Today we will talk about what kind of methods can help you develop good habits and cultivate your hard skills.
Can you imagine under what circumstances you would be more motivated to do something? Is it someone else's encouragement? Or is it the sense of accomplishment after you've accomplished something yourself?
There are two ways to motivate: one is self-motivation, the other is others motivate, can also be said to be authoritative motivation.
Some people like to be encouraged by others, thinking that others will encourage themselves to recognize them, such as taking a certificate in a professional field, or their position has been promoted.
Encouragement from others is also an incentive, but we can't rely on the evaluation of others to decide to do something.
It is more necessary to set up an incentive mechanism to make yourself insist on completing the goal, after all, a person's willingness to change is the core.
Today, our 18 gift method is mainly a self-motivation mechanism, setting up a set of reward and punishment mechanisms for yourself to develop good habits.
Through this reward and punishment mechanism, you can regulate your behavior and make yourself insist on completing your goals, which is what we usually call delayed gratification.
In life, you can also use this set of methods to educate children and let children develop some behavioral habits.
First of all, what are the 18 gift methods? First of all, 21 days is the beginning of a micro-habit formation, and there are about 17.3 21 days in the whole year, which is equivalent to about 18 21 days.
So 18 21 days have formed the 18 gift method we are talking about today, if you insist on it for a year at a time, many people will definitely have a fear of difficulties and feel that they can't do it, but divide the goal into a cycle of 21 days, and stick to it feels much easier.
We are through these 18 21 days to let ourselves stage by stage to complete their goals, for example, our early rise companion camp, that is, 21 days as a phase.
In our early morning companion camp, it is easy for everyone to insist on 21 days of punching, and it should be noted here that 80% of the goal can be completed within 21 days, that is to say, 21 days early, you can punch to complete 18 days, you can give yourself a gift.
Speaking of gift settings, 18 out of 21 days, you can set up 18 gifts, these gifts are from the least wanted to the most wanted to shoot the sequence.
That is to say, put your most desired gifts at the end and the least wanted gifts on the first 21 days, so that setting the order of gifts is also to delay your satisfaction.
It is easiest to complete the first 21 days, so the lower the value of the gift, wait until the 18 21 days have completed the goal, and then buy yourself a gift that you are most looking forward to.
If the middle is not completed, then the gift in the back can not be bought for yourself, here it should be noted that 21 days to complete 18 days can give yourself a gift, two eight law well, complete 80% can be.
After all, it is impossible to be perfect, and some gaps can be given appropriately, so you can buy gifts every 21 days and 18 days.
Of course, the setting of gifts also has standards, there must be a certain proportion, 50% of the 18 gifts are used to improve yourself, it can be a course, or buy books, or electronic products, of course, this electronic products must be helpful to your work and study.
You can't buy it back to play games or brush videos, so you lose the role of improving yourself.
The 30% gift in the middle can be used to buy something related to material things, or if you want to show off yourself, you can also buy such gifts.
The last 20% of gifts can be bought casually, whether you're buying clothes or snacks.
It is worth noting that these 18 gifts cannot be the necessities of life, such as eating and sleeping, wearing clothes and the like, but must be the gifts that you want in addition to the necessities of life.
Traveling, buying luxury goods, enrolling yourself in a training class, etc., can improve happiness and skills.
For example, if you want to change your small partner by waking up early, you can set up such a mechanism, and you can buy yourself a gift for each 80% of a cycle.
Failure to do can punish themselves, can be to send a red envelope to others, or to invite others to eat, there must be a reward and a penalty, if there is no punishment mechanism, it is not possible to insist.
And this punishment mechanism can be set up to be larger, preferably the kind that can make you feel sad after being punished once, such as giving 10 people a red envelope of 1,000 yuan each if you don't do it at one time.
Such a punishment will make you persist in punching for 18 days, and every 18 days you will immediately buy yourself a gift, not delay, to let your brain receive a message, that is, you are right to do so.
Your brain will be more confident of completing the next 18-day goal, and you can also apply this mechanism to the cultivation of other skills, the same reason.
This method of motivation is applied to motivating yourself, if you do not set up a reward and punishment system, then you are most likely not able to stick to it.
People have a loss aversion, and the punishment mechanism in this self-motivation law has to be set up with greater intensity, making themselves feel sad when they think of losing something soon.
Only the fear of losing will work harder to overcome the difficulties encountered, this method is used in our team a lot, many small partners have developed good habits because of this method.
I hope today's content is helpful to you, and finally you must pay attention to the punishment to be large, and the gift should also be attractive, such a temptation you don't want?