ouyang Xiu...
Through her courage and responsibility in facing difficulties, Ouyang Xiu's mother subtly infects her growing son. Ouyang Xiu also inherited this precious emotional intelligence wealth of his mother, working day and night, sleeping and forgetting food, devoting himself to reading, and eventually becoming a generation of literary heroes.
Many children lack the ability to overcome difficulties, can not withstand the blow, suffer setbacks after a long period of sluggishness, can not maintain enthusiasm for life. Good moms make them know how to deal with difficulties and setbacks correctly.
The three views are upright, which is the most exuberant attitude of a person walking in the world.
A woman's good conduct is a treasure in the family, and it is more fascinating than her beautiful appearance and overflowing intelligence. Beside her, men do not do reckless things, and children will have a bright future.
And a happy family does not need fresh clothes and food, nor does it need to be full of gold and jade, if you can have a mother with the right three views, it is the greatest blessing.