"I only wore your dress in the morning, it's too bright."
"How can it be vivid?
This is a popular dress, and middle-aged people just shouldn't be associated with the trend?"
A middle-aged woman walks down the street in bright clothes and is looked at, but she doesn't care.
The friends around me said angrily: "You can't go to a friend's house like this, isn't it not good?"
However, she herself thinks: "It's not about meeting parents, it's polite, I can't be too depressed."
It is also a common thing in life for middle-aged women to be looked at by passers-by wearing bright clothes, which often attracts a lot of criticism.
However, in this society, must we no longer dress up beautifully and dress younger?
Youthful aesthetic standards.
In terms of aesthetics, our society has not known when the aesthetic pursuit of "youthfulness" has become popular.
Mature woman is an extremely rich word, and to some extent even a word with positive colors, reflecting the elegant atmosphere and attractiveness of women after maturity.
Although the term mature woman was brought to China by some Japan film and television works, it has been widely circulated on the Internet and has become a cultural phenomenon.
For example, in recent years, mature woman photos that have become popular on the Internet have been popular among the public for showing the advantages of mature women in the photos.
This kind of photo often shows the elegant charm and delicate image of a mature woman, which has caused a trend of imitation among many young people.
This also reflects a phenomenon: more and more young women are beginning to realize the appeal of the mature image and strive to embrace the unique charm of maturity, so as to break away from the current popular aesthetic trend of girls.
In pursuit of this epidemic, many women even sacrifice their health, which is worrying.
However, the connotation of the term in our society is not as positive as it is elsewhere.
In a sense, middle age is a stage that is no longer neutral, but is gradually and clearly defined as aging and declining.
This obscure presupposition puts a lot of pressure on to struggle to cater to an expectation that is considered reasonable.
Mature women need to "avoid symmetry" and "get in shape" in order to regain their health and attractiveness.
Mature women are forced to incorporate the neologism of today's pop culture, makeup, weight loss, diet-conscious, etc., in order to become a high-profile presence.
In public, there is a decreasing number of, who spend most of their time hiding at home or at work to avoid being judged by others.
This also causes to gradually lose confidence in themselves, as they have little chance to show their true charm and style.
Why should a endure such a helpless and tragic fate?
In fact, this phenomenon stems from society's disapproval and denial of the image of mature women.
The influence of youthful aesthetics.
This bias has its roots in a number of aspects, including history, culture, and society.
For example, in many cultures, once a woman reaches middle age, she is seen as declining, no longer having the attractiveness and fertility of youth.
This perception has led to multiple aspects of discrimination against, who are constantly pandering to an unfair standard in order to seek recognition and respect.
In order to cater to this expectation, tend to ignore their own needs and desires, abandon their preferences and personalities in order to deliberately imitate fashion trends.
As we mentioned earlier, in the plot, the middle-aged lady felt that she was wearing a bright color, but the person next to her said, "Such a bright color is not suitable for you to wear."
Because the "bright" color itself is easy to make people look at it twice, and it is easy to attract the attention of passers-by.
Therefore, it is often easy to attract discussions from others, such as "is it a color that young people like",
But if they choose more "calm" shades such as black and gray, it will not be so eye-catching.
However, in my opinion, can we not break this boundary?
Can't a woman choose a dress with bright colors and her own aesthetics?
Even though she is middle-aged, there is nothing wrong with choosing her favorite color according to her own preferences, right?
Can it just be black and gray forever?
As a result, many fashion brands have to cater to this stereotype, selling products that fit this fashion trend, rather than focusing on the strengths and charms that are unique to mature women.
This kind of commercial interest stimulated the general recognition of youthful aesthetics in society, and gradually evolved into a kind of blind faith.
We can see that in European and United States countries, women over 70 years old still wear fashionable clothes to go out.
They know that growing old does not mean declining, and beauty can accompany them throughout life.
With the exception of a few exceptions such as celebrities, most middle-aged and older women are dressed loosely to hide their gradually out-of-shape body curves, and popular colors choose black, dark blue and other shades to cater to the "aesthetic standard" of "maturity".
At the same time, the accessories are also greatly reduced, emphasizing simplicity but not giving people a sense of refinement.
Under such a concept, why should people be able to retain their own cognition and pursuit of life and beauty?
Self-confidence is the best coat.
The so-called "self-confidence is the best coat", the appearance of the dress is naturally to pay attention to the decent, but there are not too many rigid rules in terms of clothing style, and the clothing style is not very in line with the mainstream aesthetics, and it should not be biased and criticized.
Self-confidence is actually a sense of inner identity that is fed back through dressing, and it is because of one's self-confidence that one uses a certain color system or what style, which is the most real and down-to-earth side, and the most comfortable side of personalization for the public.
Words like "passively catering to the mainstream aesthetics of society" are not uncommon, which reflects a phenomenon: many middle-aged women have to give up their individuality and pursuits in order to avoid criticism, and polish themselves into a "safe" existence.
They dress ordinarily, don't mess around, but never think about what they really want.
They often say, "I've lived to this age, what else can I do?"
In fact, there are many reasons why they give up on themselves, including social pressures, family responsibilities, and self-perception.
However, this does not mean that they do not have the desire to pursue beauty, but they lack the courage to break through the shackles of age, and at the same time bear the eyes of others.
The gaze of the public has always been prejudiced.
Unlike public figures, they have chosen a path and, as such, have to bear the side of judgment that comes with it.
But why should ordinary people in life bear this criticism?
Dressing up is just a search for a better aesthetic in life, but it should not be a burden in life.
Beauty should be a vassal in life, not one of the important criteria for judging people, self-confidence is naturally a part of beauty, and the shortcomings in the eyes of others cannot have an impact on anything, this is what should not happen.
Of course, self-confidence should come from the heart, if you don't have self-confidence in your heart, what kind of clothes do you wear and what kind of style, what's the point?
Self-identity has nothing to do with the evaluation of others, self-identity is self-recognition, and the evaluation of others, for itself, is just a pastime after tea and dinner, and it has no meaning in itself.
Write at the end
Dressing confidently and without distinction of age, but the public sees it as a burden, is a problem of society, not of their abilities and choices.