Listening to a story, a parent regrets that he has raised his child to be so successful, so the child who has a job is always out of the house, in fact, he can't count on him. Listening to this story, I myself have a very touch, so many brothers and sisters in the family said that I am the most educated, the farthest out of the door, but really to the parents in front of the need, sick care, that is still at home sister brother-in-law, brother and sister-in-law, for me outside can take time to go back to see them is good. Of course, my father often cultivated himself to be proud of his children, interested in the anecdotes and anecdotes that the children came back to tell, and paid attention to the unique off-site cuisine, which brought him different comforts for children at home and children who went out. When my father was dying, I rushed back to visit his old man's house, but a few days after I left, my father left, and I was not around, which is my long regret.
Fathers are good to young children, they suffer and suffer feelings that they deserve it, to ensure the child's living and learning conditions, to the child's behavior rules and discipline, to lead and accompany some necessary hands-on training and even to do housework, to punish the child's cheating behavior are natural, at this time the most need to strengthen the content of rich accompaniment; adult children, to give them their own space to try, they are no longer appendages of adult personality, can give advice, give guidance, but can not replace decision-making, but can not be forced to do, That is, the child has done things that are not as good as he wants, and he must be able to tolerate it, because within the legal scope, the child has the ability to be responsible for himself, even if he breaks the law; after the child becomes an independent family, strengthen communication and clarify each other's requirements, I still remember the early years of parents and our whole family meetings and deliberations, the things that were decided were to be done separately, even if some things that were not on the table should be determined as much as possible on the table, of course, it is not bad to be able to communicate under the table first.
In our ignorant times, it is our parents who lead us to adulthood, and there is no reason for such a grace to be erased. When we grow up, we have an independent personality, so the opinions and practices of various things may not all be consistent with adults, and there are even conflicts between us and our parents. Under the traditional Chinese social rules, the father is the head of the family, so the personality will be tougher, sometimes wrong he also has to adhere to his own approach, but this is also more likely to offend the child, will lead to the impact of parent-child feelings, I myself remembered that whether I went to graduate school or entrepreneurship, my father also disagreed, but after all, there is no ability to stop, there is no real effort to stop, I decided that they will not say anything more. In our big family, the older brothers and sisters set a very good example on the issue of filial piety to their parents and good treatment, and established the style of filial piety to parents as the most important, contradictions always need to be compromised, and the courage to take the lead in doing things. When my brother and I were rich and strong, we naturally supported many big family affairs, thanks to the demonstration effect of my father, father, brother and sister family. There are many opportunities for good in this world, but I look forward to the continuation of this surrounding demonstration effect among our juniors.
My parents always had a saying to our children, "What is done to us is done to you yourself." What is taught is the infectious effect of family culture, how we treat our children ourselves, it is likely to affect how the next generation raises our children; how we treat our parents, it is likely to affect how the next generation treats ourselves. Speaking of which, is it disproportionate to the little money we spend casually today, especially on children, compared to what is spent on parents? In fact, today's Father's Day, you may wish to ask your father, "What else do you want?" "I can bet everyone that most of the fathers will answer that they don't want anything, maybe there is a father who answers, you can come back and see more, or "It's good to have you ask this sentence!" "I would like to ask, how long have you been calling your father without incident, how many people have not gone back to visit your father when their parents are sick, and how many people have not even taken the time to visit their parents when they are hospitalized?" Everyone thinks, if you are a father today and your children are you, what will you think when you encounter such an encounter?
We often say that we are grateful to our parents and grateful to our families. Have you really been grateful? Yes, your father raised you, and your parents are naturally good to you, but your parents are not good to you, and your family is not good to you, you remember it firmly, and you can't put it down. Well, there is a kind of person who really has a certain place that is not good for you, even a place that offends you, and you must be tolerant and put down, and you must be a hundred times grateful, a hundred times better, that is our father and mother. Love lovely people, fools can do it; remember hatred, no need to teach; grateful parents who have offended their own places, such kindness reflects the virtue we should have for our children, is what we should do as sons and daughters, and is what we should demonstrate to the next generation.
Father, maybe 100 years old in life, 30 years old when he gave birth to us, maybe he still has 70 years of fate with us - these 70 years, 20 years we are still young, are raising us; 20 years we are looking for jobs, doing jobs, starting a family, having children, he is helping us; 20 years he retired, he can still move, try not to burden the children, the old two take care of themselves, this time the children will probably occasionally go to see them; the last ten years, injuries and pains, no filial piety in front of the bed, It is good to be able to arrange a babysitter's child, when the old father is sick and sick like a toddler, where are the children at this time? Where are we?
My dad is still a happy dad, and my parents are still happy parents, and they have a hard time. But the children are filial and serve forever. This is their blessing and our blessing for our children. Filial piety to parents is the blessing of filial piety for ourselves, and resentment towards parents also accumulates negative elements of our own resentment. I look forward to such a blessing lasting in each of us, the incense family, the love is passed on, and it will not end.