In the childhood of each of us, almost all of us have the shadow of Qiong Yao drama, after the 70s is "On the Side of the Water" and "Wan jun", after the 80s is "Plum Blossom Branding" and "Yun Shui Jian", after 90 is "Huan Zhu GeGe" and "A Curtain of Dreams".
In that era, almost every one of her plays would be sought after by people, and there were many well-known actresses, such as Jin Ming, Chen Derong, Lin Xinru, etc., who became popular through Qiong Yao drama and embarked on the peak of their acting careers, and liu Xuehua was the same.
Maybe you haven't heard Liu Xuehua's name, but you must have seen this face.
She is Lu Yiping in the Taiwanese version of "Love Deep rain and mist", the empress dowager in "Splendid Weiyang", Lou Zhaojun in "The Legend of Lu Zhen", and the empress dowager in "The Biography of Zhen Huan"...
Since 1983, she has created countless classic screen images, and has gained the reputation of "Queen of Tears" because of her strong appeal and ability to control the number and speed of tears. In recent years, it has "wrapped" the role of queen in major film and television works.
But her real experience is even more tragic than the heroine in Qiong Yao's play. At the age of 27, with the Qiong Yao drama "Several Degrees of Sunset Red", he opened the peak of his acting career, and then became the royal heroine of Qiong Yao drama.
But just when the career is in the middle of the day, the emotional entanglement with the scumbag led to her lifelong infertility, it was difficult to get out of the love injury, and at the age of 52, she lost her husband who had been together for 12 years due to an accident...
What is her life like now? All this must start from her two emotional experiences.
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Actor Liu Dekai was born in a film and drama family in Kaohsiung, Taiwan, is Liu Xuehua's second boyfriend, and is also one of the people who have the deepest influence on her.
The two met through the filming of the TV series "Love in the Wind". Soon after, Liu Dekai launched a strong pursuit of Liu Xuehua.
At that time, Liu Dekai's superior appearance, coupled with the same actor, there are many common languages, Liu Xuehua was soon attracted by this Sven-looking boy, and the love affair of "Er Liu" was rumored to be a good story for a while.
But where did Liu Xuehua know at this time that this man with a list of talents would actually do so many things with low morality and ruthlessness.
The sweet words and bold confessions of the past seem like a nightmare on this day.
A woman named Wang Jingping suddenly came to the door, and after some words, completely shredded Liu Xuehua's beautiful fantasy about Liu Dekai. Having reached the point of talking about marriage and marriage, I actually knew that Liu Dekai had been secretly married for many years, and there were 3 children, and he had been a "little three" for so many years for no reason.
Liu Xuehua, who was devastated, decided to leave Liu Dekai with pain. However, as a veteran of the love scene, he immediately divorced the original match and coaxed Liu Xuehua back with "a paper departure book".
However, this is the beginning of the tragedy, because Liu Dekai's scum is far more than that.
In 1996, at the age of 37, Liu Xuehua became pregnant with Liu Dekai's child. I thought that Liu Dekai, who had changed his mind, could live with himself safely and steadily, but at this time, Liu Xuehua waited for a "parting letter".
At that time, Liu Dekai was filming "A Curtain of Dreams" in France, and he quickly fell in love with a French girl who was 23 years younger and married. It seems that marriage is really a child's play for Liu Dekai.
For a while, Liu Xuehua had been ghostly, and as a result, he accidentally fell in the bathroom and miscarried. Because the fetus was already very large at that time, in order to save her life, she had to remove the uterus and lost her fertility forever.
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But people will not be unhappy all the time, the darkest hour is also the time of turning, and happiness may be quietly waiting for us ahead. Happiness was also quietly waiting for Liu Xuehua in front.
Depressed, Liu Xuehua, persuaded by her family, decided to go to Shanghai to relax, and it was this trip that allowed her to meet her husband Deng Yukun.
Deng Yukun is a film and television screenwriter who has participated in the production of TV series such as "The Golden Powder Family" (1988 edition) and "Bao Qingtian". In fact, Liu and Deng had known each other before, but at that time, Liu Xuehua and Liu Dekai were still in love, and Deng Yukun also ran his own family, and the two were just a simple cooperative relationship.
And this encounter, the situation of the two has been very different from before. Between the two people who have experienced emotional setbacks, there seems to be an inexplicable attraction.
At the party, Deng Yukun used his eyes to express his appreciation for Liu Xuehua and the hail. After the party, Deng Yukun also sent Liu Xuehua eight words: "Ice heart wins snow, spring calyx Qihua", and later Liu Xuehua also took these eight words as the name of his Weibo.
Deng Yukun, who appeared at this time, was like a fire in the harsh winter, hot and warm. Although he is not tall or handsome, he is gentle and dedicated, which is exactly what attracts Liu Xuehua the most. It didn't take long for Li deng and Li Deng to enter the palace of marriage.
With an age difference of 13 years, they were not optimistic about the outside world at that time. But feelings are such things, cold and warm self-knowledge. From some of the interview programs later, we can also see their love and happiness.
When asked by the host about the time of marriage, Deng Yukun said it without hesitation, and it was accurate to the point. Liu Xuehua does not like the trivial things in life, does not know the Internet, and cannot cook, but Deng Yukun has a special love for such life-like things as raising flowers and decorating.
The complementary personalities also make the two get along very well after marriage. Although they do not have children of their own, Liu Xuehua also gets along well with his ex-wife's children.
Because Liu Xuehua likes to live in Shanghai, Deng Yukun also sold his house in Hong Kong and moved to Shanghai with her. However, such a peaceful and happy day came to an abrupt end one day after 12 years.
In 2011, Deng Yukun fell to his death.
One ordinary night, Liu Xuehua woke up to find that her husband was not at the pillow, so she planned to get up and look for him. But then she saw that the curtains were fluttering, the screens were open, and the flowerpot was on the ground again, and she had a bad premonition in her heart, so she called a friend and asked him to help find someone.
At first, the friend also advised Liu Xuehua to rest assured, saying that the eldest brother may have gone out for a walk. But Liu Xuehua was still worried that if the window was open, it would not fall. The friend waved his hand and said it was impossible, but under the persuasion of Liu Xuehua, he still went downstairs to have a look.
When he returned, his friend Livid's face said it all.
This unforeseen departure, as if it were a joke made by Heaven, made all this lose its reality.
For a long time, Liu Xuehua did not believe that her husband had really left him. In order to get rid of the panic and floating feeling brought about by this unreality, she kept filming, and the images of The Princess de in "Gong Suo Xin Yu" and the empress dowager in "The Biography of Zhen Huan" were shaped during this period.
In the subsequent interview, Liu Xuehua also told this experience many times, but every time he spoke, he confirmed that her husband had been separated from his yin and yang.
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Impermanence is cruel, but life always has to go on.
Although Liu Xuehua was born in Beijing, she moved with her family to Hong Kong at the age of 5, and Hong Kong is her true hometown.
Maybe she likes the living environment in Shanghai, or maybe she and her husband's good memories are left in Shanghai, Liu Xuehua did not return to Hong Kong to live with her brothers and sisters, but chose to stay in Shanghai alone, which is nearly 10 years.
Although she has a driver and a nanny, she still has two puppies on weekdays to alleviate her loneliness and loneliness.
Since marrying Deng Yukun, Liu Xuehua has gradually faded out of the public's vision, although it appears frequently in popular TV series, but the public's attention is mainly focused on the male and female protagonists with traffic.
It wasn't until she recently participated in a variety show called "Summer of the Eaves" that she rekindled widespread public discussion.
For Liu Xuehua, who has experienced so many ups and downs and is a bit "socially afraid", it is a big step to be able to truly present her life to the audience and be willing to experience life with strange young people.
What surprised the audience even more was that her life resonated with many people. Su Yan played with the tablet, nestled in the corner of the sofa to watch TV, watched sleepy and directly lay down to sleep, and went out just to walk the dog. After learning that the trip was canceled, he circled around the living room like a child.
This "home and waste" performance, let netizens call out too grounded, and even some netizens said, isn't this just me? And some bullet screens say, I seem to see my life after retirement.
On the other side of these laughs, however, is loneliness, monotony and estrangement from the times.
The TV is turned on 24 hours a day, the phone is fixed at 9 o'clock every day with my sister, sitting on the sofa playing mahjong games, taking a nap, continuing to play games or watching TV...
She seems to be used to repeating this monotonous life, and when others want to teach her something new, or when strangers want to communicate with her, she will subconsciously refuse.
Maybe it's because of experience and personality, but it's more out of a kind of self-preservation. Although life is boring now, it is at least within my control, which is the same mentality as many empty nesters and "socially fearful" young people.
And the most debilitating sentence is, "I'm afraid that no one will know after I die."
Loneliness is a compulsory subject for each of us, many old people and young people who live alone, they have their own hobbies, their own way of life, so they do not feel lonely, even enjoy loneliness, they are not afraid of loneliness, they are not afraid of death, but they are afraid of being forgotten.
As it is said in the movie "Dream Quest": "The real death is no one in the world who remembers you."
We are afraid of rushing through the world and leaving nothing behind, so we work hard to achieve something, or try to socialize so that more people know and remember ourselves.
But what really leaves a mark is only sincere emotion.
Parents will grow old, children will grow up, friends will form their own families, no one can accompany anyone to the end, but as long as the heart cares about each other, even if they are thousands of miles apart, they will feel incomparably warm.
Although Liu Xuehua's husband left him due to an accident, the love between them has not disappeared, and his relatives in Hong Kong are also Liu Xuehua's strong backing.
The show "Summer of eaves" provides a platform for the elderly and young people living alone to establish emotional connections and concerns with each other.
La Hongsang and Liu Yun will accompany Liu Xuehua out, taking her to experience new things and also bringing her a sense of security; in turn, Liu Xuehua will also chat with them about gossip and emotional matters, and the three of them will live together like a girls' dormitory.
The elderly in the other two groups of families will also take young people to experience their hobbies and understand their lives.
When we get along with our relatives and friends, we can properly put down the work and messages in the mobile phone and sit down to eat a good meal. Now the Internet is also very developed, and I can chat with them on video, listen to interesting things in their lives, and share my experience with them.
Therefore, companionship is mutual, and warmth is also mutual giving.
Words like "often go home to see and spend more time with our parents" may be another way of saying: "Let our parents accompany us more."