Young people make friends, often relying on feelings and righteousness, seeing that someone is more pleasing to the eye, they will take the initiative to ignore that person, and then start to make friends with that person. If two people get along well, they will become friends who don't say anything. Young people don't think too much about making friends, they will be friends with him when they can get along, and they will ignore him if they can't.
Inviting guests to dinner is an important means of making friends and maintaining friendships. Eating together often is certainly conducive to maintaining and increasing the friendship between two people. Young people often do not think too much about inviting guests to dinner, but when older people invite guests to dinner, they must consider it carefully.
When you are over forty years old, you should not invite these three kinds of people, otherwise you will not be able to spend money to please.
People who look down on you
Han Wei especially likes to make friends, and the ways he meets friends are also diverse. Some of his friends were his classmates, some were his colleagues, some he met online, and some of them he met on the street. Han Wei felt that the more friends a person has for a lifetime, the better.
After Han Wei knew those people, he would treat them with sincerity, but the temper of those people was different, some people were particularly sincere to Han Wei, and when Han Wei encountered difficulties, they would try their best to help Han Wei solve them; some people were very slippery, they would often play tricks on Han Wei; some people were very arrogant, they looked down on Han Wei very much.
On this day, after Han Wei paid his salary, he wanted to invite seven or eight friends who were particularly good to get together. When he was ready to call Zhang Bo, he hesitated, because Zhang Boping looked down on him very much, and he didn't know whether to call Zhang Bo for a dinner.
Han Wei was very hospitable and generous, and eventually he invited Zhang Bo, who did not mind Zhang Bo's usual attitude towards himself.
But soon Han Wei regretted it, at the dinner table, Zhang Bo still looked down on Han Wei very much, "Han Wei, you are too unproductive", "Han Wei, you will not do great things in this life", Zhang Bo said more crazy words after getting drunk, "The people at your table will not have anything to do in the future."
Han Wei said, "At that time, if you didn't call Zhang Bo to come to dinner, it would be good."
He often looks down on other people, and his heart is extremely arrogant. This kind of person must stay away from him at ordinary times, because in his every word and every move, he will reveal his dissatisfaction with others. He should not be called at dinner, because when he is drunk, the words he says will make all the people who attend the party feel angry.
People with particularly great contradictions
Wang Dong is a sincere and kind person, this month because of his hard work, the boss gave him a bonus of 1500 yuan, colleagues shouted to let him invite guests to dinner, Wang Dong quickly nodded in agreement.
But soon he was in trouble in his heart, his usual relationship with Peng Shuai was not very good, the two people had a particularly big contradiction, they quarreled because of a little thing, at that time the two sides still had to move, the contradiction has not been resolved.
Wang Dong thought to himself, just call Peng Shuai, just take the opportunity of this gathering, resolve this contradiction, then you can get along with him in a friendly way.
Peng Shuai attended the dinner, he was drunk after two glasses of wine, at this time he could not control his emotions, he mentioned the contradiction with Wang Dong, he shouted at Wang Dong, he even planned to fight with Wang Dong, and later under the persuasion of colleagues, he left the dinner.
Contradictions are big and small, if you want to resolve the contradiction with someone, if the contradiction between you is relatively small, you can completely solve it by inviting guests to dinner, he feels your invitation, feels your enthusiasm, and also feels your spending on this meal, for past contradictions, it is likely to laugh at the dinner table.
If you have a particularly big conflict with someone, don't invite him during dinner, the contradiction between you cannot be resolved by a meal, and he may even mess up the meal, so it will make you very embarrassed.
People who like to pick and choose
Yang Kai has a friend named Wang Jun, Wang Jun is a person who especially likes to pick and choose, no matter how perfect things are, he can pick out faults, he is that kind of personality.
On this day, Yang Kai invited Wang Jun to dinner, and Yang Kai thought that Wang Jun would be grateful to himself. Unexpectedly, at the dinner table, Wang Jun picked a lot of faults, he felt that Yang Kaixuan's hotel grade was not enough, he felt that the taste of those dishes was not authentic, and he felt that the service attitude of the hotel waiter was poor.
Yang Kai was angry, he and Wang Jun quarreled, he felt that Wang Jun really shouldn't do this, he thought that he would never invite Wang Jun to dinner again.
When you invite guests to dinner, if you call someone who is particularly picky, then the meal will definitely make you more congested.
People who especially like to pick faults will pick out faults for the most perfect things, so he must have ten thousand dissatisfactions with an ordinary meal. Inviting such people to dinner is to find anger for yourself.
After forty years, we should become more mature. These three kinds of people, don't invite them to dinner anymore.