Sometimes I feel that raising children is really too tiring, the naughtiness of children, the mischief of children, the willfulness of children! Talk about not listening, shouting should not, really feel so tired! I really felt powerless, and I really wanted to let them go.
The reason why I feel this way is mainly because I have these children, I can't always be with him, teach him to guide him, let them stay with the old man, and develop a lot of bad habits.
Because the grandparents spoiled them and loved them, everything helped them do a good job, they were all dressed to reach out, the food to open their mouths, did not know how to do housework, did not know how to be considerate of the elderly, what he wanted, he asked grandma to help take it, did not learn to do his own things.
Always thinking about buying snacks to eat, as soon as grandma was called, she gave money to buy, and developed a bad habit of buying things. As soon as I left school, I said I wanted to buy this, I wanted to buy that. Don't buy, cry, just make trouble, push me while crying, until I buy it, as long as I say a word not to give, just put a face, cry, buy immediately stop, just laugh, I really feel good failure.
After six or seven years of age, such bad habits are difficult to correct. No, you can't correct it, if you want to correct it, you have to be with her every day. Educate him little by little. Let him slowly change all his bad habits.
But I don't have time to go back a few days a month? I also don't want to make my child unhappy, so I also try to meet their requirements, so I let my child develop a radical and willful personality.
So I suggest that everyone has the conditions, it is best to bring their own children, cultivate their own children, make good rules for children, as long as they are cultivated from an early age, children will not be extreme and willful when they grow up.
So how do you make rules? For example, when the child is young, the child is not allowed to play with dangerous things.
When the child's language ability has developed to a certain extent and can understand the rules, we must make rules for the child: can not play with fire, can not play with electricity, can not play with knives, etc., these dangerous things, we must stipulate that children must not play, we remind children to abide by the rules, children must listen.
Second, stipulate the time for sleeping and resting, and we set the time for sleeping well so that the child obeys.
For example, go to bed at 1:00 pm and 9:00 pm. Before going to bed, you can say a bedtime story, and the child rules are good, list it, ask the child to obey, when the time comes, the child does not want to sleep, must go to bed.
Enough sleep can make the child's brain develop well, but also improve memory, promote physical development, let the child be healthy, but also help the growth of bones, help to raise height.
Third, the provisions of the child at the dinner table, when the child is about 3 years old, that is, the child can eat by himself, we must let the child eat with the family, do not take a bowl of rice to chase him to feed, let the child develop a good habit of eating as a family.
Because some parents like to take a bowl of rice and chase the child to feed, my current mother is also, always afraid of the child's hunger, and afraid of the child eating too much, do not want the child to eat by himself.
Every time, the child is fed first, so that adults can eat, so that the child develops the bad habit of not sitting on the dining chair and not sitting at the dining table.
Therefore, the child never takes the initiative to sit at the table to eat, go to the public place to eat loud noise, run around, I have no way, just take care of the child.
Therefore, when children understand the rules, it is stipulated that children can only eat at the table, and they can move freely when they are full, and it is also important for children to learn to eat civilized.
Fourth, stipulate the child's daily pocket money, or stipulate the number of things that the child goes to the supermarket to buy, rob the child to be extravagant and wasteful, and develop the good habit of thrift and thrift.
Like me, when there was no restraint on them, when they went to the supermarket, they didn't know how much it would cost, at least 3 to 4 hundred. Later, I made a rule that one person can only buy three things, and it must not exceed 150 yuan for three people, and I will not give money if I have more.
So when they go shopping, they have to look at the price, they have to calculate, they can't exceed the money
The other is to let the child do what he can, such as washing his hands, wearing clothes and pants, sorting out toys, trying to let the children do their own things, and cultivating the child's self-care ability and athletic ability.
When the rules are established, we must also urge the children to let the children adhere to the rules, such as writing down the rules, pasting them in a place that is easy to see, reminding the children when they need it, abiding by the rules, and letting the children develop good habits of following the rules.
If parents can cultivate their children under the age of six, let their children develop good habits, and wait for their children to go to school, they will not be as tired as I think!