The Chinese father-son relationship is very interesting, why is it interesting, because this is not only a father-son relationship, but also interspersed with a grandfather role, in three generations, the grandfather is strict with the father, but for his own little grandchild can be resigned, the father is strict with the son, but for his own Lao Tzu, he can only obey. Grandpa and father are often at odds, just as fathers are with their own children. But the grandfather and the father's child can form a strong emotion. But this emotion will disappear when the grandson grows up.
Chinese-style family relationships often present generations of relatives. The generation of fathers and sons, whether it is father and son or mother and son or father and daughter, most of them have a lot of estrangement, and once their children have children, this estrangement is transferred to their grandchildren. Whether it is a grandson or a grandson, the ancestors get along with it, and most of them will be very harmonious. When a child is wronged by his parents, he can come to his grandparents and cry. In childhood, he was very afraid of his father, and for his grandfather, he could easily establish a kind position in his heart. However, the good times are not long, and once they grow up, this kind of intimacy will be reversed.
No one can say it clearly, no one can understand it, this is the Chinese style of family affection and the shortness of parents. The old domestic film recommended to you today tells such a story, a simple story that can no longer be simple, but there is no lack of traditional Chinese culture.
The background of the story of "Que Li Ren Ren" is very special, in the hometown of Confucius, there is such a big family, four generations of grandchildren are alive, one day Grandpa is going to have a birthday, and Grandpa heard the news and rushed back from Beijing. Grandpa was a big man who was once a minister of government, but now retired, and his father was a traditional father, who always hoped that his children would be able to teach at home in peace and stability, but his son was not like this. On his grandfather's birthday, he sold his coffin, bought himself a used car, and vowed to make money from foreigners.
After my grandfather returned home, my father was very unhappy, because my grandfather resolutely abandoned his family and went to Beijing for his own career. At that time, the grandmother already had a child, and the grandfather insisted that there was no affection between him and the grandmother, leaving the grandfather of the family a bad impression in the father's mind, until the grandmother died, the father and son still could not reconcile.
However, the grandson who was bent on going outside admired his grandfather incomparably, and in the contact with his grandfather, the grandson was gradually soothed by the heart of the stagecoach. In the end, he chose to stay in the local area to be a good teacher, and the car was sold. And because of a fire from Grandpa, Grandpa and Father began to talk again. What has not been said before is also clear. Can the two finally shake hands and make peace?
As a traditional Chinese family, it is already very special, and as a descendant of Confucius, this family is even more special. From the words and demeanor of my father and grandfather and my grandfather, I naturally have a high personal cultivation in it. But this kind of cultivation does not help them better understand each other. This is a scene that every Chinese-style family needs to face, but not every family can unblock each other and helplessness in the end.
Leaving his hometown for the ideal, or abandoning the ideal for the sake of his hometown, when the grandfather taught his grandson in the film, he replied that "as long as there is an ideal, it is not important to go to the United States." It makes a lot of sense, but not everyone can understand the implications. Ideals are a motivator for self-improvement, not an excuse to shirk responsibility. Whether Grandpa's departure was right or wrong, everyone will naturally have a comment in their hearts.
As a person who pursues his ideals, Grandpa's departure is easier to help him shorten the distance between him and his ideals, and he has finally realized his ideals, and for this family, this departure is nothing less than worse. Without the help of the third grandfather, it is not certain that the family would survive. For the father and husband and son of a family, the departure of the grandfather is undoubtedly an escape. I don't like the statement "I have a child with you, but I don't love you." Therefore, the character of Grandpa in this film is not so magnificent.
On the contrary, the third grandfather who played bare sticks all his life was a model, and at the beginning he left everyone with the impression of an "old naughty boy"-like character, free of nature, informal, and even playing with his grandchildren, etc., but until later, when his father explained the story of that year to his father, his image of this character was suddenly much taller. For the sake of the people he likes, he can not marry for life, and he lives more transparently and freely than his grandfather.
The story in the film is finally sorted out, and the characters in the film finally have their own home, but people outside the film will still be troubled by Chinese-style family relations, and no one can really understand how father and son should get along, but one thing is very clear, at any time, do not run away from their responsibilities.
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